two weeks ago, we said i was coming over in two weeks. days pass and i know i'm not going but i find it SOOOO hard to tell him i cant come. i have told him this twice before, that i cant go. but in my heart i want to so so so bad. it isn't possible for me, there is no way i can make it. so now the plane is supposed to go tomorrow with me on it and i hear his voice and i try to tell him, but it's like 'just give me one more day with him'. we have a deep love that's difficult to understand, we have been through alot. i was married when we met, he has been with other women because he was so jealous over time of me being with my husband. even now if i'm out he thinks there is someone else, but it's only him. it was only him i thought of when i was with my husband (who was really bad for me) i cant go because something holds me back, but if i tell him it will just go one way. in that it wont be over, but we will both feel bad, i want to be with him so bad but it's impossible.
2006-09-03 23:21:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its very hard to give you any help on this when you dont state why you cant go. Nothing is impossible....Impossible is in your head.....there is nothing that would stop you from being with your true love....Is he your true love? If your love is as deep as you say it is and you have been through a lot together, then surely, there is nothing that will stop you two being together. Surely there is nothing you cant talk about with him either. We all have the ability to choose a certain direction, and I am wondering what is holding you back from making your choice. I hope your choices have not been made for you because of someone else not wanting you to go....If that is the case, then you are being controlled and not doing what you really want to do
Its all guesswork....maybe if you would like to add what it is that is holding you back, you would get a lot more help.
2006-09-03 23:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem? You cheated on your husband and now you're starting to feel guilty about having an affair. This is what it means to have a conscience. Go with it and do the right thing. Stop playing games with this guy and let him know that you are unavailable emotionally and physically.
2006-09-04 06:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by mad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should had think before for all the possible consiquences that will hve before u jump on having relationhip with him despite of the reality that ur a married woman,eventhough ur husband had not been good to u as per wat u have said,why u did not file for divorce before entering another relationship,try to balance the things,if it will be really hard if you have children that u should consider first n foremost.sometimes we need to sacrifice for the sake and for the benefit of our love ones!!!
Goodluck and may the Lord guide you on the right decision.
2006-09-04 06:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by kimy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This love has been with other women. You
can call it jealousy,but he still was with them
and he allowed himself to do it.
I think you believe that he wants you and loves
you,but it sounds like he may want to see if
he can get you to destroy your marriage,or
make a fool out of you some more?
if your marriage is bad for you,then leave it,
but this guy doesn't sound right for you either.
he was with those women,and I don't believe
jealousy caused it,because plural means more
than one,and he is most likely with someone
now too.
Keep making excuses for this guy,and you'll
be easy for him to control!!!
2006-09-04 06:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and why is it impossible for you to be with him?? you talked about you ex more than the reason why your asking this question..sorry
2006-09-04 06:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like you have problems to work out ,try a councilor
2006-09-04 06:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by wil_t52 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wats ur question?
2006-09-04 06:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be with him
2006-09-04 06:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by trishul60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋