well , few years ago i had this best friend . she was like so sweet and she looked at me as if i was her roll model in everything .. we enjoyed alot together , and since she had no sisters, she said i was hers ... everything i did was magical she said , so once i found out that she talked to my boyfriend since they were from the same village and i dropped him for that , she said he asked about me , and he talked about me .. i dont care about the guy anymore , i left him and her too ,
i got married to my dear wounderful husband , its after 3 years from that accident , and i met her in friend's wedding , she came to me and said she as sorry for all those things she did, and that she wants me back and i senssed a change that i havent seen b4 , a true appology , atrue caring , a true everything , since she got married too we had a lot to talk about .. so .... we kind of got back on track , am i doing the right thing >? it feels great to be friends again, but should i trust her again
2006-09-04 09:29:41 · 9 answers · asked by delayla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well more information , it was more than talking , she stole my boy friend , went out together saying she never ment to hurt me .... it was more than just talking .... i ment like real dates with long phone calls , that is not suposed to be with ur friend and boy friend ... no isnt that not normal ???
2006-09-04 09:46:13 · update #1
That's very kind of you to be forgiving, not just to her but for yourself (not to carry that anger with you anymore) but now you have worry and it is up to you it is worth it just to be friends. Yes this person could've changed and you wouldn't need to worry at all if you trust your husband. If you both have a solid relationship there is nothing that she could do to interfere short of soap opera tactics. I have personally tried to forgive a specific friend for the same reasons as above and each time I have asked myself why I did that and it never worked out but yours still could. Use your intuition and best judgement and decide if it is worth it. Remember, hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me...
2006-09-04 09:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by wtrmlnqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should trust her again. Guys come and go when you are just dating but friends forever stay. Never loose a great friend over a guy. Its not worth it gurl. Also you are also married now and I am sure that you can leave all that behind and start over.
2006-09-04 16:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Laney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, u might have 2 gain her trust back 1st. After youve talked 2 her 4 a while, see if u think she's a changed person..and go with what your heart says. Hope i helped...
2006-09-04 16:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by Da Future#1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the change in her it must be a change that only a true friend can feel. I think that you are doing the right thing but only time will tell, you should just try your hardest to make it work and if it doesn't then you will know how to treat her afterwords.
2006-09-04 16:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by freak-show 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already answered your own question U say It feels good 2 b friends again...It seems a bit harsh to drop both of them for "talking" 2 each other?! I trust you have grown up a bit and are trustworthy and able to be a 'Friend" yourself.
2006-09-04 16:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by red heads ha! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just, none of it makes since. Why dump your boyfriend just cause he talked to a friend of yours? A pretty lame reason to dump someone. Good your married, just hope he never talks to anyone else. I don't see what she did that you don't trust her. Two people talking is normal, unless they slept together and your not saying.
2006-09-04 16:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by creeklops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's something to move slowly with -- we get older and wiser, maybe she truly realizes what she did and wants to reconnect with her 'sister'.
2006-09-04 16:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by leannainpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was and is no friend.
2006-09-04 17:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not
2006-09-04 16:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by ssgtusmc3013 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋