Just split with fiancee-living together etc... but she went home for time and old flame of hers has shown up.He proposed b4 but was turned down.Now the issue is he bombards with txts,emails,gifts etc. I dunno if she is welcoming this or not cos she is goin thru a rough time..but have told her its inappropriate...we're still living togethr but moving out...he wants to get her back...FULL STOP. big thing is i saw pic on our comp of her with him, dunno what to think of that. She insists she doesnt want to re-enter that and we have been quite hot and heavy at the moment to add to all the confusion. There is a shade in both of us that wants to work this out but my trust in her and foolishness in past messed things up, hence the break.SO... continue or GO?
2006-09-04 07:02:29 · 4 answers · asked by ppd81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd give it a shot. It sounds like your fiancee needs some time to sort things out. She may be trying to decide what is best for her, by looking at old photos.
Remember, you don't know the story behind the photo. Could be they were on a vacation together, and fought the whole time, but managed to smile for one picture. She's remembering every argument she had with him, and thinking of how sweet you are in comparision.
It sounds like you are firm in your committment, but she needs time. You don't want her to rush into anything unless she's sure, right?
Even though you typically hear about men getting cold feet, being engaged is actually a tough time for some women. There is a lot of the same thoughts about forever, and never having the chance to date other men.
Give her time and space. Make it clear that you don't like hearing about the ex, and feel his behavior is inappropriate. Try not to nag, but explain your feelings and bow out gracefully. Let her come to terms with this herself.
Best of luck to you!
2006-09-04 07:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by home.and.self 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have to decide what is best for both of you (each of you). Which ever. If she turned this other guy down before, what makes you think that she will do an about face and just return back to him. Does what you have with this person not mean anything to her??? As I said you each have to decide, no one can make that decision for you. Good Luck.
2006-09-04 14:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know deep down inside of what to do. Listen to your heart and whether it will hurt or not, obey it.
2006-09-04 14:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by soulplane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question if you had one day to live...no more...just one day...would you continue to waste your precious time here on earth?
Move on to someone who will cherish you like you deserve. :)
2006-09-04 14:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by Apple Blossom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋