2006-09-04 05:02:22 · 47 answers · asked by mandex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe they call it divorce.
2006-09-04 05:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by Hash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do have options. It's never as simple as "cheat on him", "divorce him" or other equally overly-simplistic pieces of advice.
You and your husband are the only people that know your marriage and the reasons for his indefidelity, and you are the only person that knows (although it's undoubtedly clouded by shock, confusion and hurt) whether or not you want your husband back. If so, this is the start of a long, difficult period of trying to regain trust, trying to forgive and trying to move on. If you choose to end your marriage you have a difficult period of loss, then re-adjustment ahead of you. A decision like this is never easy but, with everything, (sorry if I sound trite) time will make things easier.
I do think, however, that the most important thing to keep in mind, is that you should always act with dignity. Don't give voyeurs the satisfaction of behaving like a crazed, out-of-control fishwife, wreaking revenge and causing havoc. Shed your tears, vent your anger, but remain dignified, then, no matter the outcome, you will always be able to be proud of yourself.
2006-09-04 09:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Friz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id solve the problem by getting shut of him, once a cheat always a cheat. It will be very hard for you at first, but you`l soon realise you did the right thing. Show him the door and start a fresh new life, your never alone you know, he will regret all this not you. Chin up, and good luck
2006-09-04 06:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by paula25catt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have thoughts. this is not in any respect so user-friendly as "cheat on him", "divorce him" or different the two overly-simplistic products of advice. You and your husband are the only those that understand your marriage and the justifications for his indefidelity, and you are the only individual who's conscious of (besides the undeniable fact that this is truthfully clouded with the help of marvel, confusion and harm) despite if or no longer you elect your husband lower back. if so, this is the commencing up of an prolonged, difficult era of attempting to regain have confidence, attempting to forgive and attempting to flow on. in case you p.c. to end your marriage you have a tricky era of loss, then re-adjustment previous to you. a call like this is in no way user-friendly yet, with each thing, (sorry if I sound trite) time will make issues much less stressful. I do think of, notwithstanding, that the main severe difficulty to recollect, is this is precious to continuously act with dignity. do no longer provide voyeurs the satisfaction of behaving like a crazed, out-of-administration fishwife, wreaking revenge and inflicting havoc. Shed your tears, vent your anger, yet proceed to be dignified, then, no remember the end result, you will continuously be waiting to be happy with your self.
2016-12-18 04:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by kennie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. It is not your problem, it is his. I hate cheaters. He has probably made you feel like this is your fault, like something you have done has made him stray to another woman. And like you need to fix whatever it is so that he will stop cheating. Well stop! Don't you dare be looking to yourself for reasons for his infidelity! Men who cheat are insecure idiots who feel they have a valid reason for what they do. The only reason they have is that they are dillusional and think they can have their cake and eat it!
You need to get out sweetheart. You deserve better. Talk to him, tell him you know what he is up to and that you can't be part of a marriage that isn't a faithful one. How he responds to that will be the answer to whether your marriage survives or not.
Good luck, I hope everything works out ok. xx
2006-09-07 01:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1: Pack up things of importance
Step 2: Get the heck outta there! Don't be a doormat for your husband to walk all over! If that doesn't work, tell him you're going to counseling together, don't ask his permission. Obviously he knows there's a problem in the marriage.
2006-09-04 05:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by denise r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let Go
Letting go of love is hard. When he suddenly pulls the rug out of from under you, you're not necessarily ready to let go of your life together.
In the beginning, it's natural to cling to whatever to the old and your dreams of what could have been. But whether you want to or not, eventually you have to put distance where there was once closeness. Bit by bit, you must begin to let go of the tiny pieces of your relationship. As you let go of your life with your partner, embrace the new life in front of you: the amazing life that is yours and yours alone.
2006-09-04 05:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over him; start a new life without him. Once they cheat, the next time is easier. Never love a man more than you love yourself.
2006-09-04 05:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by diques1018 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have concrete evidence to prove that he is cheating on you and it is not just a figment of your imagination, confront him, let him try to squirm his way out of it, then hit him with the evidence. Then if I were you iI would rid myself of him. Get a divorce. A leopard never changes its spots!
2006-09-07 14:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by sioux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his cheating *** outta of the family home, make it easy for him and the next time hes out on the pull and pack his bags for him.
it'll be hard but your not a doormat and you deserve the chance of happiness, which, as it stands at the moment you dont have.
stay strong and focused on your objective and no matter what DONT BACK DOWN
2006-09-06 08:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sad thing to hear! You must confront him, and then you have a decision to make. Are you going to stay or is it time to send him packing?
If you stay, you have to get counseling. The pain will still be there. You have to learn to forgive.
If you kick him out on his tush...don't let him come back.
Good luck Hon.
2006-09-04 05:49:58 · answer #11 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋