hmmmmm. i need help please?

Question

Ok i had sex with my boyfriend and he used a condom and the sex wasn't long at all but the condom spilt open inside of me while he was cumming but see he told me it didn't shoot out it just like leaked out, and i'm only 15 i had my last period like a month ago i guess mine started in the middle of the month and like after i found out the condom broke i didnt even flinch, i just fell down crying my eyes out. and i was walking around alot and after the sex i was standing up and someone told me that i couldnt get pregnant if i stand up after sex. And this happened like 3 days ago and ronnie (my boyfriend) told his mom and his mom got me the morning after pill but my mom would let me take it cause it might kill me cause i'm small.
I dont keep track on my periods neither because i know when i'm going too start a day before my period but sometimes it skips and someone told having a period at the age can get funny. People are saying thereS A 98% chance i'm not pregnant.
me (9/4/2006 10:45:27 AM): hi i'm brittany s from yahoo answers
sam (9/4/2006 10:45:34 AM): hi
Sam (9/4/2006 10:45:43 AM): hope i didnt offent you
Sam (9/4/2006 10:45:47 AM): offend
me (9/4/2006 10:45:51 AM): no you didnt.
me (9/4/2006 10:46:21 AM): my boyfriends mom got me the morning after pill but my mom wont let me take it
Sam (9/4/2006 10:46:49 AM): thats not good hun, does your mum want to be a granny
Sam (9/4/2006 10:47:14 AM): or are you RC in faith
me (9/4/2006 10:47:41 AM): she wouldnt mind, but see my boyfriend doesnt think i'll get pregnant and same with my mom
Sam (9/4/2006 10:48:11 AM): OK then lets see
Sam (9/4/2006 10:48:20 AM): when was your period
me
me (9/4/2006 10:48:31 AM): like a month ago
me (9/4/2006 10:48:46 AM): it was like in the middle of the month
sam (9/4/2006 10:49:12 AM): Have you marked in your diary the date of the start
me (9/4/2006 10:49:58 AM): not really i dont keep track because i can feel it when i'm gonna start and i start spotting a few days before my period
Sam (9/4/2006 10:50:29 AM): OK how soon after your period did the 'accident' happen
me (9/4/2006 10:51:16 AM): this happened like 3 days ago and my period stopped like 6 weeks ago or a month ago
Sam (9/4/2006 10:51:45 AM): are your periods regular?
me (9/4/2006 10:52:15 AM): it really depends sometimes it skips a month or a few days
Sam (9/4/2006 10:52:30 AM): can I ask what age you are
me (9/4/2006 10:52:37 AM): i'm 15
Sam (9/4/2006 10:52:55 AM): Thats fine they can be a bit funny at that age
Sam (9/4/2006 10:53:28 AM): by this rekoning then you could be due one about now
me (9/4/2006 10:53:48 AM): what my period?
Sam (9/4/2006 10:53:51 AM): yes
me (9/4/2006 10:54:24 AM): i'm really worried when i found out the condom broke i started crying
me (9/4/2006 10:55:44 AM): i was looking all the up on the net and it says if your very active then you wont be pregnant on most chances, and my boyfriend said i'm too small too have a kid and i'm not delveped yet
Sam (9/4/2006 10:56:53 AM): the situation is this, at the time of your period you are least fertile, this means days before, during and after your period there is very little chance for you to be pregnant
Sam (9/4/2006 10:57:26 AM): If you have a period in the next few days then you are not pregnant.
Sam (9/4/2006 10:58:08 AM): a woman is most feritle during ovulation, this is about 10 days from the end of the last period
Sam (9/4/2006 10:59:19 AM): basically near the mid poind between two periods is when you most fertile
me(9/4/2006 10:59:30 AM): ok
Sam (9/4/2006 10:59:55 AM): outside this the chances of getting pregnant are at the lowest, very low infact
Sam (9/4/2006 11:00:02 AM): is this helping?
me (9/4/2006 11:00:11 AM): yes
me (9/4/2006 11:00:33 AM): so theres like a 90% chance i wont get pregnant
Sam (9/4/2006 11:01:25 AM): if your period is due about now then yes the chances are 98%
Sam (9/4/2006 11:02:01 AM): You will be really glad when this one does come!!
me (9/4/2006 11:03:03 AM): yeah i know =] ronnie (my bf) said theres a 15% chance i'll get pregnant
Sam (9/4/2006 11:03:17 AM): is he older
me (9/4/2006 11:03:25 AM): yeah
me (9/4/2006 11:03:27 AM): hes 17
Sam (9/4/2006 11:03:47 AM): I persume your mum is miffed with you
me (9/4/2006 11:03:58 AM): miffed?
Sam (9/4/2006 11:04:03 AM): not happy
me (9/4/2006 11:04:41 AM): inside she really isnt with the whole sex thing but him being 17 isnt really all that bad
Sam (9/4/2006 11:05:09 AM): what about his mun
me(9/4/2006 11:06:01 AM): she really does care as long as i'm not pregnant shes fine i guess but she is the one who got me the morning after pill
me (9/4/2006 11:06:11 AM): *doesnt
Sam (9/4/2006 11:06:32 AM): she seems to be more forward thinking
Sam (9/4/2006 11:06:45 AM): are you in the USA
me (9/4/2006 11:06:54 AM): yes
Sam (9/4/2006 11:08:29 AM): the morning after pill needs to be taken within 120 hours of sex, (that is 5 days) if you take it, it can upset you a little cause it is a high dose pill
me (9/4/2006 11:09:14 AM): hmmmmmmmm can we talk on the phone about this if thats cool with you
Sam (9/4/2006 11:09:37 AM): to be totally safe I think you should chat to your bf's mum. and explain that your mum wont let you take it..
Sam (9/4/2006 11:09:45 AM): i'm in the UK
me (9/4/2006 11:09:56 AM): ohhh lol
me (9/4/2006 11:10:06 AM): ronnies mom understands
me (9/4/2006 11:10:26 AM): mom wont let me take it because it can kill me
me (9/4/2006 11:10:40 AM): i'm 5 foot and i'm 106 pounds
Sam (9/4/2006 11:12:01 AM): A GP can advise on this for sure, but that sounds fine for your height and age
Sam (9/4/2006 11:13:59 AM): I can't see how it would kill you, thousands of them are taken by women every day.
me (9/4/2006 11:14:18 AM): yeah i know but my mom thinks it will kill me, she trying too ruin my life
Sam (9/4/2006 11:14:37 AM): Are you athletic, (fit), that is do you take regular exercise
me (9/4/2006 11:15:23 AM): i guess you can say fit i exercise like almost everyday
Sam (9/4/2006 11:15:57 AM): then it doesn't sound like a problem
Sam (9/4/2006 11:16:11 AM): do you or your mother have the tablets at the moment
me (9/4/2006 11:16:51 AM): we have one but my mom isnt really here now
Sam (9/4/2006 11:19:13 AM): If it was me, i would talk it. At 15 i would have too much life ahead of me to be worrying about things. But I can't make the decision for you. This is why I said to talk to your BF's mother and get another one and don't tell your mum you took it
Sam (9/4/2006 11:21:09 AM): I must tell you though about 50% of people who take the pill feel dizzy for a while after
me (9/4/2006 11:22:07 AM): well i might be going too a doctor tomarrow and my mom said if that pill shows up in the blood work shes gonna be mad
Sam (9/4/2006 11:22:46 AM): You will still be within the 120 hour window after then
Sam (9/4/2006 11:23:50 AM): if you can try to get to see the doctor WITHOUT your mum in the room, as this might hinder you from asking any questions you have
Sam (9/4/2006 11:24:40 AM): she might not want this but I feel you should insist, you can then speak freely with the doctor
me (9/4/2006 11:25:27 AM): yeah, but i heard it works greatly within 72 hours
Sam (9/4/2006 11:25:58 AM): its still effective beyond that
Sam (9/4/2006 11:26:07 AM): http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0755.html
me (9/4/2006 11:26:26 AM): true
Sam (9/4/2006 11:26:29 AM): Have i helped at all
me (9/4/2006 11:26:54 AM): yes very much, but i'm still kinda worried that i might get pregnant
Sam (9/4/2006 11:27:20 AM): I think you breath a little easier from what i have heard
Sam (9/4/2006 11:27:37 AM): can i ask who was on top when it happened
me (9/4/2006 11:28:00 AM): my bf
Sam (9/4/2006 11:28:28 AM): did you only realise when he had finished and was pullin out
me (9/4/2006 11:28:49 AM): what do you mean?
Sam (9/4/2006 11:29:09 AM): when did you find out the condom split
me (9/4/2006 11:29:34 AM): after he took it out and was like "oh my god"
me (9/4/2006 11:30:06 AM): i didnt even flinch when i saw that i just fell crying
Sam (9/4/2006 11:31:23 AM): did you lie together long after he came, of did he come out of you more or less straight away after he came
me (9/4/2006 11:32:01 AM): no i was standing up the whole time after
me (9/4/2006 11:32:17 AM): i was crying too much too lay down
Sam (9/4/2006 11:32:35 AM): did any run out of you
me (9/4/2006 11:33:51 AM): then we went too CVS too see if they had any birth control pills but they didnt have any, well like right after the sex and all that like when i walking i felt wetness and i was like what the hell then ronnie said its the sperm coming out of you
Sam (9/4/2006 11:34:45 AM): its possible, though i'm not totally sure
Sam (9/4/2006 11:35:42 AM): thats why i was asking how long he was lying on top of you - after he *** but before he pulled out of your vagina
me (9/4/2006 11:36:27 AM): ohh it wasnt long at all
me (9/4/2006 11:36:46 AM): maybe like 3 to 5mins
me (9/4/2006 11:37:05 AM): after he *** he took it out
me (9/4/2006 11:37:12 AM): like really fast
me (9/4/2006 11:37:45 AM): he was on top of me for 4 mins then he starting cumming then we stopped like a sec later
Sam (9/4/2006 11:37:51 AM): did you get to see the condom
me (9/4/2006 11:38:00 AM): yes
Sam (9/4/2006 11:38:42 AM): was there a split or hole, (was his penis protuding thu the laytex)
me (9/4/2006 11:39:04 AM): it split
Sam (9/4/2006 11:39:51 AM): at the end ot the condom there is spermaside that helps kill the sperm
me (9/4/2006 11:40:21 AM): do they have that for all condoms?
Sam (9/4/2006 11:40:28 AM): yes
Sam (9/4/2006 11:40:41 AM): durex, jiffy etc
me (9/4/2006 11:40:55 AM): ohhh i thought it was for one type of condom
Sam (9/4/2006 11:41:17 AM): apart from the flavoured ones
Sam (9/4/2006 11:41:40 AM): most major brands like durex, jiffy etc have it
me (9/4/2006 11:42:07 AM): what about trogin or however you call it
Sam (9/4/2006 11:42:32 AM): they should have it as well you should be able to check the website
Sam (9/4/2006 11:43:07 AM): i can't understand why it split they are normally so reliable
me (9/4/2006 11:43:16 AM): i know
Sam (9/4/2006 11:44:14 AM): at least you are using them, there are too many silly people not using them
me (9/4/2006 11:45:15 AM): yeah i know thanks, i think ronnie accident put it in wrong like the condom cause he put it on in the dark
Sam (9/4/2006 11:46:04 AM): aww hun, sex in the dark don't sound good
Sam (9/4/2006 11:46:42 AM): well i hope i have helped in some way
me(9/4/2006 11:47:30 AM): you did, so do you think theres a huge chance i'm not gonna be pregnant
Sam (9/4/2006 11:48:04 AM): yea, I hope the period comes soon
Sam (9/4/2006 11:48:35 AM): you let me know how you get on, that is of your mum doesn't send you away to a convent
me (9/4/2006 11:49:06 AM): she wont
me (9/4/2006 11:49:39 AM): shes supporting me really because that night i was crying sooo much this was my 1st time too
me (9/4/2006 11:50:31 AM): and like i learned my lession tho, my mom was like "well if your pregnant your pregnant and fi your not atleast you got a good scare'
Sam (9/4/2006 11:50:52 AM): you mean you were a virgin
me (9/4/2006 11:51:00 AM): yeah
Sam (9/4/2006 11:51:07 AM): aww hun
Sam (9/4/2006 11:51:33 AM): how long were you going out
me (9/4/2006 11:51:44 AM): 3 months and 2 weeks
me (9/4/2006 11:52:02 AM): he wants too marrie me
Sam (9/4/2006 11:52:24 AM): i really how it works out ok
Sam (9/4/2006 11:52:28 AM): hope
Sam (9/4/2006 11:52:52 AM): were you afraid
me (9/4/2006 11:53:26 AM): afraid about what? the condom breaking?
Sam (9/4/2006 11:53:36 AM): no having sex for the first time
me (9/4/2006 11:53:53 AM): kinda
Sam (9/4/2006 11:54:59 AM): can i ask was your hymen broken before this or did it hurt because this was the first time it was broken
Sam (9/4/2006 11:56:13 AM): the reason i am asking is would this have possibley been a contributing factor for the condom splitting
me (9/4/2006 11:57:00 AM): it hurt cause it was my 1st time and it broke

Answer 1

ok so ur probly not pregnant and u got all the info u needed. what is ur question?

Answer 2

standing up will not prevent pregnacy, nor will visiting the bathroom or crossing your fingers. and it doesnt matter what type of way your boyfriend cums either... these are myths - the best way to prevent pregnancy is to educate yourself on the truth of the matter.

its common to have irregular periods when you are young. you say you dont track your periods, you should - all you need to do it draw symbol of some sort in the calendar on the day you start your period. if you have regular monthly periods you will be at your most fertile around 2 weeks after your period started so if you start on the 15th you will be most fertile around the 29th, however this doesnt mean you cant get pregnant at a different time of the month, it just means its less likely.

i am glad to hear that you were using condoms & having one split is an accident is an unfortunate accident - i am sorry for what you are going through right now.

you should have taken that morning after pill, you can take them upto 72 hours after unprotected sex. your size doesnt matter at all - i cant imagine why your mum is against this, it wont kill, you, but may make you feel dizy or sick, if you are sick you need to get another from the doctor - its quite common.

the only thing you can do now to be 100% sure that you dont get pregnant is go to the doctor & have the coil fitted. this is a device that stops an egg implanting into the womb.
good luck.

Answer 3

The only thing I can tell you is to go see your doctor first before taking anything. Your boyfriend's mom is only looking out for her child's well being and not yours or she wouldn't be offering you any type of drug. The morning after pill is a prescribed drug and it is illegal to give someone else a pill prescribed for someone else. Your mom is right in not to let you take it. Go see your doctor and let them know.
Also standing up after having sex has nothing to do with if you get pregnant or not. That is a misconception and you, your mom and your doctor need to have a chat about all the potential hazards now that you are sexually active.
I know this sounds easier than actually doing it but trust me
it will help you in the long run. I had to go thru this with my mom, I was 17 at the time and just graduating from high school.
What made me and my mom feel better was me being on
birth control AND having condoms just in case. I am not saying
you should continue to have sex, that is up to you and how you
feel about it. I stopped because it wasn't worth being scared
that much or that much worry for me and my family even though
I was on birth control. I chose the shots because there was less chance of forgetting (I have a hard time remembering to take
vitamins)

Answer 4

O.K., I did not waste the time reading the IM all the way to the end. I was shaking my head from the beginning, but there was so much in it that was just not right.

First of all, you do not have any "facts" and should definately not have been having sex at 15 with such a lack of information. Do you honestly think that you can't get pregnant because it "leaked" in you and didn't shoot in you, or that if you stand up afterwards you won't get pregnant, or that if you are "small" you won't get pregnant??? You can't really think any of that. You may want to believe it, and hope that it's true (I hope you are not pregnant also, I really do)...but I think you know better.

It is very "Possible" for you to be pregnant. It is possible for you to not be pregnant, also. You need to take a test. If you still don't start your period within a reasonable time, you need to see a doctor, or go to a clinic to get checked.

After that, you need to seriously contemplate whether you should have sex again at such a young age. I don't just mean physically...I also mean mentally. You are not ready.......one day you will be.

Good luck!

Answer 5

First off the morning after pill must be taken within 72 hours (three days) of the 'accident'. Or it wont work (trust me). Women can definately fall pregnant a few days before your period is due. You need to wait a couple of weeks and take a test!

Standing up after sex is just an urban myth that wont stop you getting pregnant, nothing will except the morning after pill which you've left too long to take now hunny. All you can do is wait 2 weeks then take a home test.

Oh and the morning after pill cant kill you, it wouldnt be available easily if that was true

Answer 6

That's great that you are open with your family. And the morning after pill can be hard on your body - all though I really don't see how it would kill you. Just wait it out, If you start getting any symptoms of pregnancy take a home pregnancy test. And keep your Mom posted on this. She'll be your biggest helper.

Answer 7

Possible but not probable that you are pregnant. If he doesn't think you're that developed, why does he want to have sex with you? That coil, (aka IUD), I don't think they put those in at your age or before you have a child already.

Answer 8

Honey, you need to chill out and grow up.

You are probably not pregnant, but of course there is a chance you are if he ejaculated inside you--I don;t care if he shot, leaked, whatever. It really doesn't matter.

Of course he told you he wants to marry you--he wanted to get inside your pants.

You are very young and very naive, and clearly you have a flare for the dramatic. Stop behaving this way and just focus on what's really important, like school, extra curricular activities, and your family. Sex can wait and pregnancy can certainly wait.

If you're not pregnant, I hope this experience scared you enough to keep your legs closed. If you are pregnant, you need to get help from a responsible adult. Good luck, and please don't ruin your life.

Answer 9

I don't read your IM but I still don't know what is your question.