I have a friend who I invite over for dinner say every 6 weeks or so. She never mentions how nice the food is or even thanks me. I can spend up to 3 hours cooking for her. I know she likes my food as she eats it all! She just puts her knife and fork down on the plate and that's the end of it. Wouldn't you say this is rude? When I go to hers, as soon as I enter her flat, I say, "something smells good" and throughout the course of the meal I make positive comments about her food. What's the reason for her behaviour do you think?
2006-09-03 22:08:16 · 39 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Yes, she is rude. Next time serve up a nice fray bentos pie and smash and see if she comments. Or ask if she enjoyed something because it was the first time you have tried that recipie or something.
Alternatively just don't invite her around.
2006-09-03 22:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kayteeee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's an ignorant cow and I wouldn't invite her over the next time. Then, when she asks why you didn't invite her again, say "Well, you never seem to appreciate all I do and how nice the food is so I thought you didn't enjoy it, so I didn't ask you back".... You then have the options of whether to ask her if she's not feeling well because she suddenly looks so red (blushing with embarrassment!) OR offering her the use of a mirror so that she can put her nose back in place (let's face it, she's just had it put well out of joint!).
I know EXACTLY how you feel - for several years in a row I held some really BIG birthday parties at which I would have about fifty friends and relatives. Come the time when I didn't bother having a party (the builders were in at the time) I got but THREE birthday cards. Strangely, I didn't have any more parties!
2006-09-03 23:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by Dover Soles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - indeed I do!
When ever I go to a friends house, I always bring something with me like flowers as well as wine and I always, always send a card within a day or so to say thankyou. Its polite and its the correct thing to do and more important, I enjoy doing it.
I would suggest that maybe there is a jealousy thing going on... do you see her any other time..maybe go out for drinks? does she compliment you on your outfit, haircut, for example ?
Ask her directly if she thinks your food is good and go on from there, you might be able to get to the bottom of the problem. Of course, she might not think she's being rude at all..in which case a gentle word to let her know you are hurt by her actions might do the trick.
..if you can't talk t o her then maybe she isn't the friend you thought she was...?
2006-09-03 22:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extremely rude! Like you I always make positive comments about the food that is served, and show an interest in what went into it if it is something unusual. All I can suggest is find a friend who appreciates the trouble taken, and as for the reasons for her behaviour, I guess it is all part of the upbringing. Cheers!
2006-09-03 22:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, I do not think that or think less of that person.
If I invite someone for dinner or give them a parent, i do not expect anything in return, not even gratitude. Otherwise, I might as well hand them a bill at the end.
One starter
One main meal
one desert
wine, coffee and other beverages
total cost. 2 "thank you's": One "wonderful marvellous".
However, I am respectful to those who show me some kindness, may it be dinner, a gift or love. Good for you that you do that too.
Neither do I analyse or second guess other thoughts. I usually get it wrong anyway.
2006-09-03 22:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by Foxey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may by she eats it to be kind and really hates the food..but hey i do think that is rude, a person should not treat people like this , you cooked ,she ate and she should comment on the meal and basically the service she is getting from you, i have been in may a situation like this and i would say that it could very well be jealousy ,may by your dinners are outstanding and she doesn't want to say so .however you look at it ,i would be and i do get pissed off. my culprits are my brothers(WILL ONE IN PARTICULAR) he is disgustingly rude and i hate being near him because all he ever does is take and take,never gives ever.i just dont spend alot of time with him because of it and im happier.
2006-09-03 22:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word "Ignorance" and a lot of people in todays society are ignorant about simple ethics. When you cook for your friend you do it because you want to do it, right? So dont let her ignorance get to you just enjoy the day or let her know how you feel and the reason, after all she is your friend and good advice is better than food.
2006-09-03 22:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by Frank A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she's rude, but some people have different boundaries on this sort of thing. It's a good idea not to invite her over for a while and sit this one out for a bit.
2006-09-03 22:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by gerbiltamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is rude not to comment on the food. It is however extremely rude not to thank somebody for providing a meal
2006-09-03 22:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by break 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she sounds very rude, it's good manners to at least say thankyou, is it possible she is a bit jealous of you, ask her "was the food to your liking, because you never tell me, or if you don't like it let me know". You should also give her the same treatment, get the message accross.
2006-09-03 22:13:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋