i got married at the age of 16 and had my first born at the age of 16 too,since i married young and had a family young i lost all of my friends because i stoped partying, drinking, acting wild and going out.
for years i felt complete just by having my family members around, i still feel very happy and greatful to have my family, but i am starting to feel that i need to make some friends,i feel lonely, people always take a liking to me but i am scared to take the next step, it is very hard for me to socialize and carry on a conversation, what should i do to become less shy and more outgoing and more confidant?
2006-09-03 20:56:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music
Get some friends go out be yourself and have fun. I went through the same thing at that age except marriage. You just have to go for it no matter what others say or think. You'll find once you get back out there in life it's a pretty darn good road to follow. If people like you already then that's cool get a few drinks in you not to the point you are drunk but enough to feel a little bit looser. You don't even have to drink go to places that are fun, like the bar or a restaurant even a get together with a BBQ.
2006-09-03 21:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got married at 16 BUT YOU HAD TO STOP drinking, partying, acting wild, and going out...... What age did you start all that?
For someone that was doing all that to start with, I don't see why you would have a problem striking up a friendship now. With anyone.
Make some friends but to keep your "happy" home, keep your friends to a limit. Staying home with your children is the most awesome thing in the world.
I don't think you are scared, you just want someone to tell you it is alright to want to do this. It is not alright.....
2006-09-04 04:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mary D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww. Well you cant start off by not feeling sorry for yourself. Alot of people have lost track of their social lives. Heck, so have I but that dosnt mean its ever too late to get back into the game so to speak. Just be yourself, relax and have fun and hope that people will like you for who you are. In terms of conversation, I find that its always helpful to ask questions or compliment someone as a ice breaker. The hardest part is always initially breaking the ice. After that, its mostly smooth sailing. Just show interest in what they are saying and continue to ask questions and the conversation will continue to flow. Relaaaxxx....no one is forcing you to be exeptionally outgoing. All I want is for you to just try and have a good time with others. Hope this helps. Bye babe!
2006-09-04 04:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by one_of_a_kind_person 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sell cars for a living and thank God I have never been cursed with your problem. But in the car business when we have a new sales person we have them practice scenario's. That is what you should. And you can enlist your husband or your best friend to help you. So just act like your at a party and have one of them ask you question. After enough practice this will seem like second nature to you. But most importantly you have to remember to HAVE A GREAT TIME. And good luck
2006-09-04 04:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by chevy_gal73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be more confident, don't do things like put your hands in your pockets or cross your arms over your chest. even if you say hello to someone, say it with a strong voice. having a confident air around you helps to get things rolling. and if you're having a conversation that you want to keep going, if you're thinking something in your head, just say it. whether it's important or not or just a comment. they can eventually lead to better conversations.
and also, try asking questions in the afternoon (more people are on during this time). you will get a lot more answers.
2006-09-04 04:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by ~Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a drink or two, dont get drunk just loosin up a bit. Im the same way I cant seem to open up let people know the real me I just need a boost, 2 beers does it for me, Im not drunk doing stupid stuff, Im just social and I make lots of friends everywhere i go
2006-09-04 04:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out there and let the nightlife get ahold of you. try small gatherings then move on to the big parties and stuff. you were not shy before you got married, why the big change now?
2006-09-04 03:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking i been in some what like your situation. i would said that be yourself and belive in yourself too. other thing is try to go out same nice place that you can go out with your kids. like going to the zoo, park, and etc.
the best the answer i can give
2006-09-04 04:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would try to invent a machine to go back in time and change things. I know Steve Erkel was able to do it, why can't you.
2006-09-04 03:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, this in in the music section so.....
I'm thinking "There's a tear in my beer."
If not, that song it has to be something C&W
There's a country and western song in that sorry story somewhere!
2006-09-04 04:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋