mum wont let me get a bra?

Question

im 11 and i dont really need a bra well i sorta do but anyway i was in bhs the other day and i asked my mum for a bra (it was dead embarissing, but luckily there was not many people there, she said not yet but some of my friends have them, what should i do?

oh yh and i cant talk to her that wuld be wayyy to embarising

i do need one but im not like a size 36dd

Answer 1

Wait until you need to wear one

Answer 2

When I go shopping my friends and I giggle over how small some of the bras are...but I know how you feel, no one wants to be the last one to wear a bra and at a guess your either in year 6 or 7. Though you might not need it, a bra does make you feel grown up so if you really want one then buy it yourself. Or you could try crop tops which give the impression of a bra but aren't one really. But i warn you do not buy a bra that's too small or too big it's just not flattering. good luck

Answer 3

If you don't really need a bra do without one! It saves problems like wanting to wear a white top but not having any clean white bras and having to totally change your outfit. Besides you don't need a bra unless ur boobs start to hurt when you're running. If you feel an urgent need to have a bra then just sit down and talk to your mum. You can't put it off for forever. It may be embarassing but all women have boobs. And she'll have obviously been expecting it ever since you asked for a bra. If you think this is embarassing what are you going to do when you start your period?

Answer 4

Oh dear, my daughter is also 11 and I have just bought her -her first bra. Perhaps you should ask your mum again at home when she is more relaxed and explain why you would like one now. Some mums find it difficult to admit that their daughters are growing up. I am sure that she has a good reason for saying no though. Ask her if you could go and get measured and then ask the advice of the assistant and see what she says, then ask your mum to decide. In the end though it is your mums desicion.

Answer 5

Your mum is not refusing to let you get a bra, she just thinks maybe you don't need it yet. And perhaps you don't, and you should just wait. Don't get a bra just because your friends have it.

But if you feel you really do need a bra for support, you should speak to your mum about it seriously (don't whine and go 'but muuuum, all my friends have it!'). If for whatever reason your mum is uncomfortable about you getting a real bra, maybe you can start off with those light bras that are designed for 10-12 year olds (don't really know what they are called, but they should be there).

Answer 6

Peer pressure is a terrible thing at your age. At 11, unless you actually do have breasts bigger than an A cup, then stick to crop tops. Bras are not comfy.
Most of us old mums hate to think of children growing up too soon - you know - you must have friends like this, wearing low rise jeans and tiny tops with slutty slogans on, high heels and loads of make up and dyed hair. We find it offensive and worry about unwanted sexual attention from perverts.
That's probably why she won't let you have one. I can see your point of view too. But you are still a very young girl - a child in fact.
Please be a child as long as you can....

Answer 7

Show her how "grown up" your becoming by having a heart to heart chat with her! Explain that you really might not physically "need" one yet, but you would like one to make you feel like you are growing up. A training bra certainly would do the trick! Explain how your friends are starting to wear them and you want to fit in. No parent wants their child to feel left out. Ask her what it will hurt by having a training bra!? It won't hurt anything and it will make you feel better about yourself! It is a win-win situation to let you have one! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

part of growing up is learning how to communicate. start by trying it out on your mom. if you do some research and know why you want a bra ,then you will be ready to speak to her without a problem.
have a look at this site ,which gives advice about this topic,you will see that breasts can start developing from about 8 years and that many girls start wearing bras,especiallt sports bras. their reasoning is that it gives modesty to them when having to get changed for P.E. no mother wants her child to feel embarressed if she can help it. also it will give you advice so you know what to look for when she does eventually take you shopping.

http://kidshealth.org/kid/grow/girlstuff/breasts_brasp2.html

I allways tell my kids ,that if they try to reason with me,that I will listen and take their feelings into account. your mom may need a few days to consider what you have said ,so be patient. also ask her why she is not ready for you to have one. then you can decide whether maybe she knows best.

enjoy it ,when you do get it as it is a special occasion.
good luck

Answer 9

Hi Chick! I have been there! and its not nice!

Tell your mum all the girls at school have them.
Tell your mum you feel you need a bra as you dont feel happy getting undressed in the changing rooms at school for PE
Tell your mum you only want to try it out..you might not even like to wear them yet.

Marks and Spencer do a young range for your age. I got mine from there when i was 12.

Dont worry your be fine!

Answer 10

Just tell her your body is starting to change, and you think you'd feel more comfortable wearing a bra. You could start by wearing a sports bra. It is more comfortable and doesn't look as much like a bra. Perhaps this can be a compromise for you and your mom.

Answer 11

Why don't you ask her to compromise, maybe with a training bra or even a cropped top. She just doesn't want you to grow up too soon, but I understand you want to be the same as your friends. Talk to her again calmly and see if she will discuss it further, if she still says no then you will just have to accept it until you are a bit older.