(If you're gay) How do you feel about bisexuality and transgendered being part of the community?

Question

Ok, I don't want to bash anyone or insult anyone.I have nothing against anyone either.But sometimes I wonder why the "community" has to have a long name, "GLBT".What ever happened to just being "gay" or "lesbian"?And how do you feel about "g0y's"-(a gay male that doesn't idenify as gay and may not have gay sex either).

To me, at times, bisexuality can be a copout.When you need to be accepted as "normal" you like the opposite sex but when you need to be with the same sex you can because you want to.I know I am wrong but that is how I feel.I tried dating a bisexual and I just got tired of him checking out women-yuck!
And transgenered people are not gay.They are people who have sex changes or want them.I don't identify with that at all.

So how are these things a part of who I am?Or who you are?Are we just accepting that we need to be all inclusive since the general public often isn't?I don't know anymore.When I meet someone now I can't help but wonder first, what are you in to?

Note:
Though this question sounds like I am bashing Bisexual and transgendered and g0ys, I am not really intending to.I have nothing against them.I am asking a question that I normally would never ask just to see how people feel.I wouldn't normally even tell people that I feel this way sometimes because in the end, who am I to judge anyone?

Answer 1

They came for the Communists, and I didn't object - For I wasn't a Communist;
They came for the Socialists, and I didn't object - For I wasn't a Socialist;
They came for the labor leaders, and I didn't object - For I wasn't a labor leader;
They came for the Jews, and I didn't object - For I wasn't a Jew;
Then they came for me - And there was no one left to object.

- Martin Niemoller, German Protestant Pastor, 1892-1984

People that differ from the norm in sexual preference or gender identity are both discriminated against. While I agree that we really are spereate communityies with sometimes varying concerns, we need to stand united in being proud of who we are and united in our fight for equality. As a queer transwoman, I can't really relate to your situation, but I think we both know what it's like to have the bible thrown at us, whether figuratively or literally. Every single individual that varies from "normal" in gender identity/expression and/or sexual preference should be welcome in our group of communities.

Answer 2

I want to speak for myself first, Well I'm Bi and I've said many times in here (in short) if a Gay and a Bi male are in front of a naked women one would want to dress her up and take her downtown and the other would want her naked and go to town on her. Now with that said I have to say me being Bi has been hard and I'm married and love the person I'm with because of pressure from how Bi/Gay men were pushed in the closet when I was young and wanted to follow my heart instead I did what was expected of me, I've always put other people's feelings ahead of my own and that's how I ended up here, so see there is a reason for being Bi and Gay and I think that covers the Lesbian and the transgendered. The one name isn't only for straight people just because they are just straight..


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Answer 3

My view is that they are really distinct communities. It is a bit of a fiction to group them together as GLBT. The truth is that most gay men prefer to hang out with other gay men, and know (or care) little about lesbians, bisexuals or transgendered persons. In fact, some gay men hold bisexuals in contempt (with comments like, "they can't get off the fence" or "they can't admit that they're homo"). I don't think women are really welcome at gay clubs, and I am sure that most lesbian women would sooner enjoy "male-free" socializing. Those are just my observations though.

Answer 4

I believe trans gender people are gay. they can even be bisexual. I had gender non conformity when I was young and agree hormones can play a role. I also believe gender nonconformity can be learned as well. All can be influence to making choice to be homosexual, innocently often as young children do. It still is a choice. It is a mental issue. People are not born gay. Children with nonconformity issues do not always choose to be gay. Often the nonconformity children that do choose to be gay make a choice to live as trans gender person. Well a percentage does often anyhow.

Answer 5

Actually, I frequently feel the same as you. Why are gays, lesbians, bis and trans all lumped together? I have no problem with lesbians and trans and I have dated a few bis. Like you, I found that the bis mostly are lying to themselves and their wives or girlfriends.

I like the concept of g0ys. G0ys are gays who dont have anal sex or act feminine. My only problem is that they dont respect those gays who do act fem or have anal. I say live and let live. If you dont want to do anal or be with a fem guy, fine. No one is forcing you!

Answer 6

I don't think bisexuality is necissarily a copout. There are many aspects to sexuality. It's not just black and white...there are many shades of grey, so to speak. Same goed for gender. We have soe many hormones, so muchi wiring upstairs, who's to say whether one persons wiring makes them one sex or another, on gender or another, on or what??

Answer 7

i don't feel anything about it. one thing we learn when we are gay is that everyone is great as long as they accept themselves and others.