How can i go about making more friends as i feel so lonely all the time?

Question

I suffer from depression and suicidle thoughts but this may be due to the fact that i have hardly any friends and do not know how to go about making any what do you suggest i do?

Answer 1

First off, I hope you are seeking counseling and treatment for your depression. I fnot, that is where you must start. After that, you really need to get away from the computer screen and out into the real world where real people can be found. Join a gym, take a class in something fun, get a dog and walk it in the park--do things that will get you out there where you can meet people with similar interests. I know it is really hard to leave the safety of the computer world (speaking from experience here) but if you really want true human contact, you got to do it!

Good Luck!!

Answer 2

I don't think going to a pub or a club is the answer. Everyone seems to think that this is the best way to have fun, but unless you are into this sort of thing and go with a group of friends it can be soul destroying. The best thing you can do is go down to your local library and look at the noticeboard and find some clubs and societies to join. You should try a few differerent things as some of them may not be for you.
Similarlly look in the paper and see what else is going on in your area. Also and I cant stress this one enough, do some volunteer work. There are loads of organisations that you can work with, and you can do things such as brefriending lonely older people to working on a comittee and many more. It is a good way to make friends and to contribute something.
Also find a CAUSE that you feel strongly about and get involved in campaigning for it. If you have been depressed and sucidal volunteer with the samaritains as you can probable help other people. Also help publicise this issue. You might feel strongly about something else, such as animal rights, road safety or even politics. If so join the labour party and start campaining in your local community or join your local animal rights group. It is good to feel part of something bigger than yourself and part of society

. The best advice I can give is to get involved. If you have no ties, think about going to an adult residential college such as Ruskin college in Oxford Northern college in Barnsley Coleg Harlech in Wales or Fircroft college in Birmingham. These colleges gives adults with no qualifications a second chance and provide a free access course, accommodation and ,meals for one year as well as paying a weeky bursary for living expenses. It is a great way to make friends and will change your life, and possible introduce you to your future spouse and some lifelong friends. If you do have ties think about doing a short course - they last for two days are free and are fun and lifechanging and a good way to meet people. You can do anything from sociology to arrertiveness and confidence building. If you are in the UK look on the northern college website. If you are in another country find your own countries alternative and GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

Although I am going to suggest something similar to those who have already answered this question, the best thing is just to get out and do something. Make sure you eat well, exercise, got for a walk, keep off the booze - this will only make you feel worse.
Sounds poxy, but its the little things that will eventually add up and make you feel a bit better. The journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step. Get together with a few mates and go out. Join groups that hold similar interests to yours.
Find someone to talk to (online or in person) and bounce ideas off them. Just getting them off your chest might make you feel a bit better and realise that you're not alone. When you go out and meet people you'll realise that there are a heap of great people out there to have fun with and keep you company.
Best of luck....

Answer 4

Hi, Perhaps if you started going swimming or to the gym to start with, you will start to see the same people each week if you attend on the same day and eventually, one of you will start up a conversation. It may not happen very quickly but,stick with it because, in the meantime,the excersise will help you to start feeling better within yourself.
To begin with, people may not say very much but, give it time.
The best thing is to go to these things regularly and remember, there will be other people there feeling exactly the same as you.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

Try downloading ICQ, I have made loads of friends over the years on that. www.icq.com Or get out and about and join a local hobby group or go on a course in something you enjoy (you meet loads there and doesn't matter how old you are, there is something out there for everyone).

I would also suggest seeing a counsellor, there is no shame in it. I felt like you once and it really helped to talk to someone like that. I managed to pick myself right back up and go out and meet people again...

Even though there are times when you think that you can't go on, there is always something that will make you smile just round the corner...you'll see...

Answer 6

Volunteer!!!!! Do something to help others in need! Read to little kids at the library, or to the elderly,work at your community food bank,work with a group that cleans up parks and other places where you live. Teach a class at the recreation center. The key besides making sure you do what your Doctor advices, is to get your mind off YOU! Listen to others around you. Ask them about themselves and let them tell you stuff. I've never met a lonely listener. EVER! God blessed us with 2 ears and only 1 mouth. That's no accident! After you've listened people, they will start listening to you. Get out and exercise too. Getting oxygen to your major organs makes you feel better almost immediately. Ask your Doctor what's best for you. I'm praying for you ! And I know that doing for others will make a world of difference in your life!

Answer 7

Get out. Anywhere. Pubs, resturants Mueseums. You'll soon meet people and even if you dont make contact straight away being surrounded by people will make you feel better. Also get a 360 page and use other internet facilities to get in touch with people.

Answer 8

so you like cocker spaniels too. i love em too they r the best
maybe you should join a dog club
ur suicidal thoughts probably ARE because of a lack of friends
u probably feel like a nobody in the big picture
but relax so does everyone else, some cope through religion and others by giving themselves some other aim or purpose in life.
and also, no ones life in reallity is as exciting as it seems on movies or tv, no ones. so dont aim to be like that

Answer 9

Think of an activity that really interests you. Then, find a club on that interest. It's easy to make friends with people that have similar interests to yours. An there is no pressure. You like computers...join a computer club, there are plenty of them out there.

Answer 10

The truth is loneliness and depression are exacerbated by a lack of calcium. Those ads that say "Got Milk?" are right. In addition be sure you are getting adequate sleep and not staying up too late.