He'll notice a woman a few yards away and make eye contact.
He's attractive so she always looks back. Then she comes his way. He'll find some reason to stall until she gets there. When they meet, they look directly at each other. To me, it doesn't evoke jealousy but I feel disrespected and angry. Yet, he becomes angry and pretends I'm making it up and asks who I'm even talking about. Needless to say, his escapades don't work anymore as far as confusing me but it does cause me to distrust him and it does chip away at our relationship. He never admits and simply waits for me to get over the anger thinking I get over the entire situation bc he has. Am I over-reacting? This is a trust issue to me and, more then that, it's very disrespectful. One man I dated and both men I've been married to have behaved this way. I'm a very attractive woman, thin, and take very good care of myself. Do all men behave this way? Please don't tell me to ignore it. I did that for quite awhile.
2006-09-04 08:51:29 · 10 answers · asked by Alexi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all men behave this way.. and all women do.. maybe not to the same extent.. but I'm sure if you see a very attractive men.. without his shirt on... and is all rip.. you'll look.. men just do it more openly... why don't you take the good side of things he's just looking (it's not because you are on a diet that you can't look at the menu right ?!!!)... and who is he with ? and who does he come home to ? .. YOU... you are jealously.. even if you say you are not... just remember .. he comes to you.. and you only.. he can look at 1000 women.. it's you he decides to be with.. day after day after day.. you should consider yourself very lucky.. and enjoy your time together.. instead of concentrating on the few seconds he makes eye contact with another women... if you don't.. with time.. you will push him away...
good luck !
2006-09-04 08:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon... YOU don't look at other men? You have blinders on? Give it a break. Stop looking for little signs of this and that... you are working yourself into a bad habit called nagging and hen-pecking!
Speak with him for once and for all and leave it alone. If you continue this way, you're going to be seeing things that don't exist! YOU do the same so grow up and learn to live with it or get out of the marriage so you don't go through life making other men miserable for doing the same thing YOU DO.
You dress and wear tight blouses or tight pants to show off, to be looked at and desired... by those not married to you! You enjoy the attention but you're bothered that your man is also looked at and he enjoys the SAME thing YOU enjoy?
Be content with the knowledge that he's YOUR man and that you have something desirable, a man that other women desire but YOU have! Instead of counting your blessings you're looking for faults? Grow up and stop with the b/s contrl games (power games... do you also use p u s s y-power on him?).
You are trying to do to him what possessive men do to women, the same thing! You notice the minutest details of anything and everything wrong he does... do you also do the same with what YOU do wrong? Grow up. Stop the nonsense; otherwise, leave him and find an ugly man no woman wants to look at!
2006-09-04 17:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you shouldn't ignore it, my husband doesn't do that in front of me because he is afraid of me but let me tell you something they all do it no matter what they say, i was blind to my husband behavior but now is different, trust me, it doesn't matter how much you take care of yourself they will always find somebody more attractive to their eyes only because they are men and men are pigs, they would only notice that they made a mistake once they loose the person who has always been there for them they do these things but they do not think about the consecuences, don't let em turn the page on you, what he is doing is totally worng he is disrespecting you like is something normal
2006-09-04 16:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a looong talk with this hubby of yours
The ultimatum is either stop this behavior that is a definite slap in the face of his spouse---0R kick this idiot to the curb!
If he is out window shopping -even in your presence--you can imagine what he is planning later on! Sorry sweetness--I think
you got a true loser there! Best of luck!
2006-09-04 16:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT OVER-REACTING, YOUR FEELINGS ARE LEGITIMATE, AND PERFECTLY UNDERSTANDABLE. BUT THEM AGAIN, I HAVE A GREAT DEAL OF EMPATHY, WHICH YOUR HUSBAND SEEMS TO LACK. YOU SHOULD KNOW THIS BECAUSE YOU ARE SECOND-GUESSING YOURSELF, AND YOUR OWN INTUITION.
YOU MADE A BAD INVESTMENT. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES. SEE THIS AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE, AND ACCEPT LESS CRAP FROM PEOPLE. MOVE ON BEFORE YOU LOSE ALL CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF.
KICK HIM TO THE CURB AND FIND A GUY WHO MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE HIS #1 CHOICE. DUH. THIS GUY IS TOO NARCISSISTIC. IT WILL ALWAYS BE ALL ABOUT HIM. HE WILL NEVER ACCPET YOURS, OR ANY OTHER POINT OF VIEW. THIS HURTS YOU, SO YOU DESERVE BETTER. YOU CAN'T CHANGE OR FIX HIM. JUST GET AWAY FROM HIM. LET HIM BECOME SOMEBODY ELSE'S PROBLEM. FIND A GUY YOU WILL WANT TO BRAG ABOUT....OH, AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE WELL TAKEN CARE OF IN YOUR DIVORCE AGREEMENT.
2006-09-04 16:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trip him...
Ego points = minus 100.
2006-09-04 15:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by YourAnswer... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with your husband and say when you --- or when you say ----, it hurts me and makes me feel ---.
Let him know that it bothers you and that you could return the favor, ask him how he would like it if you did it to him.
2006-09-04 16:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you know and want a divorce.
2006-09-05 04:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like my wife.... It's not our fault, blame the ladies who initiate it.
2006-09-04 15:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
slap him, and kick her a$$
2006-09-04 15:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by ssgtusmc3013 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋