i had been so inlove with the father of my son before then i just wake up one day loosing the feeling,im so sad,.but wat could i do.......im so confuse
2006-09-04 02:40:17 · 15 answers · asked by bruce 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It not the end of the world. There must be some reason/s u fell out of love with him... but watever the reason/s r it natural........these things do happen. just try to make the best of life from now on......it will take u a while but u will get over it.......
2006-09-04 02:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion "then i just wake up one day loosing the feeling" is not true. I think that some problems with your husband came together and totaly arised. I hope these r small problems which u can pretend not to see. Or dont let them come together, discuss with him every little detail to solve them. I worry if they r big problems like cheating, another woman, etc. Nothing to do then.
I have been married for 6 years and i still luv her as the 1st day. I m sure she luvs me too. To be tolerant is the key for an happy marriage.
2006-09-04 03:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by HOTTürk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,But I don't think that we really fall out of love.I think want we do is get bored with each other.We stop doing the things that we use to do when we were dating and it's like why try.You don't just fall out of love,think about it what would you think if he left you for someone else.You would be hurt and ready to hurt someone.You are experiencing what I think is just being bored.You need to try and get him to do things with you together,go out on a date,cook a romantic dinner,what ever just do things together.I have been there I know from experience what you are talking about I was married to my husband for 19 years and just thought I was not in love with him anymore.We had some problems I let them get the best of me.We divorced then 1 year later on our anniversary we remarried we have a total of 28 years together,I love him more today than I did when we started dating I cant see me without him.So what ever it is you are going through pray and seek god to help you in your marriage I know he will,because he really helped mine.Also start going places together and doing things together you will be surprised what that we do for your relationship.Good luck and may my god bless your marriage as he has blessed mine a friend.Tina
2006-09-04 03:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Tina H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time changes the dream into the reality of adult relationships. Do some things that make you feel attached to him again some old things and try some new and different things. He might not know that you don't have the loving feelings for him. Spice things up for you and he will appreciate it. Good luck
2006-09-04 06:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven't fallen out of love...you've fallen out of lust. those "mooshy-feel good sparks" at the beginning of every relationship come and go...it's up to you and your husband to keep them alive....or make them better.
Any relationship, whether it be a friendship or marriage requires daily work. just like a flower or plant needs attention and water everyday, so does a relationship. if you just leave it unattended it will start to die.
try one of those marriage encounter weekends or go to the library or research books on the internet of ways to "spark up your marriage". ...remember all the little things you used to do to make your husband feel special when you were dating? do you do them anymore? the same also goes for him...he should be making you feel special. don't give up..this is how it will be with any relationship..they are ALL hard work. you just need to find the "mooshy-feel good sparks" again. :-) feelings and emotions happen..what you do with them is a choice. you need to choose to feel in love with him again.
on a side note...if you are feeling this way and you don't have any children yet...don't have any. you need to get your marriage on track before throwing kids into the mix. children deserve a 2 parent home so make sure you've got a good strong one. :-)
good luck :-)
2006-09-04 03:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because married is not about love at all..its more on commitment to our vow and to our husband/wife. It normal that once in a while we will get bored and want for change..I guess its human nature.but we have the committment we swore when we get married. we cannot say one day after we woke up that I dont want you right?..try to change your life but first let your husband know how u feel try to be hoonest so he could help you and you can both save your marriage. wishing the best in life!
2006-09-04 02:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by simplegal170905 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really sure you were "in love" to begin with? I thought I was with my ex until after 8 years he said the same thing to me," I've fallen out of love with you." No. He just didn't want the responsibilty of the relationship, and cheated on me. Now I realize I didn't ever really love him either. It was just someone to be with. Be real careful who you are with. It does make a difference.
2006-09-04 03:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by frecklzface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is because you regard LOVE as something like just a FEELING. but the truth is, LOVE IS NOT ABOUT FEELINGS AT ALL. Love is a constant decision. it is deciding that whatever happens, for better or for worst, for richer or for poorer..that you will still CHOOSE to love the person and to stay with them. relationships are about your emotions for a while, but emotions/feelings rarely ever last. Emotions are very unsteady, unstable, and ever changing so you cant trust on it to get you through your whole life together. eventually you will soon get used to a person (such as your husband), then you will know his real attitudes..and there might be something about him that you dont like and have just recently found out, but TRUE love is about overlooking all those petty things and still choosing to be in love. true love is about being free to be yourself without pretending to be someone else, and still have the feeling of security that no matter who you are and what you do, you will always be loved and that'll never change...that you'll still going to be beautiful in his eyes.
you are confused right now because you depend so much on feelings and emotions. but those are never to be trusted becoz sometimes our emotions betray us. the relationship in marriage is not about feelings anymore, although its still there. but its more of trust, companionship, and the conscious decision of choosing to love despite everything. choose to love.
2006-09-04 02:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your confusion. In my case, he quite trying so, I no longer have the same feelings. Plus, the way he treats me, how can you love someone that doesn't treat you right?
2006-09-04 05:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just the difference of IN and OUT.
2006-09-04 02:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by a j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋