ever since me and my boyfriend broked up im starting to feel anxiety , depresson ,and heartache i really miss him he told me to call him back in a month so he could get over me maybe then we could be friends but i don't want to be his friend it's to much emotions i don't know what to do im confuse i wonder how do you get an EX back?
2006-09-04 06:27:12 · 12 answers · asked by shy 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
1) Work out like crazy. It will help push out the bad energy, and make you tired enough to sleep at night. Plus, it always feels good to feel better about your body and it will give you more confidence. I think running is a good activity to help get out the anger and sadness. Plus, when you see your ex again, he'll be lusting after you.
2) DON NOT TALK TO HIM until you feel emotionally ready to just be friends. If you call him while you are still hurt and desperate, it will make him lose respect for you. Also, how can he realize how much he misses you if you are bugging him all of the time? Use this time to deal with the pain and try to become a stronger person because of it.
3) Talk about it with friends. You have to talk about how you are feeling, so turn to your best friends and let it out whenever you need to. You will start to feel stronger after 3-4 weeks and you will begin to need them less after that.
You need to recognize that this might truly be the end of your relationship, and that the ball isn't in your court right now. He broke up with you because he has issues, and you can't force him to love you or resolve those issues. But the best thing you can do is give him his space so he can make the right decision for himself.
This exact thing happened to me and my first love back in college, and I was devastated. I told him not to call me, and that I would call him when and if I was ever ready to be friends. I worked out like crazy, cried a lot, and exhausted my poor friends with my constant neediness, but after six weeks I felt in control of myself, finally. I called him to ask a favor, and he asked to see me. He told me he had been an idiot and that he missed me and had realized he'd made a big mistake. We've now been together 12 years, married for 9 so it can work. If it is meant to be, it will be, but it is out of your hands and you just have to make it through with as much dignity as possible. I hope it all works out for you!
2006-09-04 06:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by MissM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you have these feelings because he left you or because you feel an extreme connection. I believe you feel this way because there has been a sudden change and you feel vulnerable. Perhaps you suddenly feel you are not good enough. However, you must realize that everyone is perfect the way they are. Once you truly realize this and take refuge in it, you'll suddenly feel refreshed and more confident than ever.
However, in the event that you had been see him forr over a year and had grown a real connection I have an alternative solution. You are attatched to the idea of being with him. The only way you'll find true happinness is to let go. when you have no attachment there will be less suffering. Now this doesn't mean you should never love some one or to not have emotions but you don't NEED his affection to feel loved. Something you can do is go to a place where you won't be bothered. Ask yourself why you felt so strongly for him. Chances are you answer will be something to the effect of: He made me laugh, He made me feel special, He helped me when I was down... Then if you think about that it wasn't him you felt strongly for but the way he made you feel. You liked the way you felt. You could make yourselff feel that way. SHOW YOURSELF LOVE, AFFECTION, AND ALLOW YOURSELF TO REALIZE THAT YOU ARE PERFECT THE WAY YOU ARE AND DON'T NEED ANYONE BUT YOURSELF TO MAKE YOU FEEL LOVED AND HAPPY.
2006-09-04 06:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never go back to my ex-boyfriends. Never, because there is a reason why we are not together.
You need to understand that He is not the only one on earth for you, and sometimes the best thing that could happen for you to find someone who's great for you is to break up and find someone else.
He's not "all that", and there's someone else out there better for you.
No need to be depressed, he's familiar to you and you have a need to "revisit" the relationship to "make it right".
Well, you're better off without him.
I say ZERO contact. None, never. Don't call him, don't try to contact him ever, at all.
And if he's a real flake, he's gone to date someone else to see how that works out, if it doesn't you will probably hear from him again, and I hope you're totally over him and won't be weak and go back. That's the worst thing you could do. The second time around never works, it's just that you're sloppy seconds to him and he comes back because what he left you for didn't work out.
Leave him alone, he's probably not good enough for you anyhow.
Chin up, stop sobbing in that pillow, and go out and have fun!
2006-09-04 06:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by alwaysbombed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The exact same thing happened to me except me and my ex were best friends for 11 years!!! The only thing I done was quit talking to him at all!!!! I have to take depression medicine because of that and other things!!!! But if you want to try to get him back im him or call him and try to explain your feelings for him to him and try to get him to understand!!! If he doesn't then you dont need him!!!! Yes it will hurt if you dont talk to him any more but it's better in the long run!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-04 06:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sera18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an outlet for your pain. Mine is writing, music, and painting. Find something you love doing and dive into it. Replace the time you used to spend with your boyfriend with new experiences. Find an old crush and talk to him. Try to forget planning how to get your ex back. If he broke up with you, he doesn't even deserve you. I hope you get to feeling better. Take care of yourself.
2006-09-04 06:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to stop thinking about him by distracting yourself by going out with your friends or try doing something that keeps your mind off him. But you should'nt be feeling depressed or anxious because the reason why you feel an emptyness is because you got used to being with him. But if you look for god you will never feel anxious or depressed you will feel happy and full of life so God Bless.............
2006-09-04 06:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by dee-dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop obsessing over him, and let him go.
You need to find something to occupy your mind like school, or doing some volunteer work.
Get busy, and you will get over him a lot faster.
2006-09-04 06:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't get an EX back thats a mistake. find someone better and ditch the EX if its meant to be with your EX it will happen but dont push it
2006-09-04 06:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by *CiTsJuStMe* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you break up in the first place? maybe you should focus on that to lessen your need to patch up with him again. Go out on dates with other guys and get your girlfriends together and discuss this.
2006-09-04 06:33:33 · answer #9 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call him and tell him your feelings. How can he hate you for that?
It also depends on WHY he broke up with you. That is an important component.
2006-09-04 06:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by Rainbrain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋