I have a place to stay with my fiance who is 20 and has a job and his own place to live. We have been together for a year and a half and my dad loves him bc of the way he treats me. He works with my dad in nc. My mom has full custody of me in wv. We don't get along at all. I need to know if my mom of the police can do anything to me if I run away and live with him.
2006-09-04 05:51:36 · 29 answers · asked by tirefellow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dunno, but dont take a chance
deep down, your mom probably loves you a lot
2006-09-04 05:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by muz53 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure what the laws are in NC or WV but you could not only be picked up by the police for running away but you could get your fiance in trouble for statutory rape. So be careful about getting into a cycle that many teen girls get into. For example, you should stick it out at home, go to college and be able to care for yourself. If you run away a terrible cycle develops, you can get pregnant and or your fiance can throw you out. If this happens you'll probably end up on the welfare rolls. If you live in an abusive relationship with your mom, contact your local children services at once. What I'm saying is that you don't want to put yourself into an even worse situation than the one your in now.
2006-09-04 13:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by joeymac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid to leave. You'll be sorry later you did and when you get older, you'll look back and think about how dumb it was and you're regret it. You NEVER runaway from your problems no matter how small or big. Stand up to them! Running away don't solve anything, but make problems much worse. Running away could emotionally hurt your family. They may after 24 hours have your picture on the local news. You could also get arrested for it. Jail isn't fun. This is the best advice I can give you. Be mature, be responsible, and stand up to your problems! Things like this blow over fast....Not only that, your boyfriend may not be your boyfriend in a week, a month, or a year...It's NOT worth it!!!
2006-09-04 12:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would have a talk with my mom NOW. You need to have a serious talk with her about this whole situation. I assume you are gay. Please do not think that you and your fiance are going to last forever, it ain't gonna happen, but it can be good for a time. YOU need to finish high school either in WV or NC..no matter where, promise her you will finish school. AND MEAN IT. If she thinks you will 'straighten out' if you stay with her, she is in denial. If she does NOT agree to let you go, well, you have a choice to make. I don't think that running away is the best idea you can come up with, but perhaps your dad can intervene here..I have no idea. YOU need to set your mom straight (so to speak) as to your life and your needs, your sexuality...leave NO room for doubt if you are that sure....IF she sees you will not conform to her ideals, she may well want you to leave to avoid "embarrassment" to her in the community she has to live in. TALK to her!
2006-09-04 12:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get into serious trouble if you involve others in your little escapade. I've heard they can charge any people who help runaways with kidnapping. I don't think running away is the answer, even though I've considered it myself. Fiance....You're engaged? Then stay where you are for the moment and when you get married, leave. Or just wait until you're eighteen, then you don't have to runaway, you'll be old enough to live on your own legally.
2006-09-04 12:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Metal Paw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who did something very similar. The guy told her he loved her and wanted to run away together. They saw each other in secret. She was 16, he was 21. She moved in with him and he beat her constantly, everytime crying and begging for forgivness. She got pregnant. Searching for a way out and not finding one she contemplated suicide, cheated on the guy etc... 10yrs later she finally left him when meeting "mr. right" - who really is a good guy. Come to find out the guy she was with was actually 10yrs older than he told her! He's asian and didn't look it.
Don't waste your time on something you're not sure of. Stay at home get an education and grow up before you move out - you'll be happier.
2006-09-04 13:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by frecklzface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is still legally responsible for any thing you do or allow to let happen to you. So in order to keep your mom legally out of harms way for anything irresponsible thing you may do while you are still at that irresponsibly age,wait till you are 18, and you have your own job and own place to live also.
2006-09-04 12:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know about other states but in Tennessee if your 17 you can leave home and your parent/s can do nothing about it... I would wait till your 17 and then leave and go stay with your dad, you mom cant do anything about that if it what you want.... but if i would not go stay with your bf cause your only 17 and he's 20 he can get in to trouble.... best to stay with your dad till your 18...
2006-09-04 12:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl17017 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I wait becasue if you and your bf love each other you guys can wait just one more year so he wont get in any trouble, or have you asked your dad if you can go and live with him for that year until you can go with you bf. I suggest you and you bf really talk this one out because if really nice when you see eachother them go home but when you are stuck with each other all day long everyday its a different story, because you fight his there, you go to sleep his there, etc... So If I was you I wait and tolerate you mom Just one more year you did it 17 what is one more going to do.......Good luck..........
2006-09-04 13:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Madelyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get in alot of trouble! My neighbor is 15 & ran away. She had to go to court & answer to a juvinale judge. If you want live with your dad you need to call him & ask him to come to WV & try to get custody of you.
2006-09-04 12:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Talk-A-Holic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why make more problems for yourself? Your mom can call the police, and depending on the age of consent, she can even get your boyfriend into mega trouble too. Stick it out. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be, it will all come together like it should.
2006-09-04 12:54:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋