My friend has been living with me for a while and we agreed that she would pay a certain amount for rent. Due to financial difficulties, she was unable to pay. Now that she is getting back on her feet she has started making plans for what she is going to do with her extra money each month, but paying me is not in the budget. It will be a year in a couple of months, what do I do?
2006-09-04 08:59:00 · 13 answers · asked by tmitchell912 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Assertiveness, my friend is what you need to practice.
It is not very uncommon to not speak about what you feel. You've got to take the lead here and talk about this issue. You may want to try beginning a conversation like this.."I am glad that you are able to get back on track and making plansfor the extra money you earn. I am wondering if you think it is the right time for us to talk about honouring your words to pour in your share in the rent?"
If you don't talk about it now, this might get painful. You may starting nourishing grudges which you expect your friend to understand naturally (and s/he may not, as s/he may not even be aware of it) and this will definately not be a very good part of your relationship.
Don't delay. Just give it a try....
2006-09-04 09:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by Umang Taneja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paying you is not in the budget huh? Well, you really need to talk to her and just tell her that you did her a favor because she had fell on hard times and that is what friends do, but now that she is back on her feet it is time for the bills to be split 50/50.
2006-09-04 09:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by gee-geeofmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't skip around it just tell her to her face that she needs to start paying some more rent bacause you noticed that she is now financially stable and you need some help with the rent. Or something like that.
2006-09-04 09:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sexybups 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and talk to her and let her know that since she is financially stable that you need her to help pay half of the bills and thats the agreement that the two of you have made.tell her that you can't handle all the bills and that she needs to help you or neither one of you are going to have anywhere to live.if she can't do that then she needs to find somewhere else to stay and you find a new roommate. just because she is your friend don't let her take advantage of you. if you don't say anything it is going to continue and you want have a place to live and she will have money saved up from not helping you pay bills and get her a place and just dump you.
2006-09-04 09:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by nurse2011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need tosit your friend down and tell her straight out! Give her the option of either start paying rent or plan on moving out! If she tried to give you "I though we were friends" line or some other BS like that, then maybe she's not really a friend!
2006-09-04 09:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by axlman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the agreement was that she would pay rent to you then you have to get a backbone and straight out tell her to start paying rent or get out and find herself a different place to live that she can no longer live off you scott free.
2006-09-04 09:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight up and honest sit her down without any thing else on for distractions and just be upfront and honest. If she starts freaking out then it is time to part ways because a true friend would never mooch off of a friend and would always be willing to pay their part!!
2006-09-04 09:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by Robert V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront her ASAP.
If you don't, she probably won't and will continue to feel that she can live off of you.
Do it nicely. Explain to her that it has been somewhat of a struggle for you to pay for the living expenses of 2 people and that now that she is getting paid she can make a contribution.
If you know her paid date, tell her that you need her portion by such and such a date.
If she feels this is unreasonable, then u need to cut girlfriend loose before she drains u dry.
2006-09-04 09:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by hotsista0201 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what you should do!
you:aah im having money problems
friend: oh really?
you: yeh i need to be serious with you, you said you would help out with the rent with me its nearly been a year, i cant manage on my own for paying it. i dont want you to go and all that jazz, but just asking if its possible you can help me out with the rent like you said capiche?
friend: oh yeh sure!
you: *smug smile whaaaaaaay*
2006-09-04 09:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by flint eastwood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn that you are a fool. Did she sign the lease? If she did then she should have to submit her own check. If not, then the apartment is your responsibility -- in which case you are most likely breaking your lease by having another "mate" in the place beyond said "visitor" standards.
2006-09-04 09:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋