How do I ask a friend thats also a coworker out if I'm not sure they're gay?

Answer 1

don't ask..just watch. hope it helps.

Answer 2

Wow. The old saying that even a dog knows not to poop where he eats might apply. Relationships at work are not the best idea in the world.

Could be really messy if your coworker is offended. Does she know that YOU are gay? Then you can just ask her if she'd like to stop for a glass of wine after work one night (or coffee) and if she is interested, she'll do it. Then you just spend time getting to know her more on a personal basis, and see what happens. But if she's straight, it's just coworkers having a coffee or wine together, it's not a 'date" and it should be cool.

Answer 3

Hmmm...is this friend/coworker also a woman? If so, you might ask her to just hang out and have a drink somrtime. Not romantically, just say you want to go unwind with a friend. That may give her an opening in a friendly setting to let you know if she is onto men or women. It could work out in your favor. People are more open to discussing private matters in a social setting.

Answer 4

I agree that asking out a co-worker is not a good idea. But I also think that the best way to ask someone out is to just ask the person out for a beer or a movie or whatever. Like others have said, it could just be two pals doing something together. And while out, you can get a better idea of where he or she stands. You might also realise that you don't like him or her in a social setting after all!

Answer 5

I can't believe people are giving you advice on how to do it. You should NEVER date a person from work, gay, straight or otherwise. It will only make things more difficult in the event of a break up, promotion, etc. Find some one to date outside the office. Office gossip and sexual harassment charges, (even if you think you're innocent) are good reasons not to pursue this further.

Answer 6

I once really liked a co worker, but wasnt sure if she was gay, I asked her if she wanted to get some thai food and a movie after work one day
she said yes, over dinner we talked about ourselves, she talked about her ex husband and the guy she currently liked
so it was all cool, we stayed good friends too this day, we often laugh about it cos Ive now confessed I liked her, (she no longer lives in my city but im going to spend this weekend with her)
just be careful, go slow, and even if she isnt into you , she still might be a lifelong friend

Answer 7

Only ask others out for a "date" if you know they are gay. Otherwise, it is just two girls going out on the town as platonic friends.

Avoid dating coworkers, period.

Answer 8

Very carefully. If you are wrong, you could be subject to a complaint of sexual harassment. I would spend more time with them in non threatening ways. Go shopping, ask them if they would like to see a play or concert and go dutch. Until you are sure, do things that are non threatening and very straight in appearance. Otherwise, find someone else to go out with.

Answer 9

I'm not sure asking is a good thing, I say this because if that person feels they are being exposed they will say NO I'M NOT! just out of instinct. I know this because I react that way when I'm being asked. Good Luck


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Answer 10

i think you should ask that person out as a friend and then ask a fews question about their past relationship that way you will now if their gay or not

Answer 11

Never ask such question to a person. Most gay people will tell if they wanted you to know or if they cared you knowing. I would think that If you have a lesbian friend she would tell you about her dates. Gay people are smart and they know how to let you know.