i,ve been with husband since i was 13 yrs old.Hes alot older than i am.We are married with two kids now.He is very old fashion,controlling and never see his faults.I am a stay at home mom,with no friends and have to answer to him every move i make.Being married to him is so boring and i feel like i can't do this no more,sometimes i feel like i stay because of pitty,but most of all i think of my kids.My first child make it so hard for me to leave,because hes close to his father.I am tired of being his slave,he don't make time for me,works all the time,and the little time he has he spent it with his friends when he can be home with his family.Most of the time when hes home early from work,hes always tired.i am distancing myself from him,and looking for attention from another man,can someone please give me some advise,being a young mother and a house with no one to talk to?Thank you very much to all who share there knowledge with me.
2006-09-03 20:09:20 · 7 answers · asked by lovegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seriously. Get out, get a life, your kids deserve better and so do you. Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Do you want to wait till he is dead and you are too old to meet someone new?
Get out and Live, I know you will be happy, I did and never looked back
2006-09-03 20:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are married to a real control freak. He likes keeping you hidden away at home with no friends or nobody to talk to. That way you won't find out how the rest of the world lives. Don't put up with that crap. And don't get involved with another man before getting divorced. That could cause you real problems on down the road. And, don't feel sorry for him. He just wants it all without giving anything. As far as your children go, they will pick up on all your stress and unhappiness and it will affect them. They say now not to stay for the kids because they aren't happy if you aren't. If you love him and think your marriage is worth saving, sit him down and talk to him and tell him how you feel. Insist that ya'll go to marriage counseling. If he's not willing to change any to make you happy, why bother with him. And I'm sure he won't want to go to counseling because he knows exactly what the counselor will say. Stand up for yourself girl, this is your life. If he's not willing to change you will never be happy. And being happy is what life is all about. Good luck to you.
2006-09-04 03:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pack, some stuff for you and your kids, and move out.
Your kids will do just fine, without your husband, your kids will know you did the right thing, for them and yourself.
You'll see, that a new world, is just out that door that's keeping you locked up. Seek for help, and you will do just fine. You might want to start, using your computer to get things going. Good Luck...One day your kids, will say( wow, mom is happy now that we left dad.. she knows how smile... :).
2006-09-04 08:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by meatball288001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear your frustration. I left my husband when I was 24 and my babies were very young. If I can do it anyone can. I never looked back and don't regret leaving him as he deserved it, just like your does.
Be strong, brave and courageous, don't dig yourself into a pit whereby you'll be miserable for ever.
My babies are now 24 and 20. They are both qualified and educated - do yourself and your children a favor - leave him honey.
2006-09-04 03:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by cheeky_beth_62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband to go get some counseling with you to work things out. You can't live that way.
2006-09-04 03:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you lose if you left him......NOTHING...He is never there.. You deserve better and so do your children
2006-09-04 03:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie_in_Gold 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have .2, choices stay or leave and get a life either way you have to choose. my opion?
2006-09-04 03:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn! thas a lot of writing u got there. to tell u the truth i didnt even read it. im just writing cuz i wanna get my level up!
2006-09-04 03:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by J. M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋