my son and daughter inlaw asked me to come live with them and take care of the baby while they work, to save on day care,I am a painter/maintenance tech and am getting very burned out,but at the same time I would have to give up everything I have including my pets.I am only 45 and would like to have a relationship.I just dont know what to do. Any advise
2006-09-04 06:41:51 · 6 answers · asked by sunzx2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're only 45, able to financially make it on your own, and honestly, want a relationship at some point. You would have to give up your pets, and all your other things you like. Stay where you're at! Life will get better for you real soon! Good Luck!!
2006-09-04 06:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THere are so many problems that could come up in an arrangement like this. What will they start to expect of you living with them...cleaning, cooking, how much daycare, sometimes you might take over parenting and make them mad or not do enough when they expect it. Plus, two women living in the same house not related can certainly start to cause problems, but if you have good communication as to what you all expect from eachother, it could work good also for everyone. Good luck and take care.
2006-09-04 06:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not their slave. It is insane they ask you to give up your life so they can save a few bucks. I bet you did not ask the same of your parents.
Keep your place and your pets and your life and tell them they need to deal with their financial issues themselves, and not ask for a serious disruption of your life to come to grips with it. Occasional help is one thing, a household slave is another.
2006-09-04 06:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont bother. they will find a way to get bye without your help. stay independent as long as you can. if you are burning out at your job you can take courses to change to a more relaxed job. you might even try teaching you craft at a community college. lol.
2006-09-04 07:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by jms043 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your son ...don't do it.
You can't give up your pets.
you can't give up your freedom.
You will be used up.
You will lose all your privacy.
No chance of getting into a relationship of your own.
2006-09-04 06:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it - help them out, but don't move in with them-
2006-09-04 06:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋