who would you be most disappointed by and who, if either, would you forgive? What would you do as revenge?
2006-09-04 05:09:04 · 36 answers · asked by Hetty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as puertoricout said he hoped this was a hypothetical question, and thankfully it is. It is the worst situation I could think of, as I love them both soooo much.
If this happened I think it would be the end of my world!
2006-09-04 05:26:30 · update #1
This one I can relate to. My father cheated on my mother with her sister about 17 years ago. until last year they were never in the same room together. My mother remarried and my father married her sister, MY AUNT! My mother just sucked it up and moved on because she had two beautiful kids to think about and we were young. I don't know what I would actually do in the situation because I have rage problems at times.
2006-09-04 05:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by denise r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water, but this would have to be your call. The husband - well he maybe the father of your children, and he will always be that, but that does not mean that you should accept, or forgive him. Get rid of now. The sister on the otherhand is the wicked one....at the end of the day both are as bad as each other, but remembering that men are led by the d...s, doesnt really suprise many people, however, a sister who could do this, the ultimate betrayal needs to be a taught a valuable lesson. Cut her off, then perhaps she may realise what she has done.
2006-09-04 05:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by jude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Both are disgusting! I would have a very hard time forgiving either of them, and in fact, I am sure I could not. Anyone else, perhaps, but a sister (or brother as the case may be...give me a break!)
2) I would be dissappointed to an extreme in both of them..never trust either in any respect again...and therefore, could not even be friends with either of them. Your sister has intentionally taken what was dearest to you from your heart...unforgivable...sorry, and I am not a hard person, and I certainly have forgiven just about everything in my life..but this, I don't think so.
3) Revenge? NOTHING...Divorce immediately, take child support to the max, alimony to the max, and don't look back at either of them..waste NO energy on either of them ever again. Use only positive energy for yourself. Time wounds all heals, and they will get theirs without your help..trust me on that one.
2006-09-04 05:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best revenge is to leave him and hook up with a really hot guy and flaunt him as often as you can in front of your flusey sister and ex.
My ex-hb. tried to have sex with my sis when she was 16. she was asleep when he climbed in bed with her and tried to get her to do him. Then to get out of it he said he was sleepwalking and thought she was me. Only trouble was I was out of town at that moment 300 miles away visiting a friend. My parents didn't protect her by calling the cops. They told her to stay away from him and that was the end of it.
If it had been mutual I would have not spoken to either. I love my sis and know that he ambushed her. She isn't that kind of person.
The other thing is that lots of people equate forgiveness with acceptance. Forgiveness is not the same as acceptance. You can forgive someone but not be ok with what they have done.
2006-09-04 06:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will not forgive neither
both suppose to respect you and care for you
Tell you sister to get some help
as for your husband divorce the bastard
sue his *** for emotional stress
ask your lawyer to contact you when he is ready to serve him the paper ---don't just kick him out of the house
( make arrangement to be the one that give him the paper Wait when he gone to work pack up his close for him put the envelop on his top of the garbage bag /because you will not put his stuff in a suitcase (why go to that expense garbage bag is what he deserved after all he is garbage ) as he coming up the step meet him out side of the house and hang him the bag with a smile tell him goodbye (remember to change your locks)
Forgive me usually I don't give advise like that but that is too much
2006-09-04 05:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I wish you the best of luck. This will NOT be easy. But if you can not forgive him and reconsile then a divorce is in order. If you have childern it will be tough on them too so consider counseling for them.
As for your sister, she will need to beg for forgivness and even then it is your call to decide WHEN and Where in your life you will forgive her.
Right now you have every right to be angry. Talk it out with a good counselor and go through this process slowly looking at everything tht led up to this.
Again best of luck.
2006-09-04 05:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all revenge is your last resource,because never go down to there level....YOU ARE CLASSIER than them! Secondly,I'll definitely be disappointed with both! Depending on the relationship you have with your sister, I'd say blood is thicker than water and you should try to forgive her but never trust her again...never 4get! Your husband should go even though i know your feelings 4 him might not let you...but Ditch him!
2006-09-04 05:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lynx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
revenge will only make things worse, consider forgiving him and her but keeping them away from each other if your going to stay together.... otherwise divorce. if you divorce thats the concequence your husband pays, your sister will have to live with the guilt for life regardless of a seperation or not. i hope this is a hypothetical question and not real. i'm sorry if it is.
2006-09-04 05:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be an extremely difficult event to deal with ! I am a very strong person though . I'd probably "Bump them both off " !!!Dig a hole out back, put her in that , and just drive around with him tied to my bumper . Oh no, that even scared me , and it's not true . I don't even have a sister .
I must be goofy , I don't normally think like that not even in jest .
2006-09-04 05:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't trust anybody after they break the trust family or no family. What i would do to my hubby is pickle his dick and put it on my beside cabinet he won't cheat again. As for my sister I would scratch her pretty little face no other man will want her. By this time I think I might be heading for prison for a little while. No seriously I don't know I do know I won't take it lightly.
2006-09-04 05:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by jules 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋