ive been dating my boyfriend for a little over seven months. we're both in high school, both virgins. i love this boy. not in the dumb high school love, but the kind of love where i can see myself having babies with him, and wiping his butt when hes too old to do it himself. i really think im ready to go all the way with him. im nervous to get pregnant. nervous that my parents will find out. nervous that itll ruin our relationship. but the need is so strong, i dont really know what to do now. i dont want our relationship to turn into something thats all about sex. i dont know. i need help.
2006-09-03 20:13:51 · 20 answers · asked by sarah b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
just play it slow you are genuine in your feelings.
2006-09-03 20:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're nervous about getting pregnant tell your mom you get horrible cramps and all your friends told you to get the pill to fell better (cuz it does). As long as the first time you go to that doc you're still a virgin you don't have to worry about it and every other time you have to come back just ask your mom for privacy because you have "personal questions" that way she wont know, and as long as you don't get caught both parents wont know.
Now about the relationship if you don't know this for sure, you should NOT do "it." If you don't know how solid your relationship is then you really are not at that point yet. The "need" may be strong but to the tell you the truth that will not be the last time you have that feeling and he might not be the last man to cause it either. So the "need" is a great thing that is what will make you feel good/special but only for a little while ... make sure you know what you have before trying to turn it into something else*
2006-09-08 01:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by seala_87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there you have found a great thing thats really difficult thing to find true love .......so whats the rush you are still learning about each other and if you are staying together for ever then the sex bit will happen when it is right for both of you ,but do youre self a favour go and get proper protection and dont use the cross youre fingers method and hope you dont fall pregrent !!look after each other and learn about each other have a great time together XX
2006-09-04 03:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait! A sexual relationship now will not solidify your loving relationship. It may end it quickly. So both of you keep your virginity until you marry. You'll both appreciate the trust and commitment throughout your married life. There are other activities for you and him to release your sexual tension. Take advantage of these activities. If you don't know what they are, ask your mom or some other trusted adult. You don't want to get pregnant at your young age!
2006-09-04 03:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is go to school, get an education, go to college, get a good job, get your own house, car and be financially stable before hopping in bed with this boy and make babies. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you...one day you will look back and be with someone else and not this boy. You just think you are in love when in reality you are not. Live life.
2006-09-04 03:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are serious... take a few steps back... plan your future together... College... how you will live... what you will pursue as a career... where in life do you want to windup after college... Discuss where you both would like to live... Focus on the future and give your hormones a break... You don't need to rush into anything... or prove anything... Learn all you can about each other...
2006-09-04 06:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. I totally understand where you're coming from. Just to be safe, I think you should wait until you both are in college to have a baby. In high school, if you get pregnant, it will ruin your life, because high school is what's important to be in college. if u were 2 get preg in college, it wouldn't be as big of a deal because you can live in your own apartment.
2006-09-04 03:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is an expression of love! only you will no when you are ready, if your affraid that ur relationship will change try talking to ur bf about it wen u r ready u will no. you can go to the doctor and get on the pill tales 2-3 month 2 start woking and use condoms,
2006-09-04 03:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by babys_girl88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in high school..how do u know it's not dumb high school love?Have u ever wiped an old man's butt?Well, I was a mother at 14 years old and I say don't do it, but if you must...just..licky,licky, nobody will know and you only want a relationship with someone who knows, where the spot is...licky, licky...save it...like a lifesaver, sunshine, lick it up...
2006-09-04 05:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by melanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, get on some sort of birth control and hold back those urges until you do. Even with birth control use a condom. Your mother doesn't even have to know that you are on birth control if you obtain it at the county health department. The important thing to remember is that sex does not have to control a relationship, you and your partner do.
2006-09-04 03:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Diana C 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea to have sex now. If you truly love each other, you can wait until you get married. That shows commitment by both of you, and it will feel better.
2006-09-04 04:32:54 · answer #11 · answered by Kenneth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋