See, i love my wife to be, i won't call her a GF cuz she's more than that to me, we are getting married soon, anyways, we decided that we'll save together, she already put some savings she saved before and some other amounts in before i put a penny, and the other day, i wanted -not needed- something and i took the money from her as a loan, now, i told her i have to give them back to you, but she doesn't want that and she says there is no difference between us we are one, we are the same and our money is the same, i do feel that, and i do believe that, but there is a part that tells me i have to give her the money back, is this the male in me? or is this what i have to do? what would you do if you were me? would you borrow from the one you love if you didn't have enough and then give it back? or just forget it cuz whatever you both make is for both of you?! thnx.
2006-09-03 23:45:45 · 14 answers · asked by pal970 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would put it into your joint account thats not quite giving it back to her but its letting her see you respect the fact that she loaned it to you that way if she wants but doesnt need something in the future the money is there all the best i hope you have a long and happy life together
2006-09-03 23:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by angel 36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel bad about taking the money and she wont take money in return. Buy her something, like a nice pair of earings or a neckless or something. That way she gets the money back, in a way, but she doesnt know that. That way you will also feel better, because she got something that she probably wanted and you made her happy.
2006-09-04 06:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your getting married to her, and she says that she wants you and her to share money then dont worry about. I no it feels bad but becuase your getting married, in the future she might borrow some of your money so it doesnt matter. If you were just friends then it would be different.
2006-09-04 06:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say in good faith that you should give the money back and then spend it on something you want together!! like that you will win her respect! she is probably expecting you to do something like that and would be disappointed if you don't!! I'm a woman and i know how a woman thinks!!she will love you for thinking about her as well!!
2006-09-04 06:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by pricebazoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be fair in money matters. Give it back to her. Eventually both your money in a joint account will belong to both of you. If you love each other, when times of need arise, she will dig in her account to help you and vice versa from you.
2006-09-04 08:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U hold on 2 her.
U have an understanding & caring partner.
Pay her back if U can, but she's right, what's hers is URs & vice versa.
U B good 2 her,huh?
:)
2006-09-04 06:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I commend your morals. don't say another word to your future wife and just put the money back in to her account. anyone can make a deposit. and wait for the smile!
2006-09-04 06:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thik, and this is just my opinion, that i am guessing she would want you to put the money back. even if she really doesnt want you to, or even if she doesnt need it. i think that most women would want u to. because most women, not all, want a man to be able o tske care of them. even if they dont say it , they do. if this makes ant sense to u at all .
2006-09-04 07:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by melsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the $$$ into the shared account?
2006-09-04 06:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by Superfeng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your obviously feeling some guilt about something ! i can tell, no man should take money off his lady! thats the way my dad brought me up! but he is old fasioned and has always beleived you must look after your women ! and you should'nt take from her, but thats my views
2006-09-04 06:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋