I do not know what the problem is. She tenses up as I am about to enter. I do enjoy the tight feel but she is obviously in pain. As i progress all is fine but initial entry for the past few weeks has been a little hell for her. She has been to the doctor and they cannot find anything wrong with her (no std's). What could be wrong? Help me out guys have not had any in a month and I am horny as hell.
2006-09-04 01:40:04 · 13 answers · asked by trevor w 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
you should seek out a specialist who focuses on women's health, sexual problems and gynocology.
i have heard of this problem before and it is actually quite frequent. you should definately seek out another doctor who will take this more serious and not brush it off.
the problem could be physical or psychological, but more likely a combination of both.
as difficult as it may be, but you should seriously try to "lay off" trying to have sex with your wife right now. and by that i mean vaginal sex. see if you guys can go just doing each other orally.
and do not be upset about this, as your attitude will definately make the situation worse and could even lead to the break up of your marriage.
you have to be very kind and gentle with her now until you find a proper doctor who can work with your wife.
like i said, she will probably not mind just giving you oral for a while, just don't try to force your way into her vagina.
most of the time it is a psychological issue, but there are some instances when it is simply a "motor" problem and her body just spasms for no real reason.
but like i said, it's probably psychological, so there probably IS a reason her body is doing this.
good luck to her!
2006-09-04 02:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason she's tensing up when you're about to enter is likely because of the pain she's experienced before - part of our natural human instict is to protect ourselves from pain. Take it slow with her, and respect it when she asks you to stop or slow down. Be sure to use lots of lube.
There might be a lot of reasons she's having pain during intercourse. You said they did "tests," what kind of tests? ultrasound? (external or internal or both?) ct? internal exam? laporoscopy? If it's entry that particularly hurts her, she might have varicosities inside her vagina, which can make sex quite painful. She could have endometriosis, or, if you're using condoms, (you didn't say what method of bc, if any, you use) maybe she's allergic to latex.
If your doctor can't find anything that's wrong, ask for a referral to a different doctor. And try as hard as you can to not make this about you. Chances are, she feels pretty bad about this for BOTH of you - the last thing she'll need is a guilt trip about how you're not getting off as much as you'd like. Good luck.
2006-09-04 04:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I have spent so much money at the doctors office bc I want to enjoy my husband just as your wife does. a dr in Houston, texas finally diagnost me with a long word that means that my insides are falling downwards.
When he enters me, his penis hits my organs, I literally hve no room for his penis inside of me.
I have to have a hysterectomy and a bladder lift, so that he can pick up the rest of the organs. This is not a pleasant feeling when having intercourse. When my husband enters me, it feels like he has a knife inside of me. when he tells me that I just don't understand becuase he is so horny, he may as well have taken that knife and cut my insides becuase that is such a selfish answer. I am hurting so badly and sometimes i have to take a pain pill before we have sex , and man, talk about take the passion out of sex. Take this time to learn your wife, sure, check out the situation, have the dr check her, but come on man, if you love her , you willlet her know that life isnt all about sex, even though we both know it is for a man, but make her feel that her health comes first, then man i promise you, after she gets this fixed, she will want to love you like you cant imagine. becuase you loved he without sex, and you made her feel like you loved her even without sex.
2006-09-04 02:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by elegant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What sort of tests did the doctor run? Did she get a CT Scan or an Ultrasound?
Don't mean to scare you but take it from someone who had ovarian cancer, it could be worth considering more test options.
2006-09-04 01:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"she tenses up as I am about to enter."...this concerns me...there's more going on here for your wife...there is a comfort level that is being crossed...when you continue even though you can see she is in pain you are being selfish...this will be on her mind...there is more to this story..and you may have to find that out from your wife...she is the only one that can answer what is REALLY going on
2006-09-04 02:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Crucial Truth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As there is no any symptoms of STD's the problem might be lack of lubrication. Try some lubricants after contacting your physician i think the problem will be solved.
2006-09-04 01:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife and I have had the same problem. the doctors have been fobing here off for years, so i started investigating on the internet. try this site, www.vaginismus.com. It gives details for both of you that may help. hope it works for you two
2006-09-04 01:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much sex!! oh, seriously that might be it, sometimes when one has too much sex, without an initial lube, the vaginal area gets abit sore, tender to the touch, which goes away after abit.
i would try the lube thing or give it a rest abit or a celebate time
2006-09-04 02:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by amythys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope she likes it when you play with her clit.
Play there with your finger until she is very wet and high then you put in and thrust like slow and then go until you both have a climax.
Use lube if still dry.
2006-09-04 02:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by torwaltzz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might have a problem getting lubercated...did she just have a baby??....perhaps relax her by giving her a massuage to loosen her up..or perhaps she needs to use lube for now...good luck
2006-09-04 01:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋