there has to be something. She has always been there for me and now I know she needs me especially because her father has cancer and they found out just last week.
2006-09-04 06:58:38 · 10 answers · asked by HarMonia 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
That is the worst. She and her husband have been to doctor and there is nth wrong with them.
2006-09-04 07:03:27 · update #1
So very, very sorry about your cousin. You may want to watch this video below. Very comforting.
2006-09-06 04:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by maximumreferrals 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a big hug.
Do everything you can to keep her healthy and her spirits up. In particular, make sure that she eats a healthy diet, takes regular exercise and starts a prenatal vitamin now. Not only will the vitamin help her re-gain the minerals she has lost with the miscarriage, but it might help work out any nutritional imbalance she might have.
You can help by
- making her dinner once a week with meat and three vegetables
- going for walks with her to reduce stress
- rent movies and watch comedies with her on video or DVD. As weird as it may sound, laughter is the best medicine for infertility too
And give her access to web sites where she can find out more information about a tendency to miscarry and support for infertility. The women in these communities will tell her about taking one baby aspirin, or low dose aspirin every day, the use of evening primrose oil and other tricks that help women with her condition.
You might remind her that many, many women have been in her position and are now mothers to beautiful, healthy babies. She must never lose hope.
Now, even if your cousin and her husband have no trouble conceiving, they might consider IVF. Basically, they test each embryo for chromosomal disorders -- which are the leading cause of miscarriage -- and only implant the healthiest for the best chance of a healthy baby.
2006-09-04 14:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by baggyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible. I would try to help her focus on your uncle right now. Look up information on her father's cancer, check out places to get treatment, treatment options, etc etc. That will help take a lot off her mind.
Then treat her and yourself to a day at the spa. Be girly girls for the day and make sure she knows you're there for her.
There's only so much sympathy you can give before it starts to get redundant and annoying. I hated the sympathy because it'd make me relive it all and I'd break down and cry. Crying in public in front of everyone is not very dignified, in fact it was rather embarrassing. And it made the well meaning person who apologized uncomfortable.
I don't know how old you are, but another idea would be to offer yourself as a surrogate. It's still their bun, just your oven. If you're not comfortable with that, or not old enough to do that, you could gently suggest to her to look into surrogacy.
Above all, just be there for her. Go over and help her clean her house, bring over something for dinner like a casserole she likes, do her shopping for her, anything along those lines. I know that if someone had come over and helped me pick up my house, I would have cried my eyes out because that to me would be the nicest gesture, but I'd also thoroughly appreciate it. It would be something I'd never forget. Good luck honey, and my condolences to your cousin and your family. Keep your heads up, cancer treatments and survival rates have improved greatly over the last decade. =)
2006-09-04 14:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad. Sometimes it just isn't meant to be, othertimes it can be fixed with certain medications. I think they should go see a specialist. I know of a couple women that had several miscarriages due to a condition but once the doctor was able to diagnose they were both able to carry to term. One even has 2 children now. Second pregnancy ran smooth. Just be there for her and listen.
2006-09-04 14:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been there myself, I think the most important thing is to let her have her emotional rollercoaster, without expecting her to have "got over it by now". It took me months, with such a rollercoaster of emotions to come to terms with. One minute i was fine, the next I was wishing I could join my dead baby. I cried all the time and felt that no body really understood. Let her cry on your shoulder, let her explain her feelings even if its the 10th time you have heard it. My partner didn't know what to do or how to help me, I explained he just has to be there for me an let me express it how i felt at that moment. She will get over it, but never forget it.
2006-09-04 15:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is be supportive and tell her that the time isnt right for her to have a baby...since she has had 5 try to get her to see her dr because there maybe something wrong which is why she cant hold onto a baby...good luck!!!
2006-09-04 14:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by *His_Playgirl* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her to a nice massage, do her nails, bring her a few home cooked meals (she probably does not feel like cooking)
2006-09-04 14:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Delphine F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for her. she needs a shoulder to cry on. let her know you'll help in anyway possible. she will thank you for it.
2006-09-04 14:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Dark Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her maybe cook dinner for her or take her out to dinner
2006-09-04 14:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her doctor. im so sorry
2006-09-04 21:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by sissygal682 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋