thought about (sexually) or wanted another woman since we got married. I know the Bible says lusting is a sin. But I find it hard to believe that hubby has never lusted after someone else.
2006-09-04 02:15:47 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK - here's the deal - he's been impotent our entire marriage (8 yrs). Now I realize that's why! If - I say, IF - he really doesn't think about sex and he has no sex drive, that's why he's been impotent. Question is why doesn't he have a sex drive?! He's been to the docs and the say all is fine. Hubby never told me in all our 8 yrs that he never thought about anyone else.
I've never had sex with anyone else during our marriage, but I have fantasized.
2006-09-04 02:23:14 · update #1
Actually, we're in the process of divorcing.
2006-09-04 02:24:04 · update #2
Something just occured to me...I caught him watching porn a few months ago. He's been doing it obsessively for about 2 years. And I just found out a few months ago. So there's my answer...he MUST be lying. How can you watch porn and NOT fantasize?
2006-09-04 02:36:05 · update #3
Your husbnad sounds like a real sweetheart - mine is just the same. He says he never looks at another woman because a) he loves me and b) he respects me. He considers it wrong to stray and that temptation could lead to such things. It does sound unlikely and I'm sure,deep down, he's had his 'thoughts' occassionally, but I know MY man and I know he'd never lie to me. So, if you're sure he's honest then count yourself very lucky - you've got one special guy there!
2006-09-04 02:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mrsdanieljackson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being impotent and not having sex since you got married could be a reason for him not to fantasize..
But if as the doc says there is no problem, probably you can get a 2nd opinion..
It is normal for a person to fantasize, more so when the man get older and looses the sex drive, the more they fantasize, the more they suffer from sexual defficiency syndrome, the more the fantasize,
But he could be an excepion anyway...
2006-09-04 02:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is either a Saint or he his fibbing a little in order to save your feelings. He may not be thinking of another woman ALL the time, but I would wager a bet that at SOME time he has. It is human nature- Do you fantasize about other men? I am positive that my wife does, as well, but she is like your husband.... in a state of denial, because it is considered to be a sin! I know that I do on occasion, but I too Fib to my wife about it to keep from hurting her feelings! My advice..... Leave it alone. You will just make him more uncomfortable with getting intimate with you, in fear of you thinking that he is thinking about another woman.
2006-09-04 02:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u r very correct on ur side ...sex is a very impt force which binds the marital relationship
If he is physically fit as u said but still doesnt want to have sex its very weird either he is having a extra marital affair or he is a whimsical guy ..... its better u guys choose ur own path and say bye to each other in a graceful way
2006-09-04 02:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by funky_dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesnt want to upset you by saying he has/does....
But then you also need to think about what you mean by fantasize..... Full blown thoughts of going to bed with another woman or just like seeing someone in the street and thinking they are hot.....
2006-09-04 02:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by emcharl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can appreciate the beauty of another woman and admire her without lusting after her. If a man is truly in love with his wife, he has no desire for another woman. What causes men to want other women is mistrust in their partner. If you never give him a reason to want another woman, you can trust in what he says.
2006-09-04 02:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Cal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh, glasshopper, you have much to learn about the male gender. I am a man, OK? Trust me on this.
There is only one way a man NEVER fantasizes about other women or thinks about them or looks at then on the street. That is if that man is 100%, card-carrying gay. So either he is gay or he is lying to protect your feelings. It is normal for men to think and to look. The same for women. Pretending to not have the thoughts of feelngs is a good way to get emotionally sick.
Look at his behavior. Is he lying about other things? Is there time unaccounted for? LIsten to your heart and your gut.
2006-09-04 02:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should thank your lucky stars that he's like that. My wife has two friends who's husbands are the same and when I talk to them, they tell me pretty much the same thing. They're just so in love with their wives and they know that love making (not casual sex) is what really gives them pleasure in their lives and the fact that they're really into this kind of intense emotional stuff with their wives...is truly commendable. I know I haven't thought of any women after I got married, I just love my wife too much to have thoughts of that kind.
2006-09-04 02:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? 3 months? 5 years? 20 years?
If your relationship is new, and if you've kept yourself attractive (both physically and spiritually) -- perhaps he's telling the truth. If you've been married for some time, and he says he's never even been seriously tempted, well, then I'm thinking his sex drive must be pretty low.
2006-09-04 02:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by pilgrimchd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the additional comments are canceling your statements out. ALL married people fantasize about someone else, and if they tell ya they don't they're full of sh*t.
Bottom line what is your question??
2006-09-04 04:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋