Do you think its wrong for a man to be insulted if a woman wants to keep her last name or hyphenate her name with his? What about the kids having hyphenated names as well?
2006-09-04 08:37:45 · 24 answers · asked by nik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is wrong with it?
In many parts of the world a woman does not change her name.
Male children take the fathers name female children take the mothers
2006-09-04 08:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's wrong. A lot of women feel like changing their last name to the husband's still carries the stigma of belonging to the husband, like a piece of property. I think hyphenating the last names is a good compromise. Most of the children that I know who have mother's with hyphenated names use the mother's new last name.
2006-09-04 11:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Janelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people make a bigger deal than what it is.. man shouldn't be insulted... I wouldn't want my kids to have hyphenated names.. after 3 generations the kids would have 6 names !! but now a days .. some countries do not accept the change of name of a wife.. they want people to keep their maiden name...
and to be honest.. if I had known what I had reserved in life.. I would have kept my name.. and my kid could have had his dad's name.. no big deal to me what last name he has.
2006-09-04 08:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married I kept my name, my daughter has mine and his, and my son has just his name, so I don't think it's wrong. You marry the man not his name, but that how I feel about. It's not going to make you any happier or sadder by having the man last name. I feel that you should do what you what too. But what doesn't your man feel about it , and ask him to take your last name and see what he will say. I feel if he can't take yours why should you take his.but I'm only one person. And I know a lot of women that had hyphenated name.
2006-09-04 08:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by swilliams63@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not like that I suppose it's a tradition going on so people continue doing it and I suppose it isn't insulting if a woman wants to keep her last name or hyphenate her name with his hubby
2006-09-04 08:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by kumar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hyphenated my last name when I married my husband. I am very succesful in business and have my own identity and own life outside of our marriage. I contribute equally, if not more than my husband, and it's my name, so it's my choice. It's easier in the long run too; if the marriage ends, I don't have to change a million things, I can just drop his last name off.
2006-09-04 08:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well in the old days a woman took the mans name always but in return the man took care of her and provided safety and a life. now its all different but honestly i would like my wife to take my last name hyphenated seems like the compromise and not takeing it seems like you dont really want everything i have to offer.
2006-09-04 08:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd be insulted. I wouldn't marry a woman who did not want to take my last name. The one possible exception that comes to mind is if there is some sort of well-known professional identity that warrants not changing her name.
In my mind, it goes back to the Christian principle of the wife being submissive to the husband-of the two becoming as one with the husband being the leader of the family.
As far as the children go, I would see it as an unnecessary complication.
I don't think it's necessarily "wrong" though; just not traditional.
2006-09-04 09:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Certainly not 'wrong', just unconventional. If you've already committed to the institution of marriage, why shake it up or make it more complicated for your kids. There are so many tough choices in life to focus on and serious issues to change, why worry about changing something that really doesn't matter anyway. If you love him, and you love being a women, be happy that you both want to share a name. And a family. And forget about this question and move on. By no means do I think it's WRONG or RIGHT... just unnecessary.
2006-09-04 08:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by kree8iv73 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Some people can see the loss of their surname as being a form of control bi removing an aspect of their identity. Some may interpret a mans insistance as meaning they want 'ownership' of their bride by attaching their name to her similar to how a person may inscribe their name on a pensil case. Us guys need to get over such petty things, surely the fact that someone loves you enough to marry you should be sufficient?
2006-09-04 08:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by tysonian22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋