my husband always staring other women and he doesnt want to spend time with me. he shouts on me without any reason. he doesnt want to go on vacation with me. he abused my parents my brothers and me. he had nail sctaches on his back without having sex with me but when i asked him how they come then he abused me very badly. what should i do i have a three year old baby.
2006-09-04 06:02:29 · 24 answers · asked by carrie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is clear that you should not be in this marriage. Listen, we have divorce laws so people like you do not need to suffer. How come your parents are not also making a stand against the abuse? My concern is for your child. If he can hurt you and the rest of the family, then he can your child as well. You need to leave him and to do so you will probably need to go down to your local court and ask for a referral to a domestic abuse and self help program. They have lots of pamphlets and can give direction. Also Courts have Family LAw Facilitators that can guide you - go go go
2006-09-04 06:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by MelanieMediator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you live where there is a women's shelter, go to it. If you don't know what else to do, CALL someone (look up a churches phone number in the yellow pages of your phone book). You should have left him a LONG time ago, but it is never too late. Abusers don't change unless they get the help to change. Personally, your husband sounds like a sick, pervert to me. call the police at 800-525-5555 and tell them that he has been abusing you and your relatives and you don't know what to do, but you want him away from all of you. They should come and get him. Do NOT feel sorry for him when they do. He will cry and say how sorry he is, but don't believe him.
2006-09-04 09:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a married guy and that i admit i look at different women folk. although that's in basic terms lookin and has never lengthy gone more desirable than that. also although, I do have a tendency to have a staring project. I once became gazing an overweight lady and she or he reported "i recognize you're checking me out". I about threw up and ran away. I type of evaluate myself to be a "human beings watcher" there's a huge difference between checking human beings out and being a human beings watcher (or having a staring project) Your husband will be a mixture of both. So really provide him the great factor about the doubt
2016-11-06 10:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by dopico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your smart enough to ask for help. So seek help from a woman's shelter or something to get you out of the situation. NO woman should have to put up with abuse of ANY kind. Just because it is shouting it is still abuse. VERBAL abuse is just as bad or worse as physical abuse. It is almost impossible to ever regain your position in the relationship once they have crossed that line. GET out while you can. I'm telling you from experience.There are MILLIONS of men out there who will love you without abusing you. I promise.
2006-09-04 06:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Good Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee's...sorry to hear that! So sad for the little baby too! Its not an easy step, but his behaviour is not good for your child, and because he has chosen to act out in abusive behaviour, the natural consequence must now also take effect, which is you moving on with your son to having a better life without him, and without living in fear. Seek shelter at a women's shelter, or family member, and seek professional help for you and your child. Make an appointment to see your family physician and inform him/her about the abuse in order for the doctor to provide you and your baby with all the medical treatment available to treat you with the best of care for your physical and mental health. Make arrangement first and foremost for the safety of your child and yourself, and seek support from your family, friends, councellors, doctor/s, etc...ongoing! It is a hard process, but the professionals will help you cope through this difficult time, trust them to do so. Close the door to your husband, and move on! I can't stress that point enough! Don't take his calls, don't take e-mails, and don't allow yourself to be open just for conversation from him. Make sure you keep yourself surrounded by family and friends at all times until you gain strength along your path to recovery. The sooner you begin your steps, the sooner your baby will adjust to the new changes in a much healthier and happier life. Good luck to the both of you, wishing you's strength and courage in your difficult time.
2006-09-04 06:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is natural for a guy to stare at other woman, it sounds like your husband is feeling guilty for his mistakes. I hope that you are able to move on because you deserve better. Your husband will not get better he will probably only get worse and you never know what he will do to your or your child. Please after all this get some kind of counceling or go to meetings with other woman that have been abused like you it helps to talk about it.
2006-09-04 06:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by SADGIRLOH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is up to no good. Don't stand there and take his abuse. It's hard with a baby and all but your baby doesn't need to see and hear these things. Have him get out and let him pay for child support. You will need a lawyer. Have your family help you.
2006-09-04 06:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave and go live with your parents. This man is mentally and physically abusive to you and you certainly don't want your child exposed to someone like this. If he continues to be physically abusive, call the police. He doesn't respect you and is putting you in physical danger (HIV, AIDS) by, obviously, having sex with someone else. Take your child and leave
2006-09-04 06:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce. GO to a womens resource center in your area and find out about the service they can offer you since this relationship was abusive. You don't want your child to direspect you as he gets older or your family
2006-09-04 06:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by bluekrjupa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband no longer loves you AND you know it. File for divorce and child support, alimony....learn a career and get a job, raise your children right and find a new life...it is out there waiting for you..you are with an abusive cheater who wants to control your life...don't let him in any way. You need to escape NOW...do not drag this out any longer. YOU know I am telling you the truth. You have my deepest sympathy. There are men out there who will treasure you, the one you have does not. Good luck
2006-09-04 06:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋