was told by a friend that she bled the first three times she had sex! I lost my hymen( though not to sex) in a stupid way that I regret, that was over three years back. Now I have totally abstained from masturbation and all those silly ways (not lesbianism) and my fiance believes I am a virgin even though I told him I am not.
Will I still bleed when I really am disvirgined?
any stories to back the answer up?
2006-09-03 22:17:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
you may, you may not.
a friend of mine told me she bled after the first second and third times, I dont know for sure as I was not there.
body types are different and you may or may not but you are a virgin, you should be proud that you are and do uphold your virginity.
2006-09-04 11:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by baby blu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can lost your hymen in many different ways. Sports is the biggest. It's totally normal.
I TOTALLY respect you for being clean and moral!! MAJOR PROPS TO YOU!! YAY!!!
Anyway, back to your question:)
You are a virgin. The only time you're not a virgin is if a penis has entered your vagina. Sometimes someone can do this and the hymen not break the first time.
The thing is, it doesnt' matter. Just cuz you don't bleed the first time or the first few times does not mean that you're not a virgin by any means at all.
Mine bled soooo bad. And then I hemorhaged the next day. Come to find out, it wasn't my hymen at all (cuz I'd been drug-raped before by a "best friend"), but that I had a cyst on my right ovary that had ruptured and blood went everywhere! It was scary.
So, don't worry about it! :)
2006-09-04 05:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I didn't bleed at all the first time - I guess my hymen was already broken as I have been riding horses since I was a kid. Sometimes if you have been very athletic or bendy prepubescently it can break the hymen. I am a bit concerned however about your fiance - why on earth would he not believe you, and what do you think his response will be if/when you don't bleed?? Having a hymen is NOT indicative of virginity in the commonly understood sense - virginity is simply the state of not having had penetrative sex. The hymen is not a reliable indicator of this. Here is a link which may de-mystify the hymen a bit, but perhaps it should be him reading this... http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/sexpedia/hymen.html
Best of luck honey - and hope it all works out...
2006-09-04 05:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by keys780 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although you are still a virgin to intercourse you may not bleed the first time you have proper sex. Even if you hadn't damaged you hymen you may not have bled the first time as a lot of girls do not bleed when they first have sex. so don't get too worked up about it. If a fella says your not a virgin because you don't bleed it's because he doesn't know any better.
2006-09-04 09:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by scutari2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heyyy
well as you have lost your hymen there is a smaller chance that you will bleed during sex. I blead after the first time i had sex but it wasnt that heavy jus a bit of spotting that i noticed when i went 2 the loo. im doubtful that you will bleed though. and even if u do it will be a very little amount. good luck
2006-09-04 09:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by me! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only lose your virginity when you hav sexual intercourse with a guy - you can lose your hymen throught tampons / horseriding / swimming etc
When i lost my virginity i didnt bleed this was because i had already broken my hymen before
not everyone bleeds the first time they have sex - i didnt any a few people i know didnt bleed.
Hope that helped
x
2006-09-04 05:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Peach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't bleed on my first time (coincidently about a week ago) But then I'm an active person whose been horseriding for five years and doing various nutty sports! I class that you are a virgin untill you have had sexual intercourse WITH A MAN! (Not any toy/implement or otherwise) So you are still a virgin.
Good luck and have fun!
2006-09-04 05:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by Moi? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some peope bleed some don't.
You need to relax and be really in the mood and take it slow. Set the mood have some nice food and wine(if you are old enough) and take it easy.
If your not ready then don't do it.
I lost my virginity when I was 14. The guy covered his head cos he was shy and it just didn't work. he made me go on top (bad idea when its your first time!) and it felt wrong but I thought he wanted it and that he would leave me if I didn't do it.
Turns out a month later whilst I was on holiday he did the same to my mate whilst he was supposed to be with me.
I made a bad choice with a guy who rushed me. He didn't force me by anymeans but I wasn't ready. ( well not with him anyway)
2006-09-04 11:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by Leah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not all virgins bled during sex do to incidences like your, some damage them in falls and accidence, my wife it was between seeing how many pens she could fix up hers as a kid and the use to tampons. if you don't think he will not understand you could try to time the first during your period or before have lot of four play and try to get him hot so he don't last long, then just tell for the next few days you have been spotting and bleeding when you pee that should set it right
2006-09-04 05:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are still a virgin if you havn't had sex, I broke my hymen with an accident riding a horse with a western saddel with no hands, ( not a smart move and very sore) but still bled a little when I first had sex,
2006-09-04 06:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by orangebutterfly82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋