Since i was younger i have always thought i wouldnt be able to have kids maybe because that is what i want out of life so much that i am scared it wont happen for me? But now 11 months of trying and nothing has happened ! I am doing ovulation tests every month and they are positive and regular and my periods are reg i have been for one blood test at docs and it was normal just waiting for 2nd test now. My partner is going soon i hope ! Just wondering if any one else thought they would never be able to have kids ? Now im thinking its been a 6th sense and i am never going to be able to have them ! ?
2006-09-04 07:04:15 · 27 answers · asked by S P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
things you really want never happen because you bank on them too much , your tempting fate with your worries and your probably stressed about the situation which doesn't help when trying to conceive .
chill out and when you least expect it you will get pregnant , sometimes things don't happen straight away for whatever reasons , accept that keep trying but don't let it be your only focus in life , otherwise it will get you down and depressed .
good luck x
2006-09-04 07:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by j.j. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i always thought that i would and i know EXACTLY how you feel, We have just finished our tests and we are now in the category of sub fertility which means theres no physical problems. Its been 2 and a half years now. I am depressed but have been seeing a counsellor who is fantastic. If you click my little duck you can E Mail me if you like? I have been E mailing a few others in the same boat and its good to chat with other people feeling miserable about it. Good luck, i really beleive now that being able to relax is the secret xx
2006-09-04 21:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by ducky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my partner also have been trying for a baby,and I've just been reading the other answers you have been given.Me and my boyfriend 10 yrs began trying April and so far nothing has happened.I was so happy he had agreed to start a family that i began telling people we were trying and kind of expecting it to just happen straight away.All i seemed to do is wait for days to come along,and not enjoying the rest of my time,then every month my period came i would be so depressed..Then last month my sister falls pregnant and this month his sister falls pregnant..but you know what people are right.Yes we want it badly but we are just letting it take over our lives.Start enjoying yourself and sex like before.I don't know if you are like me but i just felt i had to have sex because it was the time i was fertile etc
I'm just concentrating on becoming a auntie and I'm sure our time will come one day.....I'm sure of it! When you want something so badly it never comes when you expect it,so hold tight....its worth waiting for!!
2006-09-05 01:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by donna h 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I myself thought I was unable to have kids. I have had problems with ovarian cyst since I was young so I thought that may cause problems in trying to have children. At age 24 I became pregnant then 16mos after his birth I became pregnant again. It could be your partner as the reason you are not conceiving, its not always the female. Also it takes time I was surprised to learn that the average couple takes 12 mos to conceive. Ends up we are quite fertile here.
2006-09-04 07:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by anjelahoy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like you're telling my own story. Don't lose hope, there does not seem to be a problem with you and I have seen other women who were able to conceive after up to 4 years of trying and sometimes more. Just don't lose hope, I am trying not to, but as women are worrying creatures we always think the worst scenarios.
2006-09-04 20:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by rinah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel abit when i was younger and now sometimes i get scared i cant have kids,i dont know why ive just always thought it,ive not tried to have any yet but when i do i hope i will be ok.i think its my greatest fear and thats why i think it cus i would die if i couldnt have children,i just love kids so maybe its that,it could just be your greatest fear.relax hun and give it more time in the meantime have fun trying,all the best,take care and good luck x
2006-09-04 07:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It some times gos on what contraception you used previous. But just relax and also make sure he does not eat Polo's!!!!!!! It took me three years than i fell pregnant twice with in 10 months so be care full what you wish for! Good luck
2006-09-05 01:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by sandra+3... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
like the other girl said, stop trying! also, if you were on the pill, the injection or the implant as contraception before you started trying, it can take up to 2 years to get out of your system. that may be why its taking time. i know people that tried for years before they finally got pregnant. worrying about it doesnt help either lol
2006-09-05 03:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by officegirluk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly, don't put yourself or your partner under pressure
if you've done all the tests, then it's time you partner did too
with us, after a while trying, i went to a urologist, and he detected a varicose vein on the testicles, causing the sperm to be "lazy"
it was only a 10 minute op, and everything was fine...two healthy kids now
2006-09-05 00:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello,
Firstly calm down!..i felt like you years ago..and now i have two young children.Forget tests..stop trying and start enjoying being toether..not just for the making of babies,it can become a focal point,when you forget about getting pregnant it will happen..there is nothing pyisicaly wrong with eaither of you..all this will effect your relationship if you carry on with tests etc..just be yourselfs..enjoy sex weather it makes a baby or not...relax..it will happen.
2006-09-04 07:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by janine s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋