My parents had to be away for a month I did what I regret, joined bad crowds, was about to get in seriuos trouble (didn't). Mom came 2 weeks ago and got to know. It's true I messed up, mom is treating me with love, but gave me a a punishment. I only go out with her. Cell phone, internet and friends are controlled. although I can swim on wednesdays, fun only on weekends and with some restrictions. Shes controlling my clothes, only decent shirts over a bra, braless no way (this will be forever) At night I stay home and spend quality time w/ mom, when we talk about life, right and wrong. This is not that bad, I know I was sidetracked, but such restrictions suck. And since mom wants me full of activities, I'm taking a culinary course. I complained, but mom was inflexible. I hate this course. There are "homeworks", so I spend good part of my free time including saturday mornings in the course or in the kitchen wearing a cute frilly apron (gotta wear it). Itll be like !. for one month more
2006-09-04 04:05:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
when my parents were away, my grandma took care of us. My mom said she´ll trust me again if I take my punishment without rebelling and show her I'm decided to change. I won't rebel and have alredy chaged. But, isnt that culinary course and the frilly apron a bit overboard?
2006-09-04 04:05:54 · update #1
Posted this in two places I see. Take your punishment, quit whining and follow the rules next time.
2006-09-04 04:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that just by reading this that your mom loves you very much and is trying to do what's best for you. She wants to steer you towards the right direction. I'm sure that she doesn't want to be this inflexible, least of all she doesn't want you to see her as "the bad guy". Sometimes tough love really is tough.
I wouldn't worry too much about the culinary course though, there's only a month left of it, right? And believe me, a lot of people are impressed with people who know how to cook since it seems to be becoming a lost art among the younger generations. The guys love it too! ;)
Sometimes to deal with a punishment, we just have to swallow our pride, admit that we messed up, and take the punishment until it ends. Sometimes there's just no way to shorten it. But I commend you for knowing that you messed up and knowing that you deserved the punishment, you sound a lot more mature and wise than other kids at your age. Just don't make the same mistakes twice down the road. You are lucky to have a mom that cares so much for your wellbeing.
2006-09-04 10:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Janelle B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the culinary course will teach you that everything has its place a lil to much can just ruin it all!! or a lil cant ruin it as well.
I think its fair! at 13 why do you want to go bra less? God I'm 22 and wont go bra-less unless the shirt call for it and even then I look for a bra to accommodate it! I didn't rebel until I was 14-15 and I regret it. I think your mom is doing the right thing stick to it! and you ll appreciate it. what are you doing at nite anyways don't you have an 11 curfew in your state??
2006-09-04 05:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mother loves you very much. The punishment could have been much worse, so be thankful. Your mom is only looking out for your well-being and trying to make you a responsible teenager. Good for her. Too many times I see kids your age out running the streets and their parents don't care what their kids are doing. I only wish my mom would have cared 1/2 as much as your mom does. I commend you for taking responsibility for your actions and realizing what you did was wrong.
My best advice would be take your punishment and mark it as a lesson learned. It could have been much worse, especially if the police were involved.
Enjoy spending the time with your mom, some day you will look back (especially when you have kids of your own) and see that she was right.
2006-09-08 03:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by proud mom of 2 girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a mothers point of view, you are simply adorable. What I would have given to have my own daughter react as you have.
Sweetheart, listen closely. If this is the worst you have been given for punishment, you are truly blessed. You dont know it now, but you certainly are.
Im surrounded by parents where I live who couldnt give 2 shits for their kids. The parents themselves are drug addicts, alcoholics and abusive. There are young girls running around here who are pregnant at 13, drug addicts at 12, broken bones from absuive parents.
if you think for a moment this is too much for you to handle, I suggest you take 5 minutes to put yourself in a situation where you had no mother. None. You were simply on your own to deal with all life had to handle.
I would give anything to have my daughter home. But she isnt. She is long gone at way too young of an age. Ive looked for her desperately to find her finally after 8 months a drug addicta and dating a man old enough to be her father. She is wanted by the law and already has felonies. She is only 16. What I would give to have her knock on my door and just want to chat with me for awhile like your mother does with you.
2006-09-04 04:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by bolo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this...you have to take it. It is an unfortunate truth that trust takes a lifetime to build and a moment to destroy. In your parents' mind, it's not just a matter of trust but a matter of your maturity and decision-making skills. You have to admit that you failed miserably. Your parents have no choice but to pull in the reins for a while. Hang in there. One more thing...they aren't just angry because you broke the rules; they are also terrified at what could have happened to you. Now, they just want to make sure you get better at making decisions before they let you go again.
2006-09-04 04:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by camotx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do agree with you that you should take your punishment. I also see your mother's point to making you take the extra course. However, i do not agree that it should be something you intensely dislike. You will never be good at it if you hate it. Maybe suggest another course to your mom that would be more to your liking? Sounds like you have good parents though.
2006-09-04 04:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope not overboard. Your parents are responsible for you until you are an adult. Since you're living under their roof you may as well do it by following their rules. Just think in a few short years you will be able to get out on your own and be responsible for paying your own rent/mortgage, paying your own car payment as well as car insurance payment, pay for your own doctor bills, pay for electricity, telephone, gas, internet connection, cable television as well as your own groceries and clothing. And of course you will have to do all of it by obtaining and keeping a fulltime job, making sure that you get your butt out of bed every single morning and getting to work ontime.
2006-09-07 22:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm just a few years older than u so i'm not really in a position 2 give u advice.the punishment is a bit too harsh but u seem 2 have crossed the line rather a lot...soooo....what can i say...deal with it. peace!
2006-09-04 04:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the trouble you could have gotten into could have been worse. Just deal with the punishment and straighten up.
2006-09-04 04:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋