2006-09-03 21:18:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me there is a bit of confusion left. Either you hate him or you love him. By "reading between the lines", if you are willing to wait for another year to file divorce, then you must still love him and have hope that hings could change.
I am recently divorced. My ex wanted out and I didn't. I tried everything I could think of to make the marriage work (counseling, mediation, talking, family and friends helping, talking to the pastor, etc.). The problem was she was unwilling to even try to solve our problems.
We also have two children involved too. It pains me to know that she just wanted out of the marriage and didn't even try to work it out. Now I have lost everything, literally!!!!! She got the kids, the house, the vehicles, plus a hefty child support settlement and arrearages.
I personally don't believe in divorce. I feel that it is an option too often used for those who want the easy way out. It used to be that you could only get a divorce for adultry, abuse, or abandonment. Unless you want a divorce on one of those grounds, I seriously suggest working it out with a professional marriage counselor. Also, try mediation. There are other ways of dealing with problems in a relationship then just "giving up". Those that work out their problems, no matter how great or small, are the ones who have more stable, healthier relationships for the future. Also think about this, no body wins in a divorce or comes out ahead. All a divorce does is trade one problem for several other problems.
If you still have hope and love, there is still a chance. Get a professional marriage counselor or mediator and try to work it out.
If for whatever reason, you don't succeed in saving the marriage, do what is best for the kids first, then yourself. NEVER use the kids as leverage against your spouse, no matter how you may feel toward them. Remember, your kids have no choice in your decisions. They are the ones who will suffer in the end. Let NOT your choices be selfish, but for what is best for the kids.
2006-09-03 22:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya for sure wait a year but I would recommend you wait two long years and have irreconcilable differences as your reason, that way you can still be separated and get on with your daily life and when the two years are up you'll have a nice clean divorce minus the drama!
2006-09-04 04:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you do that? If you don't love him anymore and don't want it to work out then you just prolonging the agony. If you are not divorcing him then I would question you about the fact that you really want to get a divorce in the first place. It sounds like you are playing mind games.
2006-09-04 04:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start calling an attorney to set up an appointment. Tell him what you did. Even if you have to break the first appointment cancel and reschedule until he sees you mean business. That was what I did.
2006-09-04 04:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your wanting a divorce and your husband want give it to you the take other messerments.like asking a lawyer about a quick divorce and place a add in the paper and if he doesnt respond to it then your divorce is finel.or thats what you can do in florida.so good luck.
2006-09-04 04:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by bigmomma s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you have to wait from 6 months to 1 year.
2006-09-04 04:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, honestly... first ask yourself why you want a divorce and why he doesn't// obviously you two have different views on what is going on in your relationship. If he is abusive or harmful in anyway..... get out asap, if not, then you need to talk and be adults. Figure it out..COMMUNICATE, it's the real key... trust me here.
2006-09-04 04:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Dakota Country Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What goonna happen in 1 year?
2006-09-04 04:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter if your husband wants one or not you still have to be living separately for one year. make it known to your solicitor as soon as you leave him so you have validation of living separately or they will make you go to counselling.
2006-09-04 04:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that you have to research in the law about the divorce. and also talk to a lawyer or someone that works on the laws about the divorce.
2006-09-04 04:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋