At first i was just scared but now that i am in my third trimester i am very much excited i havent dropped out of school and i dont intend to my teen pregnancy isnt like any other one the dad who is also my fiance is still with me and we already have a house together(he is a bit older) we have already designed his nursery and i have been to so many parenting classes jake makes very good money so when i am at school i wil have a baby sitter for ryan ...........I am so scared that i wont be a good mommy how can i get this feeling away
2006-09-04 03:56:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have also raised my nephew who is now 2 years old since birth and he is like one of my own
2006-09-04 04:11:27 · update #1
Jacob the babys father is very supporive about this and he is so happy he cant wait also .......fyi i would never give my baby up for adoption and i am ready to be a mother
2006-09-04 04:12:57 · update #2
Regardless of age or station, every mother feels that way in the last few months. I was convinced that my baby wold hate me. I was wrong, of course.
2006-09-04 04:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by rachely1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is something everyone worries about regardless of age if it is your first child if you are 16 or 76. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to be prepared for your baby, just keep your head on straight, you WILL miss going out and having a life. I was 20 when I had my first baby, and It sucked not to be able to go out, even though I was very happily married, and still am at 27, just because you are 16 does not mean you will not be a good mother, I know plenty who are and of course plenty who are not. Just remember he is a blessing, no matter what your situation is. I look at my 2 kids everyday and give them the biggest hugs I can I love them so much. Sit back relax and everything will happen as it should Good Luck!!
2006-09-04 04:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Funny thing is ....Admitting that your scared of not measuring up MAKES you a GREAT Mommy!!! You are being realistic and admitting you have limited experience, We were all in your shoes at one time or another. I mean think of it you have a human life that is solely dependent on you anything you say or do will reflect on the outcome of your child. That is enough to petrify anyone!! It sounds like you got it together though, and you seem to be doing everything right....Just a secret from one Mom to another....that feeling will never go away...and that is how it should be.....you will still be worrying about him when he is well into his life married with kids.....WELCOME to the club newbie!!! The pay sucks but the benefits are priceless!!! congrats to the both of you and Good Luck!!
2006-09-04 04:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, we have a lot in common im 17 and half and im 8 months and 1 week, my fiance is a little bit older then me to. We have a house and a nursery put together too.
Everyone keeps telling me that the mother part will come natural. Plus i also think well I am doing good so far i have went to all my doc appts. and everything so i am in a good start already.
2006-09-04 05:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when I got preg. at 16 I use to think the same thing. You WILL be fine hun keep your head up. When the baby comes along no they do not come with instructions yet, you are the mother and I am sure you WILL know what to do and if you EVER need any help there is ALWAYS SOMEONE out there waiting to help answer those questions! And YES, finish school there are so many people like my self that did not and now sets back and regrets it every day. BEST WISHES! CONGRATS!
2006-09-04 04:04:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are going to make a great mommy. Those feelings pop up because in trying so hard, you have fooled yourself into thinking that you might not be able to live up to your own standards. Every good mom doubts herself, you know. That's one of their characteristics! And another thing. If I can offer you anything at all to push you forward, I would tell you that you don't need to give any explanation about who you are and where you are in life. You seem to be handling yourself so well, you should be really proud of who you are. All the best, okay.
2006-09-04 04:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to do fine... Every mother starts off being worried about that...
One tip: It seemed like when my daughter was very small I lost all common sense (I have also seen other mothers do the same). Just remember, you are taking care of a tiny person with special needs. I remember I would freak when she would get sick... lol... Just make sure you have someone that can help you through those times, a good advice nurse would do the trick just fine... or maybe your mom too...
Good luck and congratulations.... You are going to do fine.
2006-09-04 04:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 14 turning 15 soon and I don't know everything about pregnancies but for you being so young and having a baby you seem prepared. I know most teen pregnancies dont really turn out so good but you seem ready and prepared. I hope you, your fiance and your new baby have a really nice life. Good luck with the pregnancy :)
2006-09-04 04:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Xavier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I had a baby when i was your age and i felt exactly the same way.
All a lot of "what if`s" Honestly Hunny you will take so well to motherhood especially if your partner is as loving and supporting as you say.
My daughter is coming up for 13 years old now nd we are best friends!
No matter how old you are you will have these feelings they are normal for any new mum, but you will be just fine.
I now have 3 children and even after my last one i had the same feelings.
Well done for staying in school, i gave it up but now i am starting University this month as all my children are in school now.
GOOD LUCK to you but i am positive you will not need any luck. just go with your natural motherly instincts and your heart and you will make a perfect mum...
XXX
2006-09-04 04:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by kerry r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am happy for you that you have your life so figured out at such a young age, but I will not lie to you...Being a mom is hard! I think most new moms feel that they won't do a good job, you will learn as you go. Just take it day by day, accept help from family and friends if it is offered and you will be fine.
Good Luck with Ryan!
2006-09-04 04:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess every first time mother feels that way, I guess you pick it up really soon and the mother instincts really kick in fast. I'm a first time mother to be and I also feel this way, so I'm trying to prepare like you are, but I'm sure once the baby is here you will just know what is good or bad for him.
Good luck and congrats
2006-09-04 04:06:32 · answer #11 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋