I'm young, I'm 21, my boyfriend is 29 and weve been with each other for 3 years, he is perfect for me.. he's loyal, respectful, and adores me.. I have a lot of experience in life..but do you think it might be early for me to get married?
2006-09-04 08:31:53 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its your desicion.
ask yourself-
am i ready for this?
can i make a commitment this big?
will i ever regret this?
will i love him the rest of my life?
am i too young?
will he love me for the rest of my life?
dont mean to stress you out, or anything
2006-09-04 08:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling. I have known people that are ready at 21, but then there are plenty that aren't. If you have been together for 3 years then what is the problem with waiting until you are sure? Marriage doesn't change your love, but it will change your perspective on life.
Being scared is saying that maybe you need to step back a bit and let yourself catch up. It doesn't mean you don't love him or you aren't in the mood to get married. It just means that your mind and your body are in different places right now.
Be patient. The answer will come. It is normal. Oh yeah. I have the "scared" feeling myself right now. And I am not 21.
2006-09-04 15:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal to be scared. Marriage is a serious life alteration and having second thoughts or questioning yourself may be an indication that your just not ready. Twenty one is a wonderful age to grab life by the horns and ride it with all it's uncertainties. Go on and enjoy being young, free, indepenent! Go on and have fun and live life to the fullest. When your ready to seriously settle down and consider marriage you will know. But whatever you do take your time, don't rush into anything and pray because once you say your vows, you don't want to regret it. Good Luck.
2006-09-04 16:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 22 . At the time, I thought I had alot of life experience and didn't really consider myself to be as young as I was. Your adult life is just barely beginning at 21. Your likes and dislikes will most certainly change and grow as you do. If you feel your fiancee could really be a part of that unkown picture no matter what , then fear not! Just remember, divorce is HELL after you have kids. That's the Truth! You obviously love him or think you do anyway, even though your age difference is pretty significant for your age group. You are the one that has to live it so.... If you do this, do it with your WHOLE heart or not at all.
Best wishes,
DJ
2006-09-04 15:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by RhinoBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Yes, it is perfectly normal for you to be nervous or a little frightened to actually get married. I was with my husband for six years before we married. I was 21 years old also. Even though my husband was perfect for me, treated me very well, and also adored me, I was nervous! I don't know why. I knew this was the man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, but I was still a little bit apprehensive. I went though with it, and we had the best wedding day! It was absolutely perfect. Good Luck to you!
2006-09-04 15:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a joke. It is a big experiance. It could be good or it could be bad. If what you are saying about him is true, that hes loyal, respectful and adores you, then marry him. He is a 1 in a million, thats all you need in a guy, and about being nervous, its ok to be nervous its normall
GOOD LUCK
2006-09-04 15:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by bigcockerdool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called "cold feet" and I do believe we all get those thoughts before we get married. Marriage is change, but a good change.
You said a lot of nice things about your future husband, keep those thoughts and just remember the reasons why you love him.
I had cold feet before I married my wife and that was 25 years ago. Best decision I ever made. Good luck and God bless both of you.
2006-09-04 15:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your call on if you are ready. From experience, I was not. But I have been married for 17 years to the same person.
If you think you can be successful in the LIFE adventures together, you will be OK
Note: If you aren't nervous, you aren't normal.
2006-09-04 15:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by edozedo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three days before my marriage I called it off, it was because of nerves! If he makes you happy and you make him happy then there is no mistake... As long as you both know that this takes WORK, hard work and the willingness not to throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble! I have learned communication make sure those lines never ever CLOSE! Good Luck and be happy!!
2006-09-04 15:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that..Scared of change, scared of commitment, scared of the fact that you feel you might be missing out on something....All these fears are normal, but many times, you just have to go with your gut. If you think don't think your ready to commit , then dont get married.
2006-09-04 15:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by zeakster01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just worrying to much, however you need to sit down with your husband to be and tell him your fears, communication is a big thing in a marriage so start the communication now, and by the way congratulations on your engagement
2006-09-04 15:45:35 · answer #11 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋