It can be a husband, wife, brother, friend...... with me it was my mother....
2006-09-03 23:50:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yeah it is hard and when everyone says it gets better with time you don't believe them but it does (mine was my mother too). And then you go through the guilt of not remembering them as much and feeling wrong enjoying yourself but eventually you start to remember them when good stuff happens to you and think "i bet they're watching and they're really happy for me" or if bad stuff happens "i know you're here with me". It really is a hang on in there thing isn't it and you just have to go through it all in your own time.
2006-09-03 23:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a terrible testing time when a loved one has passed away and of course the way the passed away has a large affect also.
BUT I want you to know that your mother is in the most beautiful place imagineable. She is home, with her creater, all knowledge is hers and now she understands all that is and why. She understands why her journey on earth was the way it was, why she was tested she also understands that you now are being tested and although she cannot interfere with your free will she can help you along the path to recover if you ask her.
There is no experience on earth that you or anybody else could have had that can compare to the most wonderful thing of death. Nothing.
That is not of course belittling that you are now left to struggle through without your mother in a physical presence but please know that she is most happy and you are still here to learn lessons and let your soul develop and grow. Your mother now has her rewards for her journey, you must continue with yours. Good luck and don't forget to get help you must ask for it. Love and light
2006-09-04 00:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Discover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very difficult when you lose your mom, I thought I would never be able to move on with my life again when I lost mine, but it suddenly hit me that my mom was a wonderful caring person who loved life and enjoyed everything she could each day, she would have hated it if she had seen any of us moaning about and not getting on with what she brought us up to do and to be in our life, so as hard as it was I got back on track and started living my life again and keeping the memories I have of my mom alive the best I can, when I have days were its very hard to cope I take her photograph off the wall, sit down in a nice comfy chair and have a good old chat to her, it seems to help me and I know even if she can't answer me I know she can here me somewhere out there in heaven, its very hard losing your mom but its very hard not living your life either because moms love to see us get on with things and I will bet your mom was a good person who did that herself, just take it one day at a time, honestly it does get easier.
2006-09-04 02:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. When i was younger my Mother passed away. It was not a sudden loss, but sometimes suddenly is the easiest way!
I am sure your mother would want you to carry on as normaly as possible. She will still be with you.
2006-09-03 23:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by friskydragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is what CanguroArgen? said so true.. you Will get the stages from pain healing etc let it come and don't be afraid to ask help if you need to,.. than remember with love and be happy with those memory's, I can "hear" my dads voice quite often his wise words (now I only except that their where wise words as when he was alive I didn't understand him he was a quiet man )and I am proud to be his daughter ...
2006-09-06 07:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIFE has a whole new meaning after someone you loved passes away suddenly, unexplainably. Every ditto, phrase, metaphor and famous quotes take on a whole new meaning.
"Live every day as if it were your last"
"Make the most of every moment"
"Life: Be in it"
"Is it better to have loved and lost than not have loved at all?"
"Their spirit will remain"
The whole Meaning of Life philosophy evolves in your heart, not your brain when you experience tragedy.
Be strong, and love more than not!
2006-09-03 23:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,it can be really difficult.My dad died suddenly about 2 nearly 3 years ago and in some way l am still grieving.
2006-09-04 01:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun i'm sorry this ensue to you. Hate to declare this yet this could be rather annoying to bypass on from. remember that he will constantly be in a definite place on your heart. you additionally could make a particular relationship to a various relative or concentration on some thing different than your grandfather. stable good fortune :)
2016-11-24 20:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by falacco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly is. It happened to us eight years ago, and it still wouldn't surprise me if he walked through the door today. I would just say, "Where have you been?" I'm not sure if sudden loss is better or worse than a slow departure. Both hurt a lot. Good luck.
2006-09-03 23:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by R.I.P. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry too hear your news,yes your right it is sad when someone you love passes away suddenly,its hurt too take in and you ask your self so many questions,i had to deal with losing a member off my family who died real suddenly wow it was such a shock but i deal with it with all the memories i have off them and all the good times we had shared...
2006-09-07 23:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋