Currently living in the USA but I really want to move back to my family in Australia with my wife and kids. Please help!!!
2006-09-04 07:04:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I only have one wife. I am an australian and she is american and we are currently living in the USA. I want to move back to Australia and she is apprehensive to move.
2006-09-04 07:28:51 · update #1
I guess the thing is, I have lived here for 9 years, and I feel as though she should give it a chance just for me
2006-09-04 07:50:00 · update #2
Be honest with her and tell her what you are desiring. You are only hurting her by keeping it from her
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-04 07:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a little confused. You have a wife here and in Australia? Or you have a wife here and want her to move with you?
I would say if you have a family here, she may not want to move away from her family. A compramise might be to make regular visits to your home country and see your birth family. Maybe take your wife and kids for these visits so your kids can see where you came from.
If you have 2 wives, I'd say divorce the one here and leave and go home. And think about this so it never happens again.
2006-09-04 07:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't very clear about whether you have one or two "wives" so it's hard to answer your question accurately.
Why would your current wife be hurt? Do you plan to take her with you or are you going back to an ex-wife?
Be honest with her. Dishonesty hurts more than honesty in the long run. Just calmly and honestly tell her how you FEEL. Then allow her to her own *feelings* but let her know you are still there for her (at least emotionally) through this period of time.
2006-09-04 07:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by x_southernbelle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is to sit her down and have a discussion. Tell her the reasons that you want to move then ask her what she thinks. I do not know what kind of financial situation you are in but if you have the money you could tell her that you guys could go to the states for holiday with her family or something like that every year. I dont think you can hurt her feelings by asking her what she thinks but remeber to keep her opinions as valid too.
2006-09-04 07:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and have a talk with her first then the children. Open communication is so important. I don't blame you I have always wanted to go to Australia and am thinking about moving there myself. Waiting for the kids to get out of college. Good Luck to you all. :-)
2006-09-04 07:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was born in France but also live in the US with my family. I know how you feel. Tell your wife it will not be permanent, just a change of pace, for a few years, maybe three to five, she might actually like the idea.
I assume she knew, you were from Australia when she married you, no? its all about "meeting half way"
how do you tell her? just that! tell her!
Danny
2006-09-04 07:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by daniel v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of you are able to, except you comprehend some rather imprecise distant places language. then you definitely ought to attempt taking her out one evening, giving her roses and chocolates, and talking into her ear the candy nothings which you desire won't harm her. you in all probability won't get the message throughout the time of, even with the undeniable fact that. i'm thinking what the element is for dropping this bombshell. Are you making plans to go away her? Are you attracted to somebody else? Are you making plans an affair? Or are you wishing that she might trim up somewhat, or substitute her coiffure, or spend greater time with you? perchance you are able to desire to look deeper into the purpose for this replace of advice. Are you waiting to hearken to her say that she is now no longer attracted to you? humorous element is, this occurs in marriages. It does not may be the top of the romance... except you push the envelope. decrease her some slack jointly as you come to a decision what your motives are and the place you like to circulate with this recommendation. God bless you. sounds like the initiating of a visit down the marital rapids.
2016-09-30 08:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by bradberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife if she would be willing to move back to Australia on a temporary basis, and see how things go. She may discover she really likes it there.
2006-09-04 08:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you hurt her? I think you must be honest, tell her how you feel, that it is very important to you to live in Australia, and that you want her to be with you.
I don't see why it would be a problem telling her that, and listen to what she has to say...
2006-09-04 07:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay with your wife, the only solution is open communication.
If you don't talk to each other openly, then even if you stay in the US, you marriage will not survive.
2006-09-04 07:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by looshia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋