We're all imperfect, we all make mistakes in some way -it's unavoidable as a human. Nobody is surperior, we're all simply unique and the same in so many different ways. So why is it such a big deal to so many?
2006-09-03 23:22:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
People are afraid of looking stupid to others as they fear rejection and feel that they won't be accepted to those who they are with at the time.
2006-09-04 01:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's an enlightened approach and the way it should be. However, Psychology of Influence affects us in so many ways when we're extremely young.
When you're in K - 6 Grades, you're taught that there are such things as Good and Bad Grades. Your parents will try have their children meet certain standards.
On the playground, young children are still developing and they focus on what's on the surface. They aren't thinking about high-minded concepts such as a Sociology, Psychology, or Philosophy.
When kids on the playground make fun of other kids, they're not thinking of the Psychological Scars that remain with kids they make fun of. There are bullies and kids who come from dysfunctional families that imitate their parents.
If kids have parents that are physically or verbally abusive, the kid picks up those traits and projects them onto others imitating the abusive parent. Kids that are submissive and don't know who to follow will sometimes follow a bully.
Children that come from wealthy families that seem to have everything, nice clothes, and cool hair will stand out and other children who seek to associate with that which is superficially beautiful will mimic the object they desire to be like.
If you have a young girl who's attractive, all the other girls will want to be around her and be like her because they've chosen her as a role model.
A lot of stuff happens when we're really young kids and stay with us in Junior High and High School.
Fear is also a great motivator. When people transfer up from 6th Grade to 7th Grade where it's new, children out of fear will gravitate toward the familiar and shy away from the unknown for the sake of security.
While we, as adults, may finally understand about imperfection and learning to accept one self, that's reasoning that isn't always privy to young minds. If you remember what it was like on your first day at a new school in 7th Grade, it may have been intimidating.
During that time in our youth, much of our self-identity stems from the value of your relationships with others allowing us to determine our own value. Usually it's not intrinsic. When we're young we use other people to be able to measure our own successes and failures.
In the working world, there are standards that are set. People vying for promotions or where they have to be in front of important people naturally get nervous because an opportunity could make or break them.
People don't like getting laughed at because it's a painful experience and a throwback from childhood or witnessing the sad outcome of someone else who got laughed at.
Because we're naturally aversive to pain, Society has cultivated Psychological Pain stemming from embarrassment and fanned by our insecurities because Society has defined things for us.
If you lived on a desert island, you wouldn't worry about such things because there is no Society to impress Negative Psychological Punishment for deviating from what Society tells us to embrace.
The whole story of "Encino Man," "Tarzan," or "George of the Jungle" starring Brendan Fraser address this social aspect where someone is taken from the wild who has no knowledge of what is and isn't stupid and is unphased by reactions from people that would usually be devastating to most people.
One thing that Pauly Shore's character says in "Encino Man" is that Cave Men didn't worry about popularity because it wasn't part of their world. It is in ours and so it influences us whether we like it or not.
2006-09-03 23:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by "IRonIC" by Alanis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with self esteem. It also has to do with the fact that the media and the culture in the United States particuarly, makes emphasis on physical looks and appearance over what people think. Stupidity does not matter, looks do. Thus, everyone ends up taking more care of their appearance than of their minds.
2006-09-04 04:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called PRIDE... Also ridicule comes into it too. We all know how harsh people can be when we make a blunder. They just keep at you and then you feel a bit simple.
However, I guess we all get over it at one stage or another. After all, we are all, as you say ' imperfect'.
2006-09-03 23:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no 1 likes to look stupid,but as u said we all do at 1 point or another,so who cares? some ppl have a complex from family as a child etc.and some are just weak and cant take the rejection bc they dont know how to cope and deal with it.....
2006-09-03 23:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by dawn e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The feeling of shame. Shame is a result of societies continual insecurity and need to judge others, making them feel bad and shamed, in order to feel better about themselves.
2006-09-03 23:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by darey999 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont care what people think about me or what i do if they dont like it then dont stick around ya know... it IS annoying people wont be themselves because of the fear of being judged. I always say:
if you dont like me look away,
this is me, its how ill stay!
2006-09-03 23:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
dunno really but thts how it is..frankly u shoudn't give a sh!t bout wht others think of u but aren't v all insecure.its basic human need to b liked n accepted.i live by the principle tht 'never change urself for others 'coz those who matter don't mind n those who mind don't matter!'
2006-09-03 23:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, it could be that they think they'll be looking like you.
2006-09-03 23:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
would you fart infront of people you work with? why not? everyone farts! -- thats your answer
2006-09-03 23:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋