2006-09-04 09:29:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im very attracted to him but he wants every day i like less often but more memorable
2006-09-04 09:32:52 · update #1
tell him i'm not in the mood right now baby!!!! heck, when i'm in the mood and he isn't, he just tells me not now baby!
2006-09-04 09:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'll probably feel rejected no matter what you tell him (I would).
I have two suggestions. The first one will require some creativity on your part. You say you like it memorable, right? That tells me you like it to be romantic and probably with lots of foreplay. Just make him work for it to the point where it's too much trouble to ask for it everyday! Give it to him just right, and he won't know the difference.
Or, you could offer a compromise. Just don't tell him it's a compromise. Keep control for yourself. During a convenient time of the day for you, offer him or just give him a masterful bj or seduce him into a quickie. When he just gets home from work or while he's watching the news or something is probably a good time. It'll only take a few minutes and you've gotton him off your back 'till the next time he's ready to give you what you want.
2006-09-04 17:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't manipulate him, don't be defensive, don't make him feel like a pervert or like he's "bothering" you. Be straightforward and say, "Sweetie, I'm not in the mood right now."
On the other hand, it might not hurt for you to take responsibility for your own piece of this...you don't want to put him off too much. Have you considered the possibility that you might be more responsive if you took the time to show him what you like in bed? A lot of guys need guidance when it comes to sex. If it would be better for you if he spent more time on foreplay, you need to make sure he knows what foreplay is!! And make sure he knows that THAT'S what it's going to take to get you in the mood.
2006-09-04 17:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you lots of luck. I have this problem too...I have tried being nice and then had to be not so nice when telling hubby that I am not in the mood every single day...I have even tried compromising...hubby says he feels rejected and then makes nasty comments to me all the time....or gets pushy other times. I don't think there is a nice way period.
2006-09-04 17:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by Veryconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, obviously you are one of those gals who think that we have to do it just because the guy wants it. Well, GET REAL. You have feelings, too! Just tell him that you don't want to have sex that much. What is the big deal? It is a two way street. You are a human being, not a blow up doll. If you are THAT scared of telling him how you feel, then you two don't have anything going for you. Just try TENDER HONESTY.
2006-09-04 16:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is you're husband, Say oh honey, I Love you, I don't want you to feel bad but i'm really not in the mood tonight.
If he is Not your husband. Say Good By.
Don't let him use you and then leave you. If sex is his one and only, then you are not. He will leave you when he's ready for something new.
If he is your husband and he loves you. He will understand.
Otherwise he is not making love to you which is giving of him self. He is taking from you for his own selfish reasons.
Sex without marriage is just not a good idea.
2006-09-04 16:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by Deena 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best way.
Inform him that you are attracted to him and enjoy the sex but that you'd rather have it every other day to make it more enjoyable and memorable rather than an everyday thing where it gets boring.
And, if that's what you are afraid of; there are always ways to spicen up the sex!
2006-09-04 16:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have the right to say no. If he is feeling awful about it, he either has real low self esteem which you cannot fix, or he is trying to make you feel guilty about saying no. Wow, it never stops amazing me the way people manipulate others to get every little thing they want. good luck.
2006-09-04 16:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband is in the mood and I'm not, i ask him for a rain check. It's polite and gives him the idea that it will still be coming to him just not tonight. Gives him something to look forward to.
2006-09-04 16:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be in the mood even when you are not, after a while, you will feel the heat too and both will enjoy it!
2006-09-04 16:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by rollodecriente 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi, I am a man and i know there is no way you can say it that he wont feel bad.Try as much as possible to go along with the flow.Its better he wants it this much from you.There are lots of hawks waiting outside to give it to him.Help him not to stray from home.I am sure as time goes on he will slow down gradually.Cheers
2006-09-04 16:37:34 · answer #11 · answered by Alot-in-crisis 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋