does anyone know of any programs that help moms and pregnant women get jobs? I am not trying to get on welfare even though I have been looking for a job for months and I am 4mnths pregnant and 20yr old college student currently living with my mom but she has giving me a month to move out my bf wants me to move with him but being real we both arent doing so good his parents kicked him out he haas no job and lives with his grandparents and has been dismissed from our college that we both go to. I know I might end up getting on welfare and I really really dont want to. I really need help and I dont know who to turn to and I dont want to end up giving my baby up for adoption that will hurt to much. Especially after seeing my sonogram and finding out that its a girl. I really need help and really I dont have any family to truly turn to and my friends have all basically abandoned me and arent really thinking about helping me because they have their on lives. I dont want to drop out of school
2006-09-04 03:57:29 · 6 answers · asked by dimergurl247 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and where I live in order to get on welfare you have to get in this program that conflicts with my schooling and I refuse despite all of what I'm going through to become a loser and not finish school. What should I do? Please honest answers
2006-09-04 03:59:05 · update #1
all ican tell you is to finish your schooling. cause if you dont you will end up like my cousin. she is 21 with 2 kids. on welfare from dropping out of school . noone will hire her cause she doesnthave a diploma or any jobskills. she cant go to college because she doesnt have her diploma. social services can help you with babysitting while you search for a job. good luck
2006-09-04 04:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you have taken the first step right here. You have so many options to help yourself, and your baby. I know that you don't want to go on welfare, but that is exactly what it was designed for, to help people on a short term basis. It doesn't make you a bad person, and nowadays, no one will even know that you are on it because the card looks like a debit card. You need to contact your local Socail Services office. Because you have no one to turn to, but the father is involved, your going to have to go in together. I am not sure how the program works where you live, but there are laws that protect both of you. You can apply for food stamps, TANF (temporary assistance for needy families), WIC (Women, Infants and children), and Medicaid so that the birth and your doctors visits will be paid for. There are also job placement programs, and training programs too through these affiliations. You aren't alone, I promise. And it doesn't make you a bad person for having to ask for help. Just don't let your pride stand in the way of getting that help. And just so you know, I am a 32 year old mom of three...my first born is about to be 12, and when I was 19, and in college for the first year, I found out that I was pregnant with her. Her sperm donor didn't stay in the pic, and I had to get the exact help that I am offering you here. You don't have to drop out of school, but it isn't going to be easy, and I am sure you already know that. You will be ok, and so will your little girl. It is amazing the things that we do for our children.....even before we have met them. Good luck, and God bless..........I just read your edit list, and I wanted to add this. If you qualify for WIC, in most areas, that also qualifies you for most of the above programs. I know what you said about it being conflicting with your schedule for school, but there has to be a happy medium, and maybe you are just not talking to the right person. Go for WIC first and see where that leads you, and also check the school you attend and see if there are any programs available through them to help you graduate. You may have help available after the baby is born such as free daycare, housing help, etc. Prayers are with you...:)
2006-09-04 04:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with taking assistance while you truly need it. Go to your local Department of Human Services and sign up for every darned benefit you can. Use them to get your education and start raising strong kids. Then, as you become able, you can leave the assistance behind.
When you're older and in a more stable position you can help other young women who were once in your shoes. This is how the system is SUPPOSED to work.
And after this baby is born get on some good, reliable birth control.
2006-09-04 04:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Simone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the unemployment office has a program to help and get on the computer to find jobs. have you been to any temp angency's? you might just have to get on welfare at least until you finish school .I can't believe your mom is kicking you out! my daughter is 3 mo preg, no job, and she can stay forever, she's my child no matter how old she is [23] and she is having my grandchild.her b/f is here too and he works. but atleast try to finish school so you can give that beautiful baby a good life. there's all kinds of programs that will help until you get on your feet. I'm in indiana.good luck.
2006-09-04 04:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids make you stronger-even when your not ready-because of that little girl you will turn your life around-go to the local church-you don't need to be catholic-someone may help you get your feet back on the ground-my advice get a job-something decent-speak to the owners of companies-tell them your a college student and need a chance-you need to find away to stay in school as well-or go back shortly after the birth-even if it's one class a semester-trust me you can do it! and as for the father-he better work his a-- off too-otherwise it's court tI'me- i have made my share of mistakes in life-but the trick is stay strong-don't let anyone get in your way or say-what a shame!!-im more successful then people twice my age- educated- beautiful-successful and have a gift that most people are in the fertility clinics for(not that there is anything wrong w/ that) you know what I'm saying! my best of luck to you!
2006-09-04 04:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of programs you can get involved in. Hopefully if you don't have insurance you are at least using Medicaid while you are pregnant and your little one will also be eligible. Plus, are you getting WIC? I know you don't want to get on assistance and hopefully you won't have to, but at this point you can't let your pride get in the way of doing whatever you have to do to keep your baby girl healthy. Do you have a helpline (211) number in your area? Try to contact a social service agency and explain your situation. Social workers will help link you to resources to help you find employment. You will be OK! I'm proud of you for reaching out for help.
2006-09-04 04:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by glitterprincess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋