My husband and I had a huge argument today and I can not stop crying and feeling like a complete fool. We still love eachother, just not feeling it right now. What do you do to get over this funky feeling?
2006-09-03 21:48:29 · 16 answers · asked by heatherlynnmorrow 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time... sorry but it just takes time wish there was an easyer way but if there is i cant find it
2006-09-03 21:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally my husband and I don't allow ourselves to even get to this point because when we start feeling very angry during a discussion, we both take time to cool off. I would take a walk or he would leave the house for a few minutes (longer if needed) and talk again when we're able to discuss the issue in a calm cool headed manner.
I would suggest that u give each other space and time to cool off. Don't argue when you're both hot headed because this will only serve to drive u further away from each other and no matter how much u yell and scream, u will never get your point across effectively. Resolve the matter only when you both have calmed down. Majority of couples have fights because they will not always agree on everything all the time, but it is how u fight that's important. Most importantly, don't let a small, insignificant issue turn into a big fight and always try to resolve the issues which led u both to an argument so that in the future u won't end up fighting about the same old thing over and over again.
2006-09-04 05:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Heather
I guess some people say the more you love each other the more it hurts.
You gotta bear in mind, as much as you love him, you gotta also realize when to stop pushing a point (in an argument). If you observe him closely, you'll notice when he's not gonna budge on a point. That's when you might be better off taking the detour, than pushing the same point for the sake of making the point...
Ok, back to your dilemma... well obviously both of you are pretty sore about it. Make him some peace offering, say a nice dinner? Then before you start eating, look at him and say "Sweetie... I still love you".
That's it, that's all there is to it. Go to bed, sleep it over, everything will be alright : )
2006-09-04 04:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop argueing like you do. Listen to each other rather then yell.
Let your husband take responsibility for his decisions he makes.
If you yell at each other then not a single word is listened to rather you are only giving words to yourself.
Even if you cannot agree then be prepared to submit and do not get haughty or see it as weakness if you do.
Hardly anything you argue badly about is worse then the actual arguement you are having.
Both of you train yourself in disciplined debate. Debate is far better then argue. Debate is deliberate reasoning, arguements are angry emotional driven and trivializes the subject you are coming to heads over.
If you both cannot agree even if you debated nicely then learn when to drop it until another convenient time when you may have thought things through more or realise later that it is not that important to get upset over and your husband should do the same also. And even if you cannot agree you should respect each other's point of view.
Follow some sound counsel and your marriage will be a heck of a lot happier and both of you will actually realise how important each others views and likely you will both bend to each other's points of view and be content so you can carry on to the more important things in your marriage that is loving and respecting each other then some yelling match that is soul destroying.
2006-09-04 05:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by Spadesboffin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time apart, in my profession I deal with this several times a day.
Trust me, cooler heads prevail.
Reguardless, you and the other party involved won't be able to solve the arguement while the two of you are angry.
Take some time (30 minutes or 3 hours) and then approach the other with listen, what you said/did/thought... I fealt abc... by it and see what the response. Try putting his/her shoes on (hypothetically speaking) and ask for them to understand why you got upset. Take care --Askme922
2006-09-04 04:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by Askme922 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I walk away for the argument and cool off. I thin about what we fought about. Then I think about what can I do to compromise to meet him half way. sit down sit down when you are both calm and tell them why you said hurt full things and so forth. Just make sure you stay calm so you don't get in another spat.
2006-09-04 08:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U make love after the argument to reconcile
2006-09-04 04:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give both of you time to cool off. Walk away from each other, go someplace quiet where you can think more objectvity and then come back to talk about it again without losing your cool!
2006-09-04 04:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for a long walk in the countryside. this usually helps me see whats important and whats just argumentative dross
2006-09-04 04:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will start cooking a spread and eat... cos he will feel hungry too if the smell is good, he will take a plate and join you.. there you are, all is well!!!
2006-09-04 04:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋