2006-09-04 04:07:49 · 18 answers · asked by ajr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Abortion pretty much destroys the person that gets one. Very few people can live with that kind of guilt.
Next time, don't cheat on your wife unless you are man enough to deal with the consequences.
Then again if you were a real man, you wouldn't have cheated on her in the first place.
2006-09-04 04:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK...the mess has already happened. Don't ask us, ask the woman who is pregnant..that, unfortunately for you, is entirely her decision. And, unfortunately for you, you will end up paying if she decides to keep the child..paying until the child is at least 18...now, in that case, I think the wife is going to find out, so it might as well be you who tells her. IF, on the other hand, the pregnant woman wants an abortion, then by all means pay for it and be done with the mess...then go back home and stay there.. I suspect you have learned your lesson. IF the woman decides to keep the child, I hope that, with your wife's understanding ( it would be a considerable amount, at that), you could be a large part of the child's life. The mistake has already happened...don't compound it by punishing the child, if it comes to that...Good luck. You will need it to get through this one.
PS: IF she decides to keep the child, and IF you have any reason to suspect that the child may not be yours, I think I just might insist on a DNA test IF that child is brought to term before I consented to supporting the child for 18 years. I have read the answers above and found them to be priggish at best...offer no kind of help. IF the writers of answers intend to step onto a soap box, then take it somewhere else. This guy is in a mess...it does NO GOOD to tell him to use rubbers at this point, does it? It does NO GOOD to tell him he is wrong to have stepped out...he already knows that!
2006-09-04 04:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
An abortion will create more problems. On top of cheating, you created a child. If you ask this other women to get an abortion, you are just going to create strife between the two of you. Not good. You are gonna have to confess to your wife. Get it all out there on the table. Explain to the other woman that you do not want to further your relationship with her. But you cannot kill a child simply because you do not want you wife to be mad at you.
2006-09-04 04:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i take it you had an affair and the girl is pregnant. what does the other person feel about what you are thinking? sorry to say, the damage has already been done-it is just a matter of time before it is found out. by the way, how does an abortion help your problem? i think it is kind of selfish to be thinking of you r own interests here and with the hopes of covering your tracks. unfortunately,you are only going to be able to do that for a short time. good luck
2006-09-04 04:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by lon d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absortion is not healthy for any woman. U mention that u dont want to hurt anyone then y cheat on ur wife and y ask the other woman to have an abortion?
Nxt time put a lock n key on ur pants if u cant keep it zipped!
2006-09-04 04:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
An abortion is not the answer. I say let the girlfriend have the baby, and tell your wife. Let your wife make the decision.
You should have thought about this before hand.
2006-09-04 05:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, killling your innocent son or daughter will not help. Remember, the circumstances of your child's conception are not the baby's fault, and the baby does not deserve to die. When you say you don't want to hurt anyone, I hope that includes your baby. You need to take a look at:
Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Do the right thing and support this child. That is your responsibility.
2006-09-04 11:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since your Q lacks any real substance or info,. and since others here assume this is a relationship and pregnancy apart from your marriage, I suggest you lose no matter.
What seems to be EASY, is/was the reason for the Q in the first place, with little regard for any consequences. I'll assume you have absolutely no knowledge of Protection, or no true effective method for caring about what you do.
Whatever this is about,, I truly don't care. I am GOOD not GOD, so I don't have to do more than utter a BIG SIGH.
Rev. Steven
2006-09-04 04:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by DIY Doc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
an abortion will not cause more problems, it is getting rid of one. and it don't affect all women bad, it's not like your attatched to somthing that you can't even feel yet it's only a cell at first.and you can have another child when your ready. but it is the womans choice.i would not tell the wife if you plan on staying married, but if she has it you will eventualy have to tell her because Im sure your not gonna get away without paying c/s.
2006-09-04 04:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should of thought of this before you committed ADULTERY.Now you're looking for an out.It sounds as though you need to grow up a bit. Or get a divorce.Go ahead,be another bad statistic.
2006-09-04 04:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by scott m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋