Should being a surrogate mother be outlawed in the USA. Do you think you could give the child up at birth?

Question

A close friend of mine is thinking about becoming a surrogate. What would you do?

Answer 1

no i dont think it should be outlawed, there are many women out there who can't carry a baby to full term or get pregnant at all....and then there are women who can and some love being pregnant and would love to be a surrogate mother....I have a friend, who can get pregnant but she wouldn't be able to carry a baby to full term, cuz of a lung disease she has and she loves and adores children and would like to have one of her own someday and i am willing to be a surrogate mother for her!

Answer 2

Is there anything anymore that somebody doesn't think there should be a law against.
What the hell is going on.
If all parties involved are satisfied with the arrangement why the hell should anybody else get involved.
No question, minds could change. Situations change. So
Everyday of our lives is like that.
Life is full of good and bad decisions. We all know that, but I still want to make those decisions myself.
And, unable to have one on our own, if we wanted a child and could afford someones willing to surrogate you bet I'd do it.
Of course I would have to realize the possiblity of the mothers wanting their child, ok, people keep buying lottery tickets, right?
Hey, if you don't play you can't win.
Other choices, at best, are limited.
Adoption is, at least as expensive as a surrogate, if not more expensive, takes an eternity and is damn near impossible in the United States.
Foster children are subject to the whims of the state and various bureaucrats and come with all kinds of problems to long to list here.
Do you really think people would want to spend all these additional expenses to obtain a child if there was another way?
If half the energy that is spent on screaming about how people
may try to obtain children was spent on helping get children to good parents, good parents, not necessarily state qualified parents, perhaps using the same guilde lines that qualify people as foster parents none of this would even be entertained in the first place.

Answer 3

Make sure the friend is sure this is something that she really wants to do. It helps if she knows the couple, and knows it will be a good environment for the baby. It will be very difficult for her to give it up. After carrying the baby and becoming attached it is very hard but can be done. It is not a decision to take lightly. Not only the emotions of loss when she gives up the baby, but the stretch marks, morning sickness, etc that goes along with being pregnant. It is not something that I would recommend if it is her first child. If she has had a child already she knows what she is in for and would have a better idea if she could give the baby up as planned. But be supportive in whatever your friend chooses. She will need help, understanding, support from all of her friends and be a true friend. She will get a little grouchy because this is a big decision, so try not to take things to heart that she says towards you. Be a true Friend and stick with her.

Answer 4

My best friend lost her little boy when he was 8 months old. He would be about 15 now. Anyhow, she is unable to have children due to scarring in her womb. We've talked about it but I told her as much as I would love to help make her dream come true, I just didn't think I could carry a child, even though the child isn't mine, for nine months and then give it up. I know I would be a part of the child's life, but I just don't think I could do it. As far as being outlawed, then no. I think it is a beautiful example of human compassion for surrogate mothers to do this for people who need help.

Answer 5

women who become surrogate mothers do it for the sake of the couple who is not able to conceive, and for the love of the child who has a chance at a loving family.

Doing it for any other reason is not good. You dont become a surrogate mother because you want to have a child to raise yourself.

I dont believe it should be outlawed, although i do believe it should be closely monitored, so that in instances where the birth mother keeps the child from the biological mother, monies are not lost on their efforts.

Answer 6

I think people who use surrogates are pretty selfish. There are thousands of orphans in this world who need loving families. I guess some people get so desperate to have a child of their own that they don't care about putting the health of others in jeopardy. Surrogacy would be a very difficult thing to do emotionally and physically. I just hope that your friend has all the facts.

Answer 7

I know I couldn't do it, I have three children of my own & having them is the greatest joy of my life.
I would suppose if you looked at it as a job & formed no emotional attatchment to the baby, it could be done.
I wonder what emotional toll it would be for the surrogate, to carry the child & give it up as soon as birth.

Answer 8

I wouldn't be a surrogate nor would I use one.

Even so, I think they should be allowed. They and the parents should be required to sign a contract that clearly outlines the expectations of both parties.

Answer 9

It should be outlawed because there are too many people in the world already - we dont need more
its not like humans are an endangered species - quite the opposite is true - we are destroying the planet simply by our numbers...

Answer 10

No because there are people out here like me that would give anything to have someone carry a child for my husband and myself! so I don't think so and you may think that his is a selfish answer but I am sorry this is how I feel!