we have been married 21 years we are both in our early 40's we have 2 children i am so digusted with the whole thing i dont know what to do. do you think he is having an affair? gay? or just hooked
on porn? please help..........
2006-09-04 07:20:36 · 11 answers · asked by looloo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should ask yourself why you have had sex 1 time in 8 months?Is it you or him or are you both just lazy.Masturbating to porn is a symptom of an unfilled need,fill his needs.If you don't have an urge to be with your husband , maybe you need help as well.Are you disgusted you caught him or the fact he is human and needs a release?Instead of being disgusted and angry ask him why he is doing what he did,see what he says.
2006-09-04 08:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 12:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this before jumping to any conclusions: Suggest watching a porn flick together. As the movie progresses, try and jump his bones. If he takes you, maybe there's just some spark that he feels has been missing from your marriage and that will start you well on the way to recovery. An affair is possible, but just because he's watching porn and masturbating by himself is no sign at all that he's cheating on you. Homosexuality is also out the door if he's watching *women.*
2006-09-04 07:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably not gay, unless it was gay porn. While masturbating is a relatively normal thing, it is no substitute for sex with your partner. If it is, then there is a problem. Early 40s? There could be a performance issue on his part (ED, etc). Talk to him.
Tell him to put the porn away. It is fantasy, not real and harmful to your self-image. If he needs erections help, the doctor can assist him with either Viagra or a good stress-reducing program. Alcohol, stress and poor health lead to ED, assuming that is an issue at all.
Good luck.
2006-09-04 07:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ottawa Father 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself why is he watching porn and masturbating. Maybe you two should watch it together and masturbate together or have sex. Maybe he just wants something new in your sex life but is affraid to ask you so he stay private with it. Next time you are alone with him, pop in the porn, zip his pants open, put you hand in and see what happends. It just might be the best thing to ever happen in you marriage.
2006-09-04 07:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by calichick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't know? He sure is having an affair-with his hand. Whiuch means you don't "do it" for him anymore. Lose some weight and start taking care of your body. Clearly he is not interested in sex with you anymore. At least he is 'keeping it in the family' so to speak. Encourage him. Buy him some warming lube.
2006-09-04 19:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by FathersCan Ottawa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...no wonder he was doin that!!! i dont blame him!!! give it up to the man a little! It takes two to tango its partially your fault that hes doing that so you cant be mad at him for denying him sex, at least hes not going anywhere else. Give him a break! Have sex with him so he wont have to watch porn. :)
2006-09-04 07:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not getting it from u . doing it by hand is a lot better than cheating on u with someone else .Be happy about that. Make your guy happy 4 crying out loud!
2006-09-04 07:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you dress up all sexy for him when he comes home. or just wear a tie and serve him dinner. take him to a strip club and then take him home. it takes 2
2006-09-04 07:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by ringer6942 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are too fat for sex.
2006-09-04 08:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋