well as i said i left my abusive husband of 16 years who didn't never want me to be anything and accomplish none thing. well he told my friend that i been living with every since i been back from houston that he was going do to protective service and he is going to tell them that i been beatin my children ok if that was the case why didn't he do nonething about it ?but now that i left him he wants to now say something about it ! AND HE SAID THAT HE IS GOING TO TELL MY CASE WORKER WHEN I DO GET ONE THAT I BEEN STEALING MONEY FROM THE GOVERNMENT BECAUSE, I HE SAID THAT HE IS GOING TO TELL THEM THAT HE BEEN LIVING WITH ME FOR THE LAST 16 YEARS AND THAT I DIDN'T REPORT THAT AND WHEN I LEFT HIM I WENT OUT OF STATE AND WAS STILL RECIEVING MONEY HERE IN MICHIGAN ,OKAY I HAD MY GRANT CUT OFF SO THAT I COULD GET IT DOWN WHERE I WAS AT.BUT HE DID STAY WITH ME ON AND OFF AND HE WENT TO PRISON AND JAIL WHILE WE WERE TOGETHER . HE SAID THAT HE WILL DO WHAT HE CAN TO DESTROY ME SO WHAT CAN
2006-09-04 08:57:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
A man who uses threats and who has abused you in the relationship, will sink to all sorts of things to hurt you. Abuse is nothing more than trying to control another person. You have asserted your rights and left him....that would bruise his controlling ego. His power over you is no longer there and he is trying to do whatever he can go get his power back.
If you have done nothing wrong, then you have nothing to fear, but I suggest you see a lawyer and tell him what is going on. You need to get a restraining order out against him.
You talk about having a case worker, so therefore the welfare agency in your state is keeping an eye on you, and I am guessing it is to do with your children's welfare. That will go in your favour if he is trying to tell lies about you. Your case worker can be your friend too. Talk to your case worker, tell him/her what he is threatening, have her document everything you are telling her because if it goes to court, then you will have a strong/professional ally on your side.
This man has controlled you through fear for the majority of your adult life. Cut his strings over you, take away this mans power and get some help, whether it be through legal channels, or going to your case worker. I suggest a counsellor is the best option because they are experienced in these kinds of things and will know the best options you can take.
If you can start looking at him as a coward, your fear will slowly disappear. He is a coward.....a man who only feels important by abusing a woman is the biggest coward there is. He is still abusing you by his threats and it has to stop. You are the only one who can stop him. You need to be strong, and to be strong, you need support....you cannot do this on your own. Muster up as much support as you can.....family/friends and especially professional support. I used to work with victims of abuse, and the very best ally a woman can have, especially if things get out of hand and you have to go to court....is a representative from the Salvation Army....they are very highly regarded and have a lot of resources that may be able to help you out too. There is a lot of help out there for you...maybe the Salvation Army or the Samaritans would be a good way to start.
I wish you all the luck in the world...you have done it tough for so many years. It is now time to move on with your life and put this abusive past where it belongs....in the past. You are an important person in your own right and you do not have to put up with this kind of abuse from anyone.
2006-09-04 09:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just have to tell the truth to your case worker. She is probably quite good at reading people. Knowing who is sincere and who isn't. How old are your children? Your case worker will probably interview them also. They won't tell her you abused them, if you didn't. As far as the money goes, you'll just have to see what happens. He can't be considered a reliable source of information, he is a convict and an abuser. I would say, just be truthful.
He may not do anything. He has an abuser mentality. You aren't there for him to physically abuse you, so now he's probably trying to abuse you mentally and emotionally. He gets his kicks out of making you miserable. Lets hope that he's just all mouth and no action.
2006-09-04 16:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay Strong
2006-09-05 11:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to scare you-unless there is proof, you have nothing to worry about-you could also file a defamation of character/slander suit against the bastard-good luck!
2006-09-08 12:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a woman who is like your man, so it goes both ways.
It cost me well over a $hundred grand, but I got out of it.
2006-09-04 16:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dip Shït 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No comprendo.
2006-09-04 16:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Cullin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome, to a mans game woman !!!!.or you got to do is try your hardest to win !!!
2006-09-04 16:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋