and you've got a little time on your hands. My boyfriend and I have had a rare day off together, from the moment I woke up (after the best night's sleep I've had in ages) I felt good and wanted nothing other than a good day. He had some stress regarding organising a practice room for his band, the others are being difficult etc, and he's been a little down and irritable all day, and I've done my best to soothe him and make the day nice, getting his favourite beer, cooking a complicated meal that he loves etc. he just told me I'm pissing him off so I've retreated to the study and am now writing this! why are men so f***ing ungrateful?? what should I do? I love him but, really!
2006-09-04 07:58:28 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
just give him some space,when he stops sulking he will feel guilty and make it up to you.everyone gets grouchy,the best thing to do is give him his own space and he will come round when he is ready.try not to take it to heart.
2006-09-04 08:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi Lucy,
No men are not ungreatful they just comunicate differrently
The truth is the more you try to soothe him the more it reminds him of his bad experiences with the band espeically if you don't do this regularly. He may notice you are acting differrently and see you as being fake even thought you are not. You have to be the same all the time with a man. Your speical treatment would not only anger him but every man. Tip #1 Men are simple to figure out I will spell it out S.E.X. Tell him you have realize that you are being annoying than tell him that you are sorry. Please be humble pride break up many relationships. Pease understand this! This would softing him up for the next step trust me! After this tell him that you need to suck his d**k. If you say you need to
You will make him feel wanted (all men need to felt wanted sexaully even if they never say it) but don't stop here and wait for his approve! Trust me, Most to all men felt that a passive woman is a boring woman. Do what you told him you need becuase to men, NO Head Is Unnesasary. I am serious. Well next is ,do not be passive until the end of your cure for his pissed off problem through genital stimulation. The truth about life is.... we women know what men really are responsive too but do not act on it. The key to keeping the man you love is, is, to F**k him to death. Trust me and use this tip, marriage never ends because of too much sex between the man and women but totally because of the opposite
You may not be in a marriage but this is the simple answer to all men problems if you don't believe me ask any man. Last thing Honey,
You will find that if you ask a man to give you advice on what makes men pissed off, they will say very helpful things! Sex really can solve all of thier problems Post this question again but this time ask only the men to answer and see what happens!
I hope this helps a little lucy,
Peace!!!
2006-09-04 08:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, this is not as serious as some people are going to make this out to be, you are going to get a few ''dump hims'' but honestly, this is a common problem that we women suffer with our partners, they can all be ungrateful sometimes, no matter how hard we try to make them happy. The fact is, when they have got other things on their mind, they get irritable because they havnt learned to separate their problems from us. My man is like this most of the time, but the other da we had an argument and I was at the end of ny tether with feeling un-appreciated, so (and this might sound stupid) i asked him to write alist of 10 reasons why he loves me and I did the same. After some grumbling, he agreed, and much to my amazement he listed alot of the things that I do for him, and I realized that I was appreciated, its just that men dont know how to show it properly. This cheered us both up (he is argumentative alot) and we had a good day from there on. Men dont appreciate days off to spend time with their partners like we do, but if he didnt see you, he would miss you like crazy. Just give him a bit of space, if not for him then do it so you dont get your head bitten off, and he will come around in a litle while. Dont let his ''manly'' behaviour affect you though because if you feel unappreciated often, it will really get you down. You could try to talk to him and tell him how this upsets you, but a man is a man and probably wont take it on board anyway, so we have to try to learn their ways, and how they show their appreciation and gratitude, such as fixing the cupboard door or running us a bath or doing the washing up because they sure dont get all mushy and thank the pants off their partners like we do!! Good Luck hun xxxx
2006-09-04 08:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some men are ungrateful, and thats just how they are, he sounds to me like a prick... if you dont mind me saying, although im not a woman, i would still like to put in my thought. Its not what you should do its what he sould do. Youve done nothing wrong but been the perfect woman, do you think that he should really put some time into you. A relationship cannot work by one person, he needs to love you to. You guys just need to talk, if he just keeps getting pissed off, well your love relationship may not be working out... By the way you sound, he is very lucky to have you, you are very unique! If he doesnt start putting time into you, this relationship should come to an end. So as i said, try talking to him. Talk about how you feel about the situation, and ask him how hes feeling about the current situation. This should help! And please not all men are ungrateful... But in the end what do i konw im only 15 im still young...
2006-09-04 08:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lloyd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is He like this all the time if so I would consider counseling if you feel that it's worth staying in the relationship. Does He abuse drugs and alcohol? From the way you describe it sounds like he has some emotional issues that he is self medicating. Irritability is one cause of coming down from or not getting a fix. you should not poor your heart too deeply into this relationship. In the long run it will help you cope with the rocky road ahead. you cannot change men they are not a science experiment. We Lady's tend to go for the men with problems cause we feel we can change them and make them better. He will change if he wants to but 99% guys wont change.
2006-09-04 08:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry - I read it anyway!
But seriously - that is way ungrateful and you don't deserve that - just how are you pissing him off? If he wants time alone he should know how to ask for space, not take it out on you.
I would go with some of the other answers and say 'ditch him' but maybe that's hasty. Certainly say something about it though - get it sorted and don't let him do it again!
2006-09-04 08:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by reddragon105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man and I still bothered reading this. And frankly If you wan't any honest advice on this you'll need a man's advice. Men are just as complicated as you women. There are sometimes days that we just have so much SH IT on our plate no matter what you say or do it won't make a difference. Leave him be so he can cool down(allthough a little help doesn't hurt) If he still acts like a jerk, chances are he is a jerk.
But since most men aren't jerks leave him be he'll turn around and probably thank you for being so nice to him in the end.
2006-09-04 08:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I could lay the exact same statement about 'my wife' and label it as 'why are all women.....' but i don't.
I can be ungrateful, insensitive, stupid and arrogant at times over this or that. But i try not to be any of these as I know what it's like to be on the receiving end of it.
I really couldn't blame you for feeling the way that you feel 'about him' ( though i am not happy about being lumped in with him - en mass ), and think that you 'deserve better than what he gave you.'
The only answer is to 'talk with him, tell him how you see your day with him,' give him your take / perspective on it.
I wish you the best of luck (and sorry for intruding - as a male - here).
Sash.
2006-09-07 13:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry Lucy i believe that men get pmt as well as women. my boyfriend is the same . maybe you are trying to hard. try backing off a bit. when my boyfriend and i had a rare day off together i wanted to go out for the day, every where i suggested he "no don't fancy going there" in the end we had a huge row and went home in a strop. with men you need Patience of a saint . just step away from the frying pan!!!!
2006-09-04 08:10:21 · answer #9 · answered by hayley50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid. If he can't appreciate the trouble you've gone to he sounds as if he's using you. Get someone who appreciates you for the woman you are and the effort you put into things. Men (and women) aren't perfect but there are limits. I've been stressed out in the past but if my partner made an effort to do something nice then I appreciated it. He didn't have to go over the top, just say, 'Thank you' or 'That was nice'. He's sounds very selfish. After all, if he's having trouble with the band he shouldn't take it out on you.
2006-09-04 08:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by Iluv24 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Funny you should say that cuz mines been an *** hole all day. Wouldn't even eat the dinner that I cooked as he said it was disgusting - he usually eats everything without batting an eyelid. Then we had a blazing row and he stormed out to work witout even saying goodbye. I can guarantee tomorrow that he'll wake up totally fine and if I mention it, it will be all my fault for bringing it up. MEN!!!! ARRRGGGHHHH!!!! Believe me, you are not on your own. Go and have a nice hot bath and a glass of wine and then the world will seem a better place.
2006-09-04 08:08:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋