I just turned 14 and have a terrible relatioship w/ my parents. They belive in discipline,I got harsh punishhments the few times I messed up. Sidetracked friends, coming home late, stuff most teens do once in their lives. Now I have a good head, even in my parents opinion. Actually, I'm doing good or great in everything and feel fine. I dont hide I don't like my parents. I'm polite but without giving them reasons to punish I show this. This doesn't annoy them, they feel like winners cause they have power, punished me, made me suffer. They don't like me, just want to be proud of me without considering if Im happy or not. I like children and work w/ some in volunteering actvities. Saturday there´ll be a small party, those lovely children want to thank the teens who help them. A simple but kinda touching thing I know they have something for me. This is very important to me and my parents. They know about the party, but I wont invite them and may even ask them not to come. Does this hurt
2006-09-04 09:42:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anabela 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The parents of the other teens will probably y come. I just wana show my parents I don't like them, resent what they did and have my principles
2006-09-04 09:43:06 · update #1
You are evil. It's very unfortunate that you don't see that discipline comes from love. If they didn't love you, they'd let you do whatever you wanted, and let you turn into a downtown prostitute or poll dancer. But they are doing their best, and you're too self absorbed to notice. But don't worry, they'll have their full revenge on you when you have an evil little brat yourself.
2006-09-04 09:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of 14 year old teen dont get along with their parents, I didn't when I had you age, I think is the teen hormones. I just have some advice for you¨: if you keep acting childish you will be treated like a child, if you act like a growing up lady they will see that you are actually maturing and may cut you some slack. That's what I realized and worked for me. Don't make a dramma about all this, I'm sure your parents do like you, love you and care about you, I used to think the same and now (25) i have the best relation with them. If you keep feeling bad talk to them, tell them how you feel and you can work things out. This is not a game of who has most power, and probably they will have their way. Try to be smart about it and find a solution. Your parents will be hurt if you ask them not to go to the party, and they will keep thinking that you are a little brat that needs a big punishment for being like that to those who give you money, feed you and buy you stuff,
2006-09-04 10:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times part of growing up and becoming an adult is learning how to deal with others, despite of the fact that you dislike them, even if it is your parents. To waste your time proving to them that you dislike them, I really do not see how in any way that benefits YOU. I would understand you living on your own and not being a burden on them and being able to support yourself financially without their help, then you can invite and dis-invite them to any event YOU choose... As you no longer HAVE to deal with them., but right now, you are probably living with them and YOU need them, they provide food in your plate, the clothing that you wear, etc.,, they do not need YOU., so why make it worse??? That is just being childish, if you really do have a good head on shoulders as you claim, then you invite them, and let them see with their own eyes, that YOU did something that others appreciate and that YOU could make a difference in others because you are not a failure... I would show them that even though they thought that I was ******* up, I am not and that when I put my mind to achieve I DO!!! This would be my time to SHINE!!! - - - The worst punishment to parents is to see that the child that they thought would be a "loser", ends up achieving what they wanted and that they are a big success and show them that you learned from their wrong doings and that you did not accomplish things because of their punishments but because YOU chose the life you wanted... and the sooner you are able to graduate and find a job and get your own place and that will be that!!
2006-09-04 09:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am answering this as a "Mommy" that walked a mile in your shoes!...... Invite them! If it weren't for your parents being a pain in the @ss would you be where you are today??? Yeah, we can be a real pain in the butt....BUT it is usually because we do not want to see the best part of ourselves making any ANY mistakes.....especially those that we may have made ourselves! Good Luck and honey, invite them! It will show EVERYONE that you have class and dignity and grace and deserve respect from everyone, including your parents! Good luck!
2006-09-04 10:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by MaHaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that just makes you the bad guy. then the'll have a reason to justify thier dislike of you, there duaghter. I feel sorry for you. What you can do is find a good friends family, and spend most of your time with them, if they care for you. Make sure you have get your college plans and finances done earlyish, too. Usually, It's one of your parents that's influencing the other to not care for you. Talk to each of your parents seperatly, and you should be able to determine which one is the ******. then takes steps with your good parent and your friends family to shield your self from thier abuse. C.
2006-09-04 10:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you are doing things most teens do and your parents are just doing what most parents have to do.
I'm 16 and yeah, it sucks when your parents get in the way. But I've done WAAY worse than you and I still love them and know they mean best.
I've changed for the better thanks to them and let me tell you, revenge is NEVER sweet.
No one can make this decision for you, so do what you must, but just remember, every kid goes through it, as does each parent. They have problems too - it's different, but sucky none the less.
Good luck with whatever you do.
:) Adelaide
2006-09-04 10:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. It may hurt their feelings, but in the long run i'm sure your parents really love you and like you and want what is best for you. Although you don't see it now you will in the future. Invite them. You might be surprised!
2006-09-04 09:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by tnicb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it will hurt them. Maybe they do care why dont you sit down and talk with them. Tell them how you feel and tell them you dont want to feel like that but you have no choice for the ways they treated u
2006-09-04 09:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by skaterchickie101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being dramatic. My parents were really strict, too, and now, years later, I am SO glad they were. I didn't get pregnant, I graduated from high school and college (and a Master's degree to boot...), got a good job, and now have a decent career, marriage and 3 kids of my own. I owe part of all of my success to those strict parents. Don't be as mean to them as you feel they are being to you. Sit down and have a logical adult talk with them about your feelings. Don't act childish about it all.
2006-09-04 09:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it's time to grow up and stop being dumb there not gonna care if you invite them or not they might find out from someone elses parents and be angry at you if there not invited but that sounds so childish not inviting your parents they are the ones who cloth you and feed you and put food in your stomach
2006-09-04 09:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋