This girl, really nice, things going amazing between us, i sent her a package, we spoke all the time, couldnt respond fast enough to each other...sent her a package of choc and stuff...she says she misses me, and boom, nothing, no contact, nothing. i get an email a week later thats nothing special, and another week goes by and i get another 1, but still no phone call for 3 weeks. whats going on? why do girls do this? i know the answers are going to be a bit subjective. She has just gone off to college, but i always find time for my friends......help me out here, what do i do, do i call? do i just ignore her too? help me out here....What do mind games mean? does it mean they really dont care? is it attention? is it hiding somthing?...and more importantly....what would you do??
2006-09-04 08:49:06 · 11 answers · asked by tommyboy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let me add a brief detail.....she didnt speak to me the week prior to college neither......
2006-09-04 08:55:04 · update #1
PS.....im a second year college undergrad too
2006-09-04 08:56:13 · update #2
So do you stay strong and hold out????? or do you show weakness and call her????
2006-09-04 09:12:32 · update #3
So do you stay strong and hold out play out the game????? or do you show weakness and call her????
2006-09-04 09:16:22 · update #4
I woud suggested that you call her to see what's going on because that's what i would do. If you don't reach her, then send an email one more time asking why and if you don't get a reply, then there are two possible reasons: One is she's busy with school and stuffs and doesn't have times to email; two is she's seeing someone else which is the worst case. In either cases, you should still keep in contact with her to find out why and just be prepare for any situations. Good luck dude.
2006-09-04 08:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by themysterious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. This is painful. The old "gone of to college" situation.
I don't think she's playing mind games. She's in college now (are you still in high school?) and isn't likely to want to dwell on the past. This story plays out thousands of times across the country every fall.
She is meetings lots of new people, lots of cute, smart guys, going to parties, etc. Staying in touch with an old high school flame will just make her feel silly and young. She wants to feel more mature and independent.
You need to let her go, for now. When the excitement of college settles down, she'll learn who her true friends are she may contact you from time to time to stay in touch.
What you can do is meet new people, get out, look in to colleges for yourself, and if she decides to contact you in the future, it'll be a pleasant surprise.
2006-09-04 08:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went to college
give us a break there is alot to do
my parents are lucky if they get a call in 3 weeks
she is meeting new people it's so hard to have a long distance.
let her enjoy college when she finds time i am sure she will contact you but let her move on in life. The work is so overwelming and the fact i need to make all new friends is tricky
2006-09-04 08:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Coxie Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mind games mean that you allowed the other person to take full advantage of you... maybe you came on too strong, or you gave up too much information, either way if you really don't know her well then move on and don't but her anything. and keep in mind most people chat as a way to pass time... and make new friends no one really looks for true love on here... good luck budy.. your gesture was kind and hopefully she didn't eat the chocolate with a boy friend or something.
2006-09-04 08:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, wish I could help. I am going through the same thing, but with a man , of course. I was supposed to spend this nice long weekend with him, and.....nothing, I've tried calling him. I guess we just sit by and wait until we give up and move on. that's all I can say.
2006-09-04 08:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Amy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"She has gone off to college" is the key phrase here. She is with a different crowd, has new interests, and makes it very plain to you that she has moved on and out. Let it go...it is just called life. People can play with you only if you let them. Find a new playmate. Good luck
2006-09-04 08:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes off at collage that should answer your question in itself. She's starting a whole new life away from her old, she may just be busy or maybe she is not into you as much as before. Sry!
2006-09-04 08:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by daydreambeliever0000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mindgames is the game on how you make you're opponent fall to you...
dont show the girl that you're crazy over her...that'll ruin you...
play the mindgames...pretend that you didn't think of her sometimes...something like that...
regarding on why she acting like that...maybe she got fed up...grow tired because there was nothing intereseting anymore...
or maybe you're squeezing her too tight...
2006-09-04 08:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be scared it wont work out, in her favor. Call her, and talk to her. Tell her how you feel she's the only one who can truly answer your question.
good luck!
~Ashlyn
2006-09-04 09:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just answered ur own message. she went off to college.. she is gettin adjusted she probably toOo busy..
2006-09-04 09:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋