I am not sure why he is saying like that to me. I never do any mistake. i am too good with him. In fact I am the one take care of him. But now he is saying that he is now kind of love with another girl. At the same time he is saying that he is not in love with that girl as that girl in look not pretty. He keeps saying that he is confusion. Even we are legally married, we sill have to get married by our traditional way before stay together; that’s our culture. But we meet every week in beginning. He will fetch me once in a week as we are staying far. After I got my own transport I’ll go every week once. All the sudden he slowly stopped talking 2 and asked me not to go there. Beginning this yr he said that he is forcing his self to me and he find another girl is a best match but never asked for divorce (that was on Feb 2006). Since that he never calls me or never replies my SMS/email anything. I am the one every week will go there and visit him. And now he wants divorce. Pls advice me.
2006-09-03 22:03:15 · 14 answers · asked by Neevah N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just leave he has a lover
2006-09-03 22:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This exact thing happened to me with 3 kids and 15 years too! I don't know if you know the Lord or not...but first give it to Him. Pray, pray and pray for your husband and your children and your self to have wisdom through this. Sometimes I think Satan can get in the middle of our lives and try to confuse us and pull us a direction that is not the way we should go. Tell your husband that he does love you and he did love you. I know that it sounds funny, but don't listen to him speaking these kinds of things. He doesn't know what he is saying. Yes, it is so hurtful. There is something in this that he is trying to express that he isn't expressing. It could be that he is caught in some sort of sin. Pray specifically that he turn from it. Pray alone and a lot. Pray for wisdom to know what to say to him and how to show him that you love him anyways even though he is feeling this way. Forgive him. I'm sorry...I know this is and odd response but I believe it is what God will want you to do. God hates divorce but I understand that because sometimes 2 people can not get along that God allows it to happen but the bible never says he likes it. Claim the verses that tell us that God wants your marriage to work. Believe it and work towards it. Hang on with all you have. I don't know you, but I am praying for you now.
2016-03-26 21:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what country you are in, but here we don't have arranged marriages and don't comprehend the tradition.
If there is another woman and you are in the united states I don't think you have any chance but to accept the divorce.
He most likely married you for the tradition, but with freedom of choice he fell in love with someone else.
I imagine that the blending of your countries traditions and the traditions here in the US are difficult to deal with.
If he hasn't replied to you he doesn't want any communication.
I am sorry hon, but you are going to have to accept the fact that he wants a divorice. I believe you will need to move on and you can choose to be misserable becasue of this, or you can choose to have a happy life and make positive choices about your future.
Is there any family you can contact to discuss this with?
2006-09-03 22:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the man who you just described does not deserve your love and attention. leave him. if you have children, work out an arrangement where you'll get full financial support and full custody. if no children, still sue him for damages (psychological, actual, etc.). you'll need a good lawyer for this. it may hurt, but in the end, you'll preserve your sanity, dignity. soon enough, a true man who'll love you will come your way. don't waste your time on your husband. even if he comes crawling back. trust is broken and is usually irreparable. any relationship without trust is as good as dead. if you're religious/spiritual, pray for guidance too.
2006-09-03 22:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by Big Daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why hang around with a person who doesnt love you any more? You dont have any thing better to do? IF not, i would say you find something better and ask him to go and fly a kite.
Comon get a life, he is no use to you anymore
Cheer up, u will find someone who will love you life long, for the good person that you say you are :)
2006-09-03 22:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by sree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have a very unique situation, most people who are married live together and see each other everyday morning noon and night....I think that because of your situation, you have not had the chance to fully fall in love,,, you need to talk, and then make your decision,,, you sound like you give him way too much le-way and freedom... don't be so nice, sometimes love hurts... tell him how u feel and make him tell u what he wants
2006-09-03 22:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Dakota Country Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay start off by saying.. If you love someone let him go, if he comes back he's yours if not it wasn't meant to be..
Second, you sound like a beautiful person, by you forcing him to love you, your only pushing him way further--Trust Me. Stop and remember if he left you for someone else he never loved you from the start.
Hey, remeber this "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love!"
Take care -- I wish you the best in Love and Happiness--Askme922 :)
2006-09-03 22:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by Askme922 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband seems like he has a problem. You need to leave him. He won't really change and he will most likely always feel this way. It's time for you to move on and find a real man.
2006-09-03 22:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are better without him. find someone who will love you for the wonderful person you are. a man like your husband is not worth fighting for. let the other woman have him, he'll probably do the same to her. (which is still not nice, but she should have known he was married.) he'll end up a lonely old man.
2006-09-03 22:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him and find your true love. He cheated on you and broke all the rules of marriage.
You deserve better. Move on and find your true love that would never hurt you.
2006-09-03 22:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go if he comes back its up to you,but face it he is being selfish and a marriage cannot be built on anything like that
2006-09-03 22:08:37 · answer #11 · answered by stygianwolfe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋