We have been friend for years and have written (emailed) each other practically every day for 7 years. Now, the friend seems to be distancing from the relationship...failing to respond or letting days go by without a response. Despite the fact the friend says all is ok with the relationship, how do I know for sure? Also, am I taking it personally when perhaps there has been a change in my friend's life that necessitates this departure?
2006-09-04 08:21:07 · 13 answers · asked by Jo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you to all who have responded to my question. It is somewhat comforting to be able to discuss a concern in this forum. I think that the message I am getting is that my expectations may be somewhat realistic and that I must occupy myself with other things. It would not be good for the friendship for me to be demanding. I just need to relax, enjoy the contact when it comes and realize that there are ebbs and flows to all relationships. Thanks everyone.
2006-09-04 08:49:06 · update #1
Sorry...in my additional details above, I meant that I am being "unrealistic" in my expectations.
2006-09-04 08:51:19 · update #2
You should never force your friend how much or how many times he/she communicates with you. Sometimes people get occupied with other things and the whole excitement of missing each other some what fades away. But that doesn't necessarily mean they feel distant from you. A true friendship doesn’t need working too hard to work.
2006-09-04 08:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by kevinrtx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go make new friends in your HERE life. Sounds like a long distance relationship anyway. Get out of the house, get some fresh air, meet some new people, and don't make such a big deal over it. S/he's probably just doing the same thing. Unless for some reason you're more than just friends then you REALLY need to get out more.
2006-09-04 15:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by RhinoBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is getting older and may be meeting new friends. Understand that she may not get to her email everyday or even her computer for that matter. Still write and stay in tune with her. Friendships often grow apart slowly as you get older. Its the ones that hang on when times get bad that last a life time. Good luck
2006-09-04 15:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rely so much on getting attention from that person. They could be busy, they could be dealing with a problem, it could be anything. If you are talking every few days than that should be fine. I used to have a friend who came over everyday and I couldn't stand it.
2006-09-04 15:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Dan-Bi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send your friend an email and ask what's going on. If the relationship is over, then learn why and move on.
2006-09-04 15:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe your friend has gotten a bit busy? Life happens, wouldn't worry about it! Emailing EVERY day is a lot!
2006-09-04 15:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
this normally happens because a lot of people would rather have a boyfriend over their best friends and thats sooo sad.
2006-09-04 15:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by daniellelee10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe there's just something else going on the your friends life. ask that person about it and see what there response is.
2006-09-04 15:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by robhor5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every day for 7 years is a little intense - if she needs space, give her space - I know married people who aren't that intense.
2006-09-04 15:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Find a new friend. Life goes on. Self-preservation is key.
2006-09-04 15:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by bansri47 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋