Alright I am female 28 and I have a neighbor that I am very attracted to, the problem is I can't even talk to her I'm pretty sure she is a lesbian. She probably wouldn't even think that I'm interested because I have always been with guys but I have been attracted to women also. So my question is how do I get to know her better? Furthermore, she is a teacher and I'm kind of the wild, partying type which doesn't help matters either!
2006-09-04 02:46:20 · 18 answers · asked by purplebay 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, they do say that opposites attract, and don't let your fear turn you away from a potential relationship!
First you need to get to know her. You know she's a teacher, so she's probably always on the look out for special deals on school supplies for the kids (don't know what grade she teaches) so start telling her about sale syou see at office stores or wal-mart. Come up with some reason to start talking to her on a regular basis. Start up a friendship, before you rush into anything else.
Once you've established a friendship....just ask her on a date! By this time you'll know for sure if she is a lesbian....and if there is a spark, you'll both know. Don't assume that just because she's a teacher that she doesn't have a wild side.....Sometimes relationships are the best, because you could shake her up, and she could settle you down.
Good luck, have fun and be happy.
2006-09-04 03:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out absolutely, positively that she's a lesbian before even attempting what most everyone has told you to do. Sorry if this sounds "bad" to you gay folks, but there is nothing worse for a straight person than being misdiagnosed as a homosexual. It can often lead to depression and self doubt, feelings of self worthlessness and terror. Never assume a person is homosexual. It could get you hurt depending on how homophobic that person is. You need to tell her you are homosexual, and never ask her her sexual preference. Once you tell her you're gay she'll tell you either with body language, or verbally if she's interested or not. Next time you run into her at the mail box, or while out working in the lawn...ask her what she has planned for the weekend...let her tell you, and more than likely she'll ask you the same. Tell her you're going to some gay pride function and watch her expression.
2006-09-04 04:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a small get together or movie night, invite some neighbors including her. Let her get to know you better before you approach her on anything other than a friendship level. Invite her over for coffee on a Sunday morning, to simply talk.
You don't know she is a lesbian, and since you think school teachers are not wild partying types, I wouldn't trust your judgment.
2006-09-04 04:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's outside in her yard, why don't you strike up a little conversation. Just an ordinary conversation. Get to know her for a few months before spilling the beans about your attraction to her. Take your time and let things happen naturally. Perhaps you could bake her some cookies and knock on her door if you have enough courage? Just a suggestion to break the ice over the nervousness...
2006-09-04 06:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by sugarbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can invite her over for dinner one night or something casual like tea and biscuits. you can talk about everyday things like your work. then as time goes on you can ask if she is seeing anybody and find out what kind of people she is interested in. you dont want to move to fast and scare her off. which by the way teachers can be freaks too my mom and sister are teachers. so i know all about teachers and their secret lives. lol just intiate some conversation with her. find out what you can and go from there. good luck!
2006-09-04 04:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by lindsey_philyaw_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her over for dinner!In the middle of a conversation touch her hand and read her face if she pulls away and looks horrified it means she is'n interested but you can still defend yourself by saying you like to touch people when your talking.But most important just be yourself.And opposites attract for what you might know she has a cruse on you.
2006-09-04 03:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You live right next to her. There's oportunities to talk to her. Start conversations with her when you see her. Invite her over to help decide what color to paint your livingroom or something. Just make use of all the excuses to talk to your neighbor, and step it up a notch to dinner sometime.
2006-09-04 11:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her round for a drink one night wine always brings the truth out when drunk in moderation while watching a good soppy movie let her choose between two titles, one that has Lesbians in it and one which hasn't. Who knows what she'll pick ?!?
2006-09-04 04:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if you don't talk to her, you'll never know. Go talk to her. If you stumble, get embarrassed, feel awkward... just fess up that feel like a kid with a crush. She'll probably be flattered and it'll break the tension. If she's not cool about it, then she's probably not such a cool person after all.
2006-09-04 03:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know lots of teachers who are the wild partying type. Get Chatting broach the subjecty of sexuality and take it from there.
2006-09-04 03:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by malcy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋