I still love him and want to be with him I just don't know what he feels about it. He says that him and the girl he is suppose to be with are not together anymore I am scared to tell him how i feel about him because of what he said when we got in an argument before. he said i was jealous of her because he doesn't want to be with me what should I do coming from some out there who could really answer tis question?
2006-09-04 09:02:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are wrong to NOT allow HIS CHILD to stay with him, just because he doesn't want to be with you anymore..The relationship is over--get over it.. Thats why so many chiildren today end up in juvie hall and running the streets at 13---because so many "baby momma's" wont allow the father to spend time with their own kids..He is your child's Father--period. LET HIM SPEND TIME WITH HIS CHILD.
You put yourself in this situation of being a Baby Momma--so now you have to deal with it.
Peace
2006-09-04 09:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have a three year old and a five year old. this is a difficult situation. I would say that you need to let your baby go with him. He deserves a father even if you don't think his father deserves him. Now even if he is with someone else it's not up to you. I know that it sucks hearing that but the child took two to make and one of them are being unfair. If you love him, tell him. But even if he doesn't return that love don't keep his baby away just in spite. You are a great mother I can tell or you wouldn't be so picky, but be a great person as well, if the child isn't in danger let the father have him/her for visitation. You will get a long needed break and the father can build a healthy relationship with his child. How would you feel if you couldn't have a relationship with one of your parents, not because you didn't want one, or the parent didn't want one but because the one you were with was being selfish. See what I'm saying? You keep up the safety watch but let that boy see his child.
2006-09-04 16:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by barbara_taylor17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This basically comes down to what do you really want? Do you trust him enough to get back together again or will something else happen all over? It sounds like you two have some serious issues to resolve before even thinking about trying to rebuild. Now if his name is on the birth certificate, you can sue him for child support but that also entitles him to visitation rights. IF you feel scared to the point where you cant tell him how you feel, you two dont stand a chance. Its up to you.
2006-09-04 16:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has told you he doesn't want to be with you. He probably, though, enjoys the ego boost from knowing you will be hanging around, ready to take any crumbs he throws your way.
How is your child supposed to learn that a man sticks by his woman when they make a child? How is your child supposed to learn that you are important, mom, when you go chasing after a guy who consistently tells you you are not?
Have you thought through what you will be exposing your baby to by your continuing to be involved with this man? Your job, even if no parent did it in your family line before, is to give your child a nice atmosphere full of people with character - and that means people who make babies only with people they love and are committed to.
It sounds like it's time to move on emotionally - or at least act in a way that makes it look like you have. Fake it till you make it!
If he wants visitation, get supervised visitation only, until your child is ready to leave mommy's side, like around 5 for day time, 8 or 9 for overnnight. And then only without you if your child will be exposed to good situations, respect for you and your child.
2006-09-04 16:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him see the baby when he wants to, that could bring you guys a little closer who knows, But you cannot keep from seeing the child ( depending on if he is a molester or something like that then I understand he cannot see the child)...
If I was you I would tell him how you feel and if he wants to get back with you then he will but don't be afraid to let him know that you still care...
2006-09-04 16:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Daisy_Duke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why want you let him see the baby, or are you saying that he wants to keep your child? And if he told you before that he doesn't want to be with you, why do you want to be with him. See that's how a lot of woman get bet down because they don't know how to leave well enough alone.
2006-09-04 16:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by swilliams63@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about this spend time together and let him take care of the child if he does you really should let him care for your child and if you spend time together you may fall in/back in love and raise that child correct
2006-09-04 16:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by philliesmeyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋