We have been together for 7 years and have a kid together, I am not sure i should stay with him. I have been staying with my sister the past 3 weeks and come over and visit him once a week. He is charming enough but is kind of a jerk at times. He can say really mean stuff even in front of our child. I really love him but i am really confused right now. We are suppose to get married next June and i don't know if i can live like this! HELP!!!
2006-09-04 08:07:27 · 15 answers · asked by tree kay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
IF YOURE NOT SUIRE DONT GET MARRIED. USUALLY HOW U FEEL THE FIRST TIME IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO. FOR U 2 LEAVE IT HAD 2 REALLY MAKE U FEEL BAD ABOUT THE WAY U WERE BEING TREATED.. TAKE UR TIME. THERES NO RUSH.I FEEL LIKE YOU SHOULD EXPLORE OTHER OPTIONS BEFORE U DECIDE.U SHOULD BE HAPPY PLZ DONT SETTLE 4 LESS.
2006-09-04 08:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably like me, gets frustrated and lets something that bothers him right out no matter what or who's around. I think the more you stay away from him, the more it will frustrate him, and the worse things get. You'd better think about what you want right now before it's too late. You'll also have to sit down and talk to him about his "being a jerk" and also mention the "in front of the kid" thing, then come to a compromise. Good luck, just make a solid decision and stick with it.
2006-09-04 08:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to get married next June, but you are not currently living with him and he says mean things in front of your children?
He sounds like such a positive role model - he's definately a keeper. And I am sure you couldn't do any better. Your kids don't deserve better either.
2006-09-04 09:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Christopher B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is: do you love yourself? I'm not sure your threshold for allowing someone to make you unhappy, but mine is nonexistent. You know what you should do, just realize: if you went from living with someone for years to them being content with seeing you (or is it just the kid) once a week....come on now.
2006-09-04 08:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional and verbal abuse are often overlooked as serious and as a form pf domestic violence. This type of abuse is often the beginning of physical abuse. Regardless, your self esteem will suffer should you continue in this relationship. I assure you it takes years to recover from this form of abuse.
The fact that he does this in front of your child is a from of child abuse and very unhealthy. Your child will likely follow in his footsteps and treat you poorly due to what he/she is witnessing.
Please contact your local women's shelter organization and seek counseling. If you stay with him i guarantee that the abuse will only become worse.
2006-09-04 08:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't live like this. You'll end up unhappy which will flow over onto your child and if he is saying ignorant stuff to you what's make you think that he won't say it your kid.
2006-09-04 08:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by eastern_mountain_outdoors 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 7 years if you guys haven't got it together buy now I dought you ever will. Try to become friends again first, if you can't be best friend your marriage will probably end in hate.
2006-09-04 08:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Leslie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nip your problems in the bud cause once you're married it should be for better or worse. so take care of this now before you end up having more kids he degrades you in front of!
2006-09-04 08:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by BREIZY2SHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if he is mean to you in front your child then that isnt right and if you guys get married then you guys are gonna be distant from each other so if i were you i'd leave him
2006-09-04 08:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Allie18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have been together seven years and you still are not sure about him....that should tell you something.
ask yourself...do you dream of having a happy relationship someday? if so he's probably not the one.
2006-09-04 08:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋